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| 75 | We are taught that a woman's love is natural, and a man's love is validating. Do not for a second live by this lie.Needed this 💐💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 01:45 AM |
| 260 | This example is pick-me nonsense. Stop faking it ladies. There is no such thing as “taking too long”. Men expect orgasms regularly, why can’t we? If you had fun, but didn’t get to climax - you can still tell him you didn’t finish, had a good time & would appreciate him doing more in figuring it out.Fact ^ we don’t need to coddle them. They gotta learn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 11:55 PM |
| 371 | This example is pick-me nonsense. Stop faking it ladies. There is no such thing as “taking too long”. Men expect orgasms regularly, why can’t we? If you had fun, but didn’t get to climax - you can still tell him you didn’t finish, had a good time & would appreciate him doing more in figuring it out.To male lurkers: Remember PIV should not need to be considered the main event. Simultaneous orgasms are rare. Make sure she finishes or feels loved too. Ladies. You don’t have to put up with incompetence or lack of care. You don’t have to be okay with him not doing his best in making you cum. It’s enough reason to leave him. Men want women to suck their dick until they cum, but won’t eat pussy until we orgasm ? I say no. Stop sleeping with low value scrotes, HVM love to please and care more abou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 11:50 PM |
| 79 | Escort only moaned because he paid her. Hope he gets the therapy he needs, but I rly hope his wife will leave his toxic ass too. Many comments are advising him on how to hide his fucked up secret or justifying his infidelity & saying the marriage can be saved. Received ‘the wholesome award’? Wtfif your gf is too much, go find less. 🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 08:16 PM |
| 242 | Escort only moaned because he paid her. Hope he gets the therapy he needs, but I rly hope his wife will leave his toxic ass too. Many comments are advising him on how to hide his fucked up secret or justifying his infidelity & saying the marriage can be saved. Received ‘the wholesome award’? WtfHe seriously said “found a provider” for his needs when describing going to a prostitute, that tells me everything I need to know about how low value this man is. Also porn is cheating if she doesn’t feel okay with it. He could have “taken care of his needs” without it. He decided since he couldn’t watch his precious porn any more to make shit even worse by paying to cheat / to exploit a prostitute? Sex normally ends in crying with his wife? I wonder why? Maybe because he’s a piece of shit. Edit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 05:54 PM |
| 98 | Update on my most recent post. Digging into OP’s comment history only confirmed to me what I already thought; he isn’t a good partner to her & she deserves better. I seriously doubt she doesn’t fake cum with him because she sounds v turned off. He asked some1 what a clitoris is. Is this April fools?I appreciate this response sis, thank you for reminding me not to engage with people who don’t add value to my life and I’m sorry I gave into wanting to come back at someone whose opinion shouldn’t matter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 06:19 AM |
| 291 | Update on my most recent post. Digging into OP’s comment history only confirmed to me what I already thought; he isn’t a good partner to her & she deserves better. I seriously doubt she doesn’t fake cum with him because she sounds v turned off. He asked some1 what a clitoris is. Is this April fools?The projection is heavy. “Post involuntary spinsters”. The reason FDS was created is because lvm don’t know how to leave women the fuck alone. Funny how HVM I know are never salty about our vetting because they actually respect women having standards. Also it was a woman who decided to tell OOP I posted here. I wonder do pick-mes lurk just to cater to males who don’t know how to have good sex? I also don’t think weight shaming is ever nice, however OOP is a hypocrite for wanting the ‘perfect’ wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 05:10 AM |
| 91 | I have a feeling there’s more to the story than what was said here. I also have a feeling the wife rarely ever gets an orgasm from her porn-sick husband. Why did you marry her if you thought she was too vanilla? Because you had a Madonna/whore complex and now you’re playing the victim in bed?I’m with you sis 🙌 & hehe thank u 😹🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 09:14 PM |
| 108 | I have a feeling there’s more to the story than what was said here. I also have a feeling the wife rarely ever gets an orgasm from her porn-sick husband. Why did you marry her if you thought she was too vanilla? Because you had a Madonna/whore complex and now you’re playing the victim in bed?She needs to run far away. 🏃♀️ because he might need to be locked up tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 09:02 PM |
| 282 | I have a feeling there’s more to the story than what was said here. I also have a feeling the wife rarely ever gets an orgasm from her porn-sick husband. Why did you marry her if you thought she was too vanilla? Because you had a Madonna/whore complex and now you’re playing the victim in bed?💯 honestly he’s so focused on his own pleasure and is oblivious to the fact she probably feels unfulfilled and stuck with his creepy mediocre ass dick too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 08:58 PM |
| 267 | I have a feeling there’s more to the story than what was said here. I also have a feeling the wife rarely ever gets an orgasm from her porn-sick husband. Why did you marry her if you thought she was too vanilla? Because you had a Madonna/whore complex and now you’re playing the victim in bed?Then they turn around and say “women are crazy LOL” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 08:52 PM |
| 171 | I have a feeling there’s more to the story than what was said here. I also have a feeling the wife rarely ever gets an orgasm from her porn-sick husband. Why did you marry her if you thought she was too vanilla? Because you had a Madonna/whore complex and now you’re playing the victim in bed?^ 💯 He’s probably getting so many tips on negging and emotional abusing his wife until she gives him what he wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 08:46 PM |
| 85 | I have a feeling there’s more to the story than what was said here. I also have a feeling the wife rarely ever gets an orgasm from her porn-sick husband. Why did you marry her if you thought she was too vanilla? Because you had a Madonna/whore complex and now you’re playing the victim in bed?💔 let’s hope sis escapes this scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 08:40 PM |
| 707 | I have a feeling there’s more to the story than what was said here. I also have a feeling the wife rarely ever gets an orgasm from her porn-sick husband. Why did you marry her if you thought she was too vanilla? Because you had a Madonna/whore complex and now you’re playing the victim in bed?A red flag for me is men who treat sex as more of a performance / doing something TO a woman instead of an experience / doing something intimate WITH a woman. Why does this man have to pretend he’s cheating on his wife with his wife to get hard? I’m so ??? 😬 Edit: eventually he will cheat (if he hasn’t already, which I wouldn’t be surprised by) because even pretending to cheat won’t compare to the real thing for his sick mind. Edit 2: OOP messaged me super offended because he couldn’t comment or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 08:31 PM |
| 166 | TW for sexual abuse survivors. Disgusting scrotes use prostitutes to act out their incestuous nightmare. Pick-me women who enable predator kinks are also a danger to all women and children. Mass grooming has only gotten more accessible with the internet . I first came across violent porn at age 6. 💔& to be clear, when I say first came cross - I don’t mean first orgasm. From a young age, I would see pop ups of porn on my dad’s computer at times and was such a lost child. It’s sad when I realize it subconsciously told me this was what sex was supposed to be like, leading to more sexual trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 10:43 PM |
| 80 | “Many women, I think, resist feminism because it is an agony to be fully conscious of the brutal misogyny which permeates culture, society, and all personal relationships.” • Andrea Dworkin, Our Blood: Prophecies and Discourses on Sexual Politics 🤍👩🏻🤝👩🏾I feel you sis. I think it’s not mutually exclusive to me. It’s agonizingly freeing to learn the reality of how our world works 💔🤍 we want to believe we live in an even playing field with men, but it only hurts us more to deny oppression. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 02:02 AM |
| 163 | queen sh*tThis guy is giving Drake, 1-800-Hotline Bling type of energy 😭😂🤣 cannot handle a woman not being bothered by his absence. 💜 keep shining sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 10:15 PM |
| 176 | I don’t think what Will did was the best course of action or way to defend Jada. However I’m disturbed by the amount of people who antagonize her as a cheater; considering both of them agreed on an open marriage and have admitted they both have seen other people. They only praise woman who ‘stay’.I just can’t help but think about how lvm will call a woman who stays when being cheated on a “ride or die” and put her on a pedestal. Then turn around and call a man who is in a mutually open marriage with his wife a ‘,cuck’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 08:42 PM |
| 64 | I don’t think what Will did was the best course of action or way to defend Jada. However I’m disturbed by the amount of people who antagonize her as a cheater; considering both of them agreed on an open marriage and have admitted they both have seen other people. They only praise woman who ‘stay’.The blatant hypocrisy is wild 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 08:21 PM |
| 92 | I don’t think what Will did was the best course of action or way to defend Jada. However I’m disturbed by the amount of people who antagonize her as a cheater; considering both of them agreed on an open marriage and have admitted they both have seen other people. They only praise woman who ‘stay’.I truly don’t think most or any of the men who slander Jada with slurs, would ever do the same to a man who had multiple women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 08:06 PM |
| 41 | My 3 Year Old Son's bus driver this morning was disgustingly inappropriate with me . .I’m truly sorry for this disturbing experience sis. Women can’t even seem to mother their children without being harassed 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 03:29 PM |
| 69 | Where do men go to find the audacity? What kind of good man is this? Is this the standard? Because if so, then sorry to this man. 33 and childish with his priorities out of order. What an embarrassment. Feel sorry for that baby.🥶🤭🤢🤮🤐😷🤒🤕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 03:15 PM |
| 170 | Jesus Christ, is she in the Pick-Me Olympics? Did not see 1 tiktok encouraging men 2 give their woman oral sex. Her feed is just pandering to male pleasure constantly. Women get enough pressure from porn fried society to give head. It’s men who need a reminder to eat a woman out and make her orgasm.Damn for real? I’m saddened by how manipulative her tiktok is. I wasn’t sure if she was a SW cosplaying or a nurse who is a SW spreading false information on the side. Regardless it’s fucked up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 02:46 AM |
| 140 | Jesus Christ, is she in the Pick-Me Olympics? Did not see 1 tiktok encouraging men 2 give their woman oral sex. Her feed is just pandering to male pleasure constantly. Women get enough pressure from porn fried society to give head. It’s men who need a reminder to eat a woman out and make her orgasm.I swear 😭 I hate the way she’s sexualizing a medical profession this much. It does no favor for the other nurses who get objectified by men from it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 01:53 AM |
| 14 | Recently married. Thanks FDS.I’m incredibly happy for you 💜 FDS helps us only get into or stay in marriages we won’t regret. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 11:09 PM |
| 2 | Be careful ladies and especially young women💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 03:37 PM |
| 39 | What do you think about seemingly HVM doing psychedelic drugs occasionally?Yes, that is why I mentioned developing a mental addiction would be the issue instead of a physical one like with a heavy drug such as meth. If someone thinks they NEED the weed or lsd to survive, I’d be more concerned. If it’s occasional use that doesn’t interfere with day to day life, I think it’s less harmful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 03:34 PM |
| 8 | What if you want to hook up/have casual sex?I honestly do not think hook up culture is worth it from experience. If you do engage in it though, try your best to still vet for respect. Make sure to use protection and birth control. Do not have sex with him if he won’t prove to you that he truly cares about your orgasm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 11:25 AM |
| 2 | Can we talk about how aggressively men get off on cheating, getting caught, and NOT getting broken up with immediately? Their egos are astronomical at this point.I in no way mean to minimize it. I only say he “caught a rape case” because I felt my point stands regardless of him being guilty of rape. I’ve been raped multiple times so I’m very sensitive to these topics. I’ve read up on it and think he’s likely guilty as well, I hate the way she was treated in the media. The reason why I used that phrasing was because men always try to say it was consensual due to the case being settled, so it was somehow more okay for him to cheat on his wife. Even if he w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 07:58 AM |
| 244 | What do you think about seemingly HVM doing psychedelic drugs occasionally?I think as long as it is in moderation and done safely, weed and lsd are not that bad. It’s not a physically addictive drug like crack, meth, cocaine, or heroin - which I am highly against due to the irreversible brain damage & severe harm it does to people’s lives. The problem would be if they have a mental addiction to psychedelics. I’ve experimented with lsd and weed, I’m still put together well and productive. I don’t let it interfere with daily life or my responsibilities. Weed has helped m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 07:38 AM |
| 59 | I was 7 years old when “The Pursuit of Happyness” came out. Granted it was a beautiful film, I didn’t realize how much of it was fabricated. “King Richard” is not the first Will Smith movie he’s starred in where the character he plays was not so inspiring in real life. I wish more people knew.Mm I found it fascinating too and it reminded me of the times we’ve seen on FDS how some men tend to embellish their stories to make themselves the victim, when at times they mistreated the women they portray to be “heartless”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 07:20 AM |
| 76 | I was 7 years old when “The Pursuit of Happyness” came out. Granted it was a beautiful film, I didn’t realize how much of it was fabricated. “King Richard” is not the first Will Smith movie he’s starred in where the character he plays was not so inspiring in real life. I wish more people knew.I’m sorry, I had to delete and repost since I forgot the important 3rd slide that highlighted low value behavior when he cheated on his first wife (Sherry) after her miscarriage 💔. The narrative in the 2006 film seriously had a lot of men talking shit about Chris Gardner’s wife/gf being selfish for not staying with him during his unpaid internship. Men blamed her and made her out to be a heartless b*tch just for not believing in him. What the movie fails to address is how fucking stressful mothe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 06:53 AM |
| 67 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?Sis I am so sorry. I’m Asian, but I see the bs Black women deal with daily and it’s wrong asf. Y’all have all my support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 05:46 AM |
| 90 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?💯 I was not aware of the misogynoir, now I’m glad too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 05:35 AM |
| 74 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?I feel a bit split on it. I can understand why he felt the need to do it since I heard Jada has a medical condition that is hair related. I think the joke hit deeper than Chris Rock knew it would and Will felt the need to step in, which I admire. However, I agree that aggression isn’t the healthiest reaction and it could have perhaps been done in a more classy way. Will and Jada having an open marriage is not ideal by any means in my opinion, however I am happy that he has her back. I notice peo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 04:25 AM |
| 12 | Do not be jealous of the new girl… abusers do not change. Even if they somewhat “get better”, you deserve more than whatever half baked fuckboy shit this ex-douchebag has to offer you. Leave him in the past sisters, pray for the women who encounter him, and thrive. We are worth more than we know. 💞I’m so sorry for the trauma he has caused, you truly do deserve better. You are human though and your pain is entirely valid. We are here for you sis 🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 01:57 PM |
| 130 | Know your worth ladies! Don’t offer to pay for a first date you were invited to attend. And never offer to drive a stranger home. Boy, bye.Eww. He seriously thinks he did something when he typed those petty emojis. HE IS a turn off. HV dates I’ve had were with men who were happy to treat me and would be offended if I offered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 09:08 AM |
| 56 | This is what it's like in a HV relationship. 💖Never settle for less 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Brooklyn 99Damn you’re not wrong not that I think about it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 01:34 AM |
| 41 | Can we talk about how aggressively men get off on cheating, getting caught, and NOT getting broken up with immediately? Their egos are astronomical at this point.True ^ hence why so many men made jokes about his apology ring. Being cheated on is terrible no matter what, but at least she was provided for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 09:52 PM |
| 69 | Can we talk about how aggressively men get off on cheating, getting caught, and NOT getting broken up with immediately? Their egos are astronomical at this point.I’m sorry if I’m out of line to mention him as I know he passed away tragically with his innocent daughter. May the victims of that tragedy Rest In Peace. However this does remind me of Kobe and Vanessa Bryant… He cheated on her in 2003; he caught a rape case and settled it outside of court. Vanessa stayed with him. Did that make Kobe love her or respect her more? He gave her a shiny new ring, but he also continued to cheat on her with over 105 women… https://www.ibtimes.com/kobe-bryant-divorce-… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 09:29 PM |
| 38 | Let’s compare the meanest thing a woman has *ever* said to one of the tamer things a man has said to me. (Trigger warning)The disparity in cruelty speaks volumes. 💔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Made a mistake and fell backwards. Devastated and need help with feeling grounded back into the real world. “If he wanted to, he would.” has never hurt so bad.I appreciate your response 🥺💜 made my night a lot better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 06:43 AM |
| 45 | Major trigger warning. This is what pro kink / pro sex work activists are advocating for. They always rant about women having bodily autonomy & making their own choices, but does it look like the people who engage deeply in kink are mentally healthy? I’m sorry, but this mentality is psychotic.I’m so sorry to hear of the abuse. Although I do feel a bit of comfort to know you’re there for her trying to guide her. 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 06:27 AM |
| 262 | I couldn’t find the original source of this text unfortunately, however I felt like this has to be shared. I was groomed into ddlg as a minor & am still unlearning the collective gaslighting from the kink community. Daddy dom/little girl or caregiver/little is not harmless. It glorifies pedophelia.I’m sorry I’ve over posted lately as my adhd has my mind racing, I shall calm down. There are shitty men out here being called ‘daddy’ when they don’t even provide or protect. Their undeserving egos are literally getting stroked despite barely or not ever giving their female partner an orgasm. Even if he does objectively “take good care of” her outside of bed, it doesn’t make that sexual dynamic healthy. Just because some ‘dom” may not act on real pedophelic urges, does not mean it won’t still i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 05:54 AM |
| 142 | And she’s right. Does he think he’s the first man to quit his job to avoid paying CS?I’m interested in the tea too. I remember at one point he was referred to as a heart throb who stood up for the Black community, but didn’t he cheat on his Black wife? https://www.oprahdaily.com/entertainment/a27467131/jesse-williams-ex-wife-aryn-drake-lee-divorce/ It seems like sis is flourishing without him at least. She deserves a faithful man whose eyes do not wander. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 05:17 AM |
| 26 | I cringe. Why are women not allowed to care about the way a man present themselves? Why does he act like men don’t treat women they find unattractive like shit all the time? Also women are not that simple minded, a good looking scrote is still low value. Being HV is not based on mere looks & income.CRYING 😭 😂🤣😂💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 03:03 AM |
| 57 | Major trigger warning. This is what pro kink / pro sex work activists are advocating for. They always rant about women having bodily autonomy & making their own choices, but does it look like the people who engage deeply in kink are mentally healthy? I’m sorry, but this mentality is psychotic.You’re so wholesome and have great insight, thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 02:30 AM |
| 41 | Major trigger warning. This is what pro kink / pro sex work activists are advocating for. They always rant about women having bodily autonomy & making their own choices, but does it look like the people who engage deeply in kink are mentally healthy? I’m sorry, but this mentality is psychotic.I completely relate because I was on a path of hyper sexuality and kink until I found FDS too. I’m sorry for all you’ve been through. I’m so happy we no longer associate our dehumanization with being loved. Sending you hugs💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 02:28 AM |
| 134 | Major trigger warning. This is what pro kink / pro sex work activists are advocating for. They always rant about women having bodily autonomy & making their own choices, but does it look like the people who engage deeply in kink are mentally healthy? I’m sorry, but this mentality is psychotic.Take my poor gold for this comment sis because 🔥🙌🏅🏅🏅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 02:22 AM |
| 68 | I cringe. Why are women not allowed to care about the way a man present themselves? Why does he act like men don’t treat women they find unattractive like shit all the time? Also women are not that simple minded, a good looking scrote is still low value. Being HV is not based on mere looks & income.LMFAOOOOOOO DEADASS WHEN I READ THAT PART, I WAS LIKE HOL UP. PAUSE???!! WTF DO THEY THINK WE DO? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 02:10 AM |
| 130 | Major trigger warning. This is what pro kink / pro sex work activists are advocating for. They always rant about women having bodily autonomy & making their own choices, but does it look like the people who engage deeply in kink are mentally healthy? I’m sorry, but this mentality is psychotic.The scary thing is how unsettling this is whether it be a sick male fantasy or a misguided victim who wants to victimize others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 02:07 AM |
| 76 | Major trigger warning. This is what pro kink / pro sex work activists are advocating for. They always rant about women having bodily autonomy & making their own choices, but does it look like the people who engage deeply in kink are mentally healthy? I’m sorry, but this mentality is psychotic.I hope it is tbh, because if it’s real - it’s so much worse. Either way though, it’s creepy and I don’t know how people can keep defending kink like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 01:23 AM |
| 316 | Major trigger warning. This is what pro kink / pro sex work activists are advocating for. They always rant about women having bodily autonomy & making their own choices, but does it look like the people who engage deeply in kink are mentally healthy? I’m sorry, but this mentality is psychotic.I really want this to be fake, but on the off chance it’s a woman who really has gone off the deep end; She’s just constantly reliving her trauma and now she promotes the traumatization of other women. Just because it’s a ‘cope’ doesn’t mean it really helps… I think that’s where a lot of the former victims of sexual assault get it wrong when they get into bdsm, we hear about how it can “be healing”, but most of the time it’s just further damaging our psyche. Honestly if this is real; I’m incredi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 01:19 AM |
| 128 | I cringe. Why are women not allowed to care about the way a man present themselves? Why does he act like men don’t treat women they find unattractive like shit all the time? Also women are not that simple minded, a good looking scrote is still low value. Being HV is not based on mere looks & income.It’s honestly frightening the way some of them follow or harass us for not smiling when they ask us to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 08:07 PM |
| 427 | I cringe. Why are women not allowed to care about the way a man present themselves? Why does he act like men don’t treat women they find unattractive like shit all the time? Also women are not that simple minded, a good looking scrote is still low value. Being HV is not based on mere looks & income.I think we should treat everybody with respect as long as they respect us. The problem with incels and red pillers is their entitlement to women who deserve to have their own preferences and make their own choices. Is it so difficult to understand women can treat you like a human being without feeling attracted to you, but the instant you behave like you’re entitled to her body for being a “nice guy” - you lose her respect because you’ve clearly shown none for her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 06:41 PM |
| 88 | Although I am not a Black woman, I am an Asian woman who can relate to the way intra-racial violence is often ignored or pushed back when it comes 2 awareness & protection. I see some men of color comprehend racism, but gaslight women about misogyny in our own communities. Intersectionality matters.Intraracial crime is crime in which the victim and the offender are of the same race. It is most applicable in the context of heterogeneous societies, that is, in societies, such as the United States, where the potential victim pool is composed of more than one racial group. A little over half of violent victimizations in the U.S. from 2012 to 2015 were intraracial, meaning victims and offenders were the same race or both were of Hispanic origin, the U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics reported. V… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 04:20 PM |
| 57 | Although I am not a Black woman, I am an Asian woman who can relate to the way intra-racial violence is often ignored or pushed back when it comes 2 awareness & protection. I see some men of color comprehend racism, but gaslight women about misogyny in our own communities. Intersectionality matters.Me too 😔💔 thankful she went off though with points that needed to be made. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 03:47 PM |
| 53 | "Men are visual creatures"CRYING AT WHAT THIS THREAD BECAME 😂🤣🙌😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 01:37 AM |
| 52 | Solid breakdown of the Madonna Whore Complex. HVM don’t separate women into categories for sexual use or for true love. They respect us as individuals & they are able to connect their sexual desire 2 the woman they choose 2 commit to and cherish. LVM label us and hate both women in different ways.I’m with you there. There are good men out there who genuinely just do not enjoy inflicting violence upon women at all. As long as he doesn’t secretly desire to degrade other women in bed, it doesn’t mean he has this complex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 01:13 AM |
| 144 | "Men are visual creatures"Imagine how boring and ugly this world would be without women being the main ones decorating / home making. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 01:10 AM |
| 38 | Solid breakdown of the Madonna Whore Complex. HVM don’t separate women into categories for sexual use or for true love. They respect us as individuals & they are able to connect their sexual desire 2 the woman they choose 2 commit to and cherish. LVM label us and hate both women in different ways.^ They shamelessly traumatize multiple women in cycles and don’t care about any one else’s well being long term. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 01:04 AM |
| 35 | Solid breakdown of the Madonna Whore Complex. HVM don’t separate women into categories for sexual use or for true love. They respect us as individuals & they are able to connect their sexual desire 2 the woman they choose 2 commit to and cherish. LVM label us and hate both women in different ways.True!! I think healthy HVM do not want to abuse any woman in bed, whether they love her or not. I agree just because a man isn’t into BDSM doesn’t mean he suffers from the Madonna/Whore complex. He definitely has the complex though if he’s willing to do bdsm with a woman he considers the ‘whore’, yet cannot fathom doing the same to the woman he loves. Ideally I want a faithful man who doesn’t take pleasure in harming women whatsoever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 12:56 AM |
| 145 | "Men are visual creatures"From now on; whenever a man says “men are visual creatures” as an excuse to be sleezy, I shall link him to this study. Bless you for posting, LMFAOOO ❤️🧡🧡💛💙💜🤍🤎💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 12:36 AM |
| 45 | Solid breakdown of the Madonna Whore Complex. HVM don’t separate women into categories for sexual use or for true love. They respect us as individuals & they are able to connect their sexual desire 2 the woman they choose 2 commit to and cherish. LVM label us and hate both women in different ways.Amen sis. I swear these men are the worst hypocrites. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 12:26 AM |
| 74 | Solid breakdown of the Madonna Whore Complex. HVM don’t separate women into categories for sexual use or for true love. They respect us as individuals & they are able to connect their sexual desire 2 the woman they choose 2 commit to and cherish. LVM label us and hate both women in different ways.“Men with the Madonna Whore complex cannot equate loving someone and desiring them for a relationship with sexual desire. Because they equate sexual desire to disrespect. That’s what it really comes down to. Men don’t equate sex and sexual desire to respect and consent. They reserve their sexual desire for women they inherently disrespect and do not like… so they can treat her however they want to fucking treat her. So when they date a woman that’s a ‘wifey type’, they don’t really sexually desi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 11:51 PM |
| 446 | Ofc he blames it on her and not himselfThe age gap alone makes me worry and question their dynamic. I’m heartbroken it’s so common for women to blame themselves for naturally going through bodily changes postpartum or as they age. I swear every ungrateful husband who negs their wife look far less attractive than their wife. Even if not, I’m sad at the pressure she feels to look a very specific way for someone so mean and low value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 11:09 PM |
| 17 | Reading reviews for “Secrets of Playboy” is depressingly sobering for me. It’s a reminder that although some of society is on our side, so many lvm & pick-me’s still exist to victim blame/gaslight/further perpetuate the patriarchy. Why are evil dead men exempt from criticism? Hugh can burn in Hell.Especially when they weren’t allowed to save since they were being financially abused. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 05:21 PM |
| 14 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’.I like to describe myself as hyper feminine as well sis and wish men didn’t assume we weren’t intelligent for it. 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 04:51 PM |
| 18 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’.I can definitely identify with the “girly” aspect of it and being made fun of. Good to hear that she tells girls not to let men treat them poorly, but I think some men “treating us well” only because they think we’re stupid is really harmful. I also think we deserve to be treated well without dimming our light or embracing a term that is inherently misogynistic. I’d rather embrace the word, “girly” and “glittery”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 04:46 PM |
| 231 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’.men get power, women get “empowerment” ^ ❤️🩹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:30 PM |
| 47 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’.Preach sis 🙌🏅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:13 PM |
| 12 | Reading reviews for “Secrets of Playboy” is depressingly sobering for me. It’s a reminder that although some of society is on our side, so many lvm & pick-me’s still exist to victim blame/gaslight/further perpetuate the patriarchy. Why are evil dead men exempt from criticism? Hugh can burn in Hell.🤣😂🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:45 PM |
| 52 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’.💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:23 PM |
| 214 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’.I don’t get it honestly. But I do know a HVM would not want to call any woman bimbo in the first place , whether she is ‘feminine’ or not, because they respect women as a class too much. I also think it’s unfair to compare reclaiming ‘neurodivergent’ to reclaiming an inherently sexist/derogatory word like bimbo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 12:41 PM |
| 198 | I don’t even know what to say 🤦🏼♀️Another moment where all I can say is. Oh honey… 😭 if he wanted to, he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 06:38 AM |
| 118 | Reading reviews for “Secrets of Playboy” is depressingly sobering for me. It’s a reminder that although some of society is on our side, so many lvm & pick-me’s still exist to victim blame/gaslight/further perpetuate the patriarchy. Why are evil dead men exempt from criticism? Hugh can burn in Hell.To be honest, I feel like the first disgusting reviewer ‘ex-player’ is just a musty male misogynist/incel cosplaying as a woman to act like their opinion or review is more legitimate. The way they referred to ‘millennial females’ in such a hateful way has me 🥲? If it is a real woman, she’s the definition of internalized misogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 05:27 AM |
| 124 | Has any1 else noticed the Playboy label being plastered all over “trendy” clothing brands… it makes me so uncomfortable this is being marketed in an already porn saturated generation. Both PacSun and Urban Outfitters proudly promote these products despite historical misogyny. It gives me the ‘ick’.Lord, I bet her mom thinks she’s being a “cool mom” even though it’s enabling something much worse long term 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 08:24 PM |
| 80 | Has any1 else noticed the Playboy label being plastered all over “trendy” clothing brands… it makes me so uncomfortable this is being marketed in an already porn saturated generation. Both PacSun and Urban Outfitters proudly promote these products despite historical misogyny. It gives me the ‘ick’.Watch lvm and pick-mes claim it’s “harmless” to generations growing up 🤧 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 08:14 PM |
| 69 | Has any1 else noticed the Playboy label being plastered all over “trendy” clothing brands… it makes me so uncomfortable this is being marketed in an already porn saturated generation. Both PacSun and Urban Outfitters proudly promote these products despite historical misogyny. It gives me the ‘ick’.It really isn’t our young selves’ faults for falling into traps like this 😔. Society collectively grooms young girls and women to think males objectifying us should be glamorized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 08:13 PM |
| 122 | Has any1 else noticed the Playboy label being plastered all over “trendy” clothing brands… it makes me so uncomfortable this is being marketed in an already porn saturated generation. Both PacSun and Urban Outfitters proudly promote these products despite historical misogyny. It gives me the ‘ick’.It seems like a desperate attempt at rebranding to try and make people forget about what a demon Hugh was and this industry still is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 08:08 PM |
| 37 | Has any1 else noticed the Playboy label being plastered all over “trendy” clothing brands… it makes me so uncomfortable this is being marketed in an already porn saturated generation. Both PacSun and Urban Outfitters proudly promote these products despite historical misogyny. It gives me the ‘ick’.I remember these too 😭 sigh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:57 PM |
| 104 | Has any1 else noticed the Playboy label being plastered all over “trendy” clothing brands… it makes me so uncomfortable this is being marketed in an already porn saturated generation. Both PacSun and Urban Outfitters proudly promote these products despite historical misogyny. It gives me the ‘ick’.I’m just going to treat any person wearing this attire, that normalizes the commodification of women’s bodies - as a walking red flag. 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:40 PM |
| 30 | TAKE UP SPACE, YOUR VOICE MATTERSDamn, I feel called out because I truly do say these phrases on reflex since I’m still learning to take up space. Thank you for posting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:27 PM |
| 24 | he will call you a gold digger a for wanting a dinner date and high maintenence when he spends $$$ on HIS hobbiesMen invest in the things they value all the time, so it’s not insulting to HVM that we expect them to invest in us if they care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 05:35 AM |
| 33 | Dear John lyrics by Taylor Swift (2010) are hitting different now that my age gap situationship has fully ended. I first met him when I was 18 and he was 33. We had stopped talking for some time until he decided to hurt me more from ages 20-22/23. Never again 💔❤️🩹😳🤢😷🤧🤡 disappointed, but not surprised at him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 05:26 AM |
| 35 | My first relationship in 3 yearsI’m proud of you sis for doing what is best for you and your mental health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 04:04 AM |
| 33 | Dear John lyrics by Taylor Swift (2010) are hitting different now that my age gap situationship has fully ended. I first met him when I was 18 and he was 33. We had stopped talking for some time until he decided to hurt me more from ages 20-22/23. Never again 💔❤️🩹Discovering FDS wisdom from older women or sisters on this sub has been my backbone during this heartbreak. 💔❤️🩹 https://youtu.be/-CA9CvO87tI https://open.spotify.com/track/1ubvV5ECkm6nSI6g1HmbBK?si=621g-7EETpeOy5tvX8y-ow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 03:44 AM |
| 418 | This comment section on Youtube reminded me of FDS. Keep brunching and treating yourself like the queens you are ladies. 💕Michael went off lowkey when he said, “What happened to men building homes. Fixing cars, providing for the household without going 50/50. Fathering their sons to be men of society and not in and out of jail with anger issues and momma issues. My dad didn't teach me anything about being a man. I had to learn by not doing the things he did do smh” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:12 AM |
| 4 | I had a shower thought…I think that’s a great idea honestly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 11:53 PM |
| 211 | Any experiences with a “wolf in sheep’s clothing”, a man pretending to be a feminist…Oftentimes lvm are only “feminist” when it benefits them; like being able to sleep with naive women with less shame, not having to pay bills, having the opportunity to hit girls, supporting the porn / prostitution industry. They think about ‘equality’ for them before real equity for women like radfems. I’m sorry your ex was anal. I’ve dated men like this too and am relieved I’ve removed them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 11:45 PM |
| 33 | Something positive for onceI’m sorry for your loss 🥺 Congratulations though on the HV partner sis ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 10:47 PM |
| 37 | I don’t approve of low value behavior from any one, including a woman. However the FDS in me is suspicious as to what her side of the story is. She sounds miserable, burnt out, and exhausted. I can’t help but wonder how evenly the work load is shared in the house. For both of them, it appears toxic.I am so sorry for your loss and the childhood trauma. I sincerely hope this isn’t the case for OP’s kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 05:20 PM |
| 71 | Consent isn’t just a wordI’m so sorry sis, I know how you feel 😞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 05:05 PM |
| 388 | I don’t approve of low value behavior from any one, including a woman. However the FDS in me is suspicious as to what her side of the story is. She sounds miserable, burnt out, and exhausted. I can’t help but wonder how evenly the work load is shared in the house. For both of them, it appears toxic.Toxic and abusive parents can be male or female. I feel for the kids. I just wonder if there’s information left out that might explain why she’s this depressed and stressed out. It sounds like a bad household environment to grow up in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 03:12 PM |
| 365 | Like…I know it’s bad, but I didn’t know it was THIS bad.The bar is in Hell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 03:03 PM |
| 359 | Consent isn’t just a wordMany lvm hate reading this because they know they’ve intimidated a girl into being assaulted. They don’t want to admit their version of ‘sex’ was rapey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 02:53 PM |
| 6 | Made a mistake and fell backwards. Devastated and need help with feeling grounded back into the real world. “If he wanted to, he would.” has never hurt so bad.Your wisdom and encouragement is so appreciated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 09:36 AM |
| 47 | Trigger warning for violence against young girl. Little girls can’t even walk home, nor exist : without being sexualized and preyed upon by evil males. I don’t think people like this deserve a psych evaluation because his crime is inexcusable. Praying for baby girl’s recovery. Poems by Sumaya 🖤This ^ I have chronic mental illnesses, but I’m not a violent person who attacks little girls. It’s not justifiable no matter what he may have and it doesn’t make it okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 03:22 AM |
| 7 | There was a man masturbating and watching porn at a coffee shop I like to go to, have they no pride or dignity?You’re good sis! Fixed it for ya. Xo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 03:12 AM |
| 3 | Made a mistake and fell backwards. Devastated and need help with feeling grounded back into the real world. “If he wanted to, he would.” has never hurt so bad.Omg I’m so sorry, earlier I think I meant to respond to a different post in regard to my typo. My real response to you is thank you for the needed reminder, I appreciate you love. 🤍🤍🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 03:11 AM |
| 3 | Made a mistake and fell backwards. Devastated and need help with feeling grounded back into the real world. “If he wanted to, he would.” has never hurt so bad.Good advice sis. Fixed it for us 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 02:46 AM |
| 63 | Trigger warning for violence against young girl. Little girls can’t even walk home, nor exist : without being sexualized and preyed upon by evil males. I don’t think people like this deserve a psych evaluation because his crime is inexcusable. Praying for baby girl’s recovery. Poems by Sumaya 🖤Shiiyaa says she wants justice for her niece and for all other victims “of this kind of sickness.” “If you have contacts, resources, or legal advice to be able to help us in this process, please write to me,” she concluded. “I also ask you please to send positive vibes and prayers for my niece Alicia.” Her auntie’s Instagram is @_shiiyaaa https://instagram.com/_shiiyaaa?utm_medium=copy_link https://dailyhive.com/montreal/suspect-10-year-old-montreal-girl-attacked https://www.gofundme.com/f/soute… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 02:15 AM |
| 43 | There was a man masturbating and watching porn at a coffee shop I like to go to, have they no pride or dignity?They think breastfeeding in public is lewd, but this depravity is acceptable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 06:54 PM |
| 41 | Just a reminder of the FDS handbook about the benefits of being high maintenanceIt’s his loss and your gain from removing him from your life sis. I’m sorry he projected his insecurity all over you for no good reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 07:29 PM |
| 263 | Porn sickness is a slippery slope, this woman needs to take her daughter and LEAVEI saw this too and needed to cry. The daughter is in danger, so is the wife and any woman/girl/child near this pos. I hate how comments are joking and trying to tell her to JuSt CoMmUNnICaTe. He’s pedophilic and deserves to rot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 05:18 PM |
| 250 | How can any one say supporting this industry is ethical when the customers are this openly irresponsible, depraved, & careless? What l read basically translated into, “haha I repetitively exploited women & thank God I got to use a prostitute without repercussions that many of them end up having.” 😥💔I’m so upset the man who posted this somehow got awards for being a crappy disgusting a-hole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 06:25 AM |
| 57 | A recent post here got me thinking… who are women you look up to? In media, history, or even fictional characters?I love Wonder Woman so much honestly, hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 09:32 PM |
| 20 | I’m 23 today sisters and had to thank you all.Thank you love ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 06:47 PM |
| 15 | Most Pickmeishas will tolerate massive amounts of disrespect from NVM but won't tolerate that same disrespect from family and friendsThe manifestation of internalized misogyny is toxic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 06:42 PM |
| 195 | Anyone else feel like there is A LOT missing from this story??I almost never trust the sole male narrative tbh because I know my lv exes paint a different picture with no context to other people for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 06:38 PM |
| 349 | Best friend is on her way to being a forever GFOh no, the manipulating her into accepting a 3some or an open relationship is already 🚩 city. She sounds like a lovely lady who deserves a far more dedicated partner… 😔🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 10:02 PM |
| 189 | Overheard: "Insecure women are BAD"I legit would think I was going crazy because of my abusive exes, but then I’d break up with them and realize I’m a completely different person single or with friends. I feel so much lighter and less angry. I refuse to date men who can’t be a peaceful place for me any more. The worst people often can bring the worst out of you. When I’m with someone who cherishes me, I notice at least the level of insecurity I once had is not present. A lot of these men blame women for being insecure when the tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 09:35 PM |
| 9 | Opinion | Consent is not enough. We need a new sexual ethic.Thank you ladies for the extra links! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 08:48 PM |
| 52 | Poems by @farida.d.author on instagram. Article; Stop Hurting Women: We Belong to Ourselves Despite Violent Male Entitlement by Julie Feng 💟 the HVM I do know never say, “Not all men” because they know when males say this, they are deflecting a real conversation about patriarchy.https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/we-belong-to-ourselves-on-male-entitlement-and-womens-right-to-say-no/ all men benefit from the patriarchy, whether they’re individually misogynistic or not. The best way male allies can help us is keeping men around them in check, amplify our voices, and protecting women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 08:41 PM |
| 106 | Opinion | Consent is not enough. We need a new sexual ethic.Could you possibly screenshot or copy paste the article so that we can more easily read the content? I apologize! It does seem like a great necessary discussion. 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 05:04 PM |
| 24 | “Girls have it easy” since fucking when??? • @cayleecresta on TikTok roasting a musty loser for minimizing the female struggle & also devaluing women for simply not cooking for his entitled ass. Although that app is full of groomers and weird men, I’m thankful there are HVW on that platform as well.The way they both smile past the bs is chefs kiss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 12:41 PM |
| 3 | “Girls have it easy” since fucking when??? • @cayleecresta on TikTok roasting a musty loser for minimizing the female struggle & also devaluing women for simply not cooking for his entitled ass. Although that app is full of groomers and weird men, I’m thankful there are HVW on that platform as well.🤡🤡🤡🤦🏻♀️🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 12:20 PM |
| 62 | It is more dangerous for a woman to be in a relationship, than it is for men to go to war. Stay vigilant and always be vetting.This makes me sad, but a needed reminder. Our lives don’t seem to count to lvm when it’s taken by them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 11:59 AM |
| 35 | Today, I promise to be the best version of myselfI’m so proud of you and you inspire me to keep growing as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 06:30 AM |
| 60 | “Girls have it easy” since fucking when??? • @cayleecresta on TikTok roasting a musty loser for minimizing the female struggle & also devaluing women for simply not cooking for his entitled ass. Although that app is full of groomers and weird men, I’m thankful there are HVW on that platform as well.He’s only trying to veil his deep seeded resentment towards us for not existing to serve him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 06:22 AM |
| 175 | “Girls have it easy” since fucking when??? • @cayleecresta on TikTok roasting a musty loser for minimizing the female struggle & also devaluing women for simply not cooking for his entitled ass. Although that app is full of groomers and weird men, I’m thankful there are HVW on that platform as well.They somehow think they are the men we want to attract…. LMFAOOOOOOOOO, but it’s just a neon sign reading “stay far away if you don’t want to get emotionally abused” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 05:05 AM |
| 63 | “Girls have it easy” since fucking when??? • @cayleecresta on TikTok roasting a musty loser for minimizing the female struggle & also devaluing women for simply not cooking for his entitled ass. Although that app is full of groomers and weird men, I’m thankful there are HVW on that platform as well.How dare we?!! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 04:56 AM |
| 103 | Bad Vegan- Cults and Pickup Artist techniquesPUA and cult leaders have malignant narcissism in common. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 04:20 AM |
| 137 | “Girls have it easy” since fucking when??? • @cayleecresta on TikTok roasting a musty loser for minimizing the female struggle & also devaluing women for simply not cooking for his entitled ass. Although that app is full of groomers and weird men, I’m thankful there are HVW on that platform as well.Yes!! He seems greasy 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 04:16 AM |
| 55 | “Girls have it easy” since fucking when??? • @cayleecresta on TikTok roasting a musty loser for minimizing the female struggle & also devaluing women for simply not cooking for his entitled ass. Although that app is full of groomers and weird men, I’m thankful there are HVW on that platform as well.Thank you to Caylee for giving us life against these soul draining redpilled Neanderthals. https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdfUoKk6/?k=1 https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdfUoKk6/?k=1 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 04:06 AM |
| 81 | When rape so normalised that girls joke about it happening to themHonestly what the fuck is wrong with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 03:51 AM |
| 177 | When rape so normalised that girls joke about it happening to themDid she seriously find this funny? 😳😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 03:21 AM |
| 179 | What do we think about a man wanting to be treated like a trophy wife?LMFAOOOOOO YOU MADE ME CHOKE ON MY NOODLES SIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 02:46 AM |
| 59 | What do we think about a man wanting to be treated like a trophy wife?That’s fair and true, I just think some lvm are so delusional they falsely think they can be considered a trophy instead of dead weight next to a successful driven women 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 02:27 AM |
| 12 | Horrifying TikTok trend where boys and men joke about going on a date with a girl or woman and describe how they would murder her.Why I refuse to teach little boys and girls that being mean is the equivalent to affection 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 02:15 AM |
| 132 | What do we think about a man wanting to be treated like a trophy wife?I’m sorry, the scrotacity has me petrified. The trophy husband concept becoming more popular overtime is what happens when women are encouraged to start acting like men are the prize. I don’t think any HVM would be proud to boast about this “relationship plan”, sounds more like mommy mcbangmaid plan - except even worse than the usual shit because he wants to both have sex on demand and have her become a career mom to his grown ass. Does he seriously think what he offered is appealing? 🥴 Also I a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 02:13 AM |
| 64 | Major Trigger Warning on the topic of War, Rape, Violence. The Mỹ Lai massacre was the mass murder of unarmed South Vietnamese civilians by United States troops in Sơn Tịnh District, South Vietnam, on 16 March 1968 during the Vietnam War. 54 years ago today, American soldiers terrorized a village. 💔It’s so sad how lvm shun and ostracize the small amount of HVM there is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 10:16 PM |
| 157 | Major Trigger Warning on the topic of War, Rape, Violence. The Mỹ Lai massacre was the mass murder of unarmed South Vietnamese civilians by United States troops in Sơn Tịnh District, South Vietnam, on 16 March 1968 during the Vietnam War. 54 years ago today, American soldiers terrorized a village. 💔This was an attack on humanity that took place during my grandparents and parents’ lifetime/adolescence so it really is not that long ago. I rarely see this injustice in history talked about. 💔 I never understand why I’ve heard people justify depraved males raping (mostly) women in wartime as a fucking casualty. It makes me more upset knowing justice was never truly served. “It is a myth that rape is an inevitable part of conflict ... There is nothing inevitable about it. It is a weapon of war a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 06:46 PM |
| 26 | Ma'am, you cannot buy a man's love.Oh honey… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 05:27 PM |
| 94 | Horrifying TikTok trend where boys and men joke about going on a date with a girl or woman and describe how they would murder her.Don’t know why they’re wearing crosses when they’re going to Hell if they find femicide humorous 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 12:28 PM |
| 62 | Horrifying TikTok trend where boys and men joke about going on a date with a girl or woman and describe how they would murder her.Thank you so much for the link so that we can try to take down these assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 11:32 AM |
| 182 | Horrifying TikTok trend where boys and men joke about going on a date with a girl or woman and describe how they would murder her.I hate seeing abuse trends like this get popular on TikTok, especially among the youth. They all need to be stopped and reprimanded in some way. Edit; I don’t doubt these vids would exist, but like a recent commenter mentioned - I’m having difficulty finding the content you described, is there a link or a specific hashtag for us to report? Thank you sis Oh yay! This works! Thank you to u/oohlahla00 https://www.tiktok.com/music/original-sound-7053785409561709318 This one was a light in the darkne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 08:17 AM |
| 111 | I sincerely hope the first TikTok here is not a real story. Had to attach some radfem clips at the end to cleanse my soul. When I was 14, I thought the way she did too. But I won’t let any libfem propaganda gaslight me any more about how the cycles of sexual re-traumatization are somehow feminist. 🥴I hope this misguided young girl grows and matures with time to understand eventually how harmful this industry actually is. I don’t think victims of sex work deserve to be arrested or criminalized as I would like for them to get help escaping abuse. The buyers (mostly male abusers) NEED to be criminalized, arrested, and shamed if we want to fight this exploitation though. Prostitution should never be glamorized. I’m no longer a libfem, but I’m also not a conservative republican either. I just d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 08:03 AM |
| 63 | The honest definition of *If he wanted to, he would of*🥺 how sweet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 07:15 AM |
| 24 | spotting low effort convos and copypastesI’M SCREECHING LMFAOOOO 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 05:22 AM |
| 103 | Where to meet HVW? (wlw)Ooo I am very interested in this one since I am bisexual and also I seriously do need more platonic HVW friends in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 03:02 AM |
| 123 | Ginger Dean @lovingmeafterwe on Instagram is an absolute queen. Following her page on healing from narcissistic abuse and codependency saved my life. This post of hers reminding everyone why she makes woc/female specific content and honestly resonates to why I think FDS also is a female only sub. 💜👑“You will not Christopher Columbus your way into my content. My lived experience matters and we can celebrate the differences, heal and grow while not asking others to decenter themselves so that you don't have to look in the mirror and see yourself.” was my favorite part. I made the mistake in my most recent post’s comments of deciding to paste and respond to a scrote who really triggered me in my DMs. A mod helped me understand again why we have flairs and how me clapping back to an offended m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 02:43 AM |
| 139 | Ginger Dean @lovingmeafterwe on Instagram is an absolute queen. Following her page on healing from narcissistic abuse and codependency saved my life. This post of hers reminding everyone why she makes woc/female specific content and honestly resonates to why I think FDS also is a female only sub. 💜👑Her caption on her Instagram post reads as follows; lovingmeafterwe: “It’s important to respect my boundaries around my audience and language especially as it relates to my expertise. My expertise lies in helping women heal after toxic relationships. That much is stated and very much made clear in my bio. Boundaries are necessary when telling someone else how they should show up so that you can center yourself and your needs while white washing my own and that of my audience. Some coaches speak … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 02:34 AM |
| 76 | I understand the sentiment of this post was to tell women it is not our fault when a man has erectile dysfunction. I like many of her sketches. However, I think she forgot a lot of men also have (PIED) Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction... May I ask FDS sisters, how can we best tell the difference???Damn, you’re not wrong sis. Really put things into perspective for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 01:53 AM |
| 100 | Vetting strategy – women's periodsAmen. Lvm are absolute assholes when it comes to this time of the month. The HVM I’ve been with were never squeamish and very accommodating about my period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 01:41 AM |
| 9 | I understand the sentiment of this post was to tell women it is not our fault when a man has erectile dysfunction. I like many of her sketches. However, I think she forgot a lot of men also have (PIED) Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction... May I ask FDS sisters, how can we best tell the difference???I apologize for not thinking enough about the best course of action before I reacted. Thank you for your feedback. I’m sorry I felt tempted to comment my response to the scrote because I didn’t want to feel misunderstood. It is a waste of energy though because lvm never want to understand us, so next time I will opt to just ignore the bs. I in no way excuse myself, nor justify my mistake rn. Although I am expressing how I felt when sharing/responding to the original DM. I see now that even if I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 12:05 AM |
| 348 | Nah sis.Girl… noooooooo 😭 I think the woman should receive the grand gesture more considering she’s the one who has to go 9 months pregnant, give child birth, cope with postpartum depression, and will almost most definitely be more involved in the baby’s life overall. I’m all for appreciating HVM and HV fathers, but I sincerely pray he’s pampering HER the way she deserves. Being present as a dad is the bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:46 PM |
| 174 | I understand the sentiment of this post was to tell women it is not our fault when a man has erectile dysfunction. I like many of her sketches. However, I think she forgot a lot of men also have (PIED) Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction... May I ask FDS sisters, how can we best tell the difference???💯 he would not want to deceive us and would be clear from the start. He also would not feel personally offended if we are not comfortable with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:09 PM |
| 52 | I understand the sentiment of this post was to tell women it is not our fault when a man has erectile dysfunction. I like many of her sketches. However, I think she forgot a lot of men also have (PIED) Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction... May I ask FDS sisters, how can we best tell the difference???Thank you so much for reassuring me that I’m not a bad person for having that boundary. I totally agree with you on how I get turned off if I don’t feel them entirely turned on. I am sure there are HVM with medically non porn induced erectile dysfunction, but it doesn’t mean I have to be okay with it. They can find a woman who is. I got a bit of coddling vibes indirectly from it too. Thank you again for your honest advice sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 10:21 PM |
| 107 | I understand the sentiment of this post was to tell women it is not our fault when a man has erectile dysfunction. I like many of her sketches. However, I think she forgot a lot of men also have (PIED) Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction... May I ask FDS sisters, how can we best tell the difference???True! I honestly don’t think I would feel sexually satisfied with a partner who regularly has ED. Sometimes sketches like this make me feel slightly guilty for not being okay with it, regardless of the reason. If it isn’t porn induced, I definitely wouldn’t shame them - however, I also would not ideally date them. Like you mentioned, I’d maybe only make an exception for someone incredibly High Value and 100% is not porn induced and actively working on it. + also only if he would be happy compens… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 10:13 PM |
| 138 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatI am still in shock at the way some people think FDS is any where near as toxic and violent as incel/red pill ideology. They really believe woman having standards is the equivalent to femicide. 💔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 08:39 PM |
| 15 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.A healthy balance between being ourselves and not overdoing things for approval reveals HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 02:07 PM |
| 58 | Become of ZERO UTILITY to men in dating.Although I would definitely want to contribute to my relationship, I do feel I get this strategy when it comes to vetting to a certain extent. I have noticed lvm do jump at the opportunity to use a woman’s skill for unpaid labor; emotionally or physically. I do believe in scaling back at first, on being so giving and enforcing boundaries to what we can do for a man to vet how generous he is to us without nudging him. Not revealing all of what we can do right away makes sense if we want to make s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 01:59 PM |
| 10 | I haven't had the sex I want eitherAw I totally feel you. No worries 💜, nothing is wrong with us!! I only found out recently about how only 80% of women cum from PIV intercourse, meanwhile straight men orgasm 95% of the time. It’s definitely unfair. Which is why I think equity over equality in the bedroom. Women need more attention on their clit so it’s totally fair in my honest opinion to have a guy eat a woman out until she cums without her having to spend as much time or any time at all giving him head - because chances are he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 01:45 PM |
| 12 | I haven't had the sex I want eitherOf course. Feel free to PM me any time. I understand because it took me years after I had my first sexual experience to have an orgasm, I used to think it was impossible for me. It helps to focus on the journey more than the destination. A lot of men actually make it harder for us when they command us to cum because we feel rushed. Remember it is okay if you don’t reach a climax in a masturbation session for awhile or if you want to try again next time when you’re overwhelmed, you’ll definitely … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 01:32 PM |
| 47 | Have not cringed this hard in awhile; at the woman (kirra_kitty1215) who responded to the original TikTok made by dworkfem … it seems like a ‘cope’ to force your ideal of being okay with your boyfriend watching porn. You can’t force other women to be okay with exploitation just because you are.Her tiktok profile is mainly a catalogue of videos promoting kink and sexploitation to impressionable young people, the mass grooming that goes on the internet is a crisis. It was a major problem on tumblr that led to the porn ban on the site and it seems like a fuck ton of them have migrated to TikTok. Thankfully there are also radfem communities to keep my sanity. A paradox I noticed though is even if she groomed him, she somehow managed to groom him into becoming her “master dom”. She claims … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 01:18 PM |
| 128 | Have not cringed this hard in awhile; at the woman (kirra_kitty1215) who responded to the original TikTok made by dworkfem … it seems like a ‘cope’ to force your ideal of being okay with your boyfriend watching porn. You can’t force other women to be okay with exploitation just because you are.I have no clue why she tries to give us a, “Ha. Gotcha woman haters!” expression when none of her points were sensible or beneficial to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 12:11 PM |
| 74 | All this to offer and she's being dragged down in the comments by trp men for wanting marriage. It's 'all for nothing' deal.Yikes 😳🤢😷 she should read the “Gone Girl” monologue lowkey. LMFAOOOOOO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:57 AM |
| 76 | This story makes me angry for her. Never give your kidney to any man. This girl just gave her kidney to her boyfriend and then he cheated on her. This man is disgusting!I’m infuriated on her behalf just based off the title 😡🤬 can she sue his ass? Even when men have nothing of value to offer, they still have the audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:51 AM |
| 58 | Have not cringed this hard in awhile; at the woman (kirra_kitty1215) who responded to the original TikTok made by dworkfem … it seems like a ‘cope’ to force your ideal of being okay with your boyfriend watching porn. You can’t force other women to be okay with exploitation just because you are.I realized it when the makeup filter floated off her face while she was putting up her hair in a ponytail 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:40 AM |
| 29 | Have not cringed this hard in awhile; at the woman (kirra_kitty1215) who responded to the original TikTok made by dworkfem … it seems like a ‘cope’ to force your ideal of being okay with your boyfriend watching porn. You can’t force other women to be okay with exploitation just because you are.😭😭😭 you not wrong for that, I struggled too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:06 AM |
| 143 | Have not cringed this hard in awhile; at the woman (kirra_kitty1215) who responded to the original TikTok made by dworkfem … it seems like a ‘cope’ to force your ideal of being okay with your boyfriend watching porn. You can’t force other women to be okay with exploitation just because you are.How is joining the sex industry; an even more misogynistic industry - better than or a solution to the sexism in restaurant/food service?? I waitressed for years and was sexually harassed sometimes, yes - however I am also aware of the fact depraved male consumers sexually assault and abuse prostitutes, strippers, and porn stars on a daily basis. There is misogyny unfairly embedded in every industry which needs to be reformed, but to not admit sex work is where women get raped the most frequentl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 10:24 AM |
| 45 | I haven't had the sex I want eitherIt’s not a dumb question. Truthfully my own mother has never had an orgasm and she’s in her 50s. I also gave her a toy, but she has yet to experience it. It is because shes too nervous and doesn’t feel comfortable honestly, but I am confident she is capable of it if she becomes more open to her own pleasure. It can take time to learn how to use a toy properly (at the right pressure, pace) to be honest. We also need to be relaxed enough for that release. When we truly orgasm, there is no question… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 06:04 AM |
| 123 | PSA: Feeling like you have to “do it all” to prove men wrong is *still* internalized misogynyTrue. Misogynists will never respect us no matter what we achieve, so we may as well live for ourselves ❤️🩹. It’s just difficult when these scrotes use respectability politics against women. We have inherent value ladies regardless of our productivity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 03:32 AM |
| 15 | [deleted by user]I’m happy it looks neat on the surface so far and wish you the best in your vetting process sis 💓 Be safe and careful though 🤍. I say that since I personally have a habit of idealizing someone too much too early on so watch out for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 03:06 AM |
| 8 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughterOmg this is often too true 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 02:59 AM |
| 45 | Snoop Dogg’s Daughter, Cori Broadus wanted to end it all 💔❤️🩹. The dangers of colorist hypogamous men:Thank you for letting me know that 4thwavewomen is a better sub for this content! I appreciate the reminder 🤍 I’m sorry if this wasn’t the best place, I’ll be sure to cross post. I’m sorry I thought it could be relevant since the OP of the video goes into detail about how she feels worried about the relationship Cori has with her bf due to his possible negging and her self esteem issues. I also think her father really let her down by investing way more in his sons’ future than his daughters and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 02:12 AM |
| 57 | Anyone else feel competitive with men?I think it affects us women on a subconscious level because we know deep down we live in a patriarchal society where men are privileged. Similar to systems of racism; people of color and women have to sometimes work twice as hard as white people or men to get the same outcome. It makes sense why we feel female solidarity since we know they also face misogyny and are likely going through the same discrimination throughout their lives/career. I think that the trauma and our desire to make the worl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 01:17 AM |
| 118 | Snoop Dogg’s Daughter, Cori Broadus wanted to end it all 💔❤️🩹. The dangers of colorist hypogamous men:MAJOR TYPO IN TITLE: THE DANGERS OF COLORIST AND HYPERGAMOUS MEN*** I’m so sorry for messing that vital word up. Snoop Dogg's daughter, Cori Broadus, said her struggle with colorism and bullying led to a suicide attempt at age 13. Cori, born in June 1999, said she suffered from depression and nearly took her own life after being called "fat and ugly" since she was a child. "I grew up with two light skinned brothers... and I was the only chocolate one. I was overweight, I got lupus at six," she s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 12:58 AM |
| 289 | I haven't had the sex I want eitherI’m sorry I ended up typing a long rant, LMAO 🤍 It’s annoying how they can shame us for not being adventurous enough in bed since they think their needs are important, but when we try to tell them how to better pleasure us - they brush it off. Female sexuality has definitely been suppressed and neglected by heterosexual sexual scripts. I have only ever had ONE partner who was as generous as I needed him to be. He never complained and was always eager to please. Meanwhile every other man I’ve giv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 12:41 AM |
| 189 | I matched with a man on OLD and posted his ass on the local Facebook group for his gf to findI hope the life that he took for granted falls apart. I am sorry you dealt with this pos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 11:32 PM |
| 60 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?👏☝️🙌😂💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 11:10 PM |
| 21 | The difference between low and high value men • Eloho (Did any one else find Black feminist YouTube before stumbling upon FDS? I remember when finding this subreddit, I was like omg that’s what our good sis on YouTube is talking about. Please recommend any more FDS aligned influencers in comments.)I definitely notice bell hooks, but I am positive there are many more Black feminists we would be inspired by / who I can’t name on the top of my head rn. If any one remembers, pls let us know 🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 11:07 PM |
| 5 | Following our intuition can save our lives; the story of Rodney Alcala - prolific serial killer. A demented man whom appeared and won on a 70s’ Dating show and the Bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw who avoided a terrible demise.I think we are upset that even if he died in prison, he got to live a long life - unlike innocent women who passed away horrifically like his victims. He also kept being let in and out, resulting in more murders or rapes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 10:46 PM |
| 114 | A single people’s group on the book of faces wants us to be nicer to the Y chromosome.LMFAOOOOO, this is why I think FDS is one of the only safe subs on all of Reddit. Literally the rest of the site is a cesspool of men who hate us for our standards and pickmes who alienate us for refusing to coddle scrote behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 10:17 PM |
| 44 | I feel very stagnant right nowFor the record, you do deserve a HVM you can feel sure of. You are incredible and have so much going for you in life. You’re not standing still, even when you may feel like it due to obvious “milestones” happening to those around you. I don’t want to be cynical, however a lot of these marriages are not as happy as they appear on the outside. You didn’t settle and future you will thank you for it. You described a feeling that is very human and that I’ve also been experiencing. I can’t help but fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 10:12 PM |
| 309 | Can we talk about how hard it is not to internalize the message that it’s a woman’s responsibility to “keep her man interested”?I’ve noticed the men who claim they are “looking for a girl who isn’t boring” tend to be the most basic boring personalities possible. They have some misogyny to work out too because they probably think poorly of most women if he leads with that “relationship goal” of his. Women are conditioned to constantly worry if he’s still interested in us, but when we ask ourselves what’s so special about him? And also do we even still like this guy? A lot of the times the answer is no. A good HV partner w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 09:58 PM |
| 42 | The difference between low and high value men • Eloho (Did any one else find Black feminist YouTube before stumbling upon FDS? I remember when finding this subreddit, I was like omg that’s what our good sis on YouTube is talking about. Please recommend any more FDS aligned influencers in comments.)https://youtu.be/mCYQhInMtyo I love the way she clarifies high earning is not enough to be deemed HVM. https://youtube.com/channel/UCdkBFeXTTvcS4sH2BFP4spg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 07:49 PM |
| 30 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughterLMFAOOOOO, I love you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 07:17 PM |
| 150 | SWer finds out her dad watches porn. Calls him vile and disgusting. He doesn’t get why and neither does Reddit.The dad sounds like he’s gaslighting his daughter into thinking he only didn’t tell her because he wanted to protect her. Reality is he’s probably a porn sick scrote who jacks off his limp dick to vulnerable young women; even her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 06:47 PM |
| 132 | Nightmare Fuel. My heart is broken for this mother and her daughter.💯 this feels like it has to be a rescue mission | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 04:09 PM |
| 2 | It’s been 2 years since Brenna Taylor was killed. As an Asian woman, I cannot speak for Black women. Watching and reading comments with of Black women dealing with the challenges of misogynoir (sexism & racism) makes me really empathize and want to amplify their voices though. She deserves justice.Yes, I already did clarify the spelling of ʙʀᴇᴏɴɴᴀ ᴛᴀʏʟᴏʀ’s name in comments and apologized for the typo (that I’m not able to change because FDS does not allow us to edit captions). https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/td7g5z/its_been_2_years_since_brenna_taylor_was_killed/i0hpx9z/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:59 PM |
| 252 | Mother in laws that prioritize their son in laws over their own daughterThe cultural misogyny passed down by generations is tragic. I remember my aunts glaring at me when my date fixed a plate for me on Thanksgiving. They told me the woman is supposed to fix the plate for the man. I ignored it and let him take care of things for me that day as a way to vet because the aunts who glared married lvm any way… My own grandma has told her daughter that 1 son is worth 3 or 4 daughters. I used to think it was just an Asian thing, but now I recognize that women from ᴇᴠᴇʀʏ cu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:59 PM |
| 18 | The aftermath of being with LVMHugs 🥺❤️🩹❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:43 PM |
| 148 | Nightmare Fuel. My heart is broken for this mother and her daughter.I’m so fucking disgusted by this incestuous, financially abusive, pedophelic, manipulator scrote. He needs to be sent far far away from all women and children. The amount of toxicity one lvm or 0vm has that he can spread is lethal. 💔 A decent mother’s nightmare is a shitty father/man’s dream. 🗑🤬🤢😷 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:32 PM |
| 29 | The aftermath of being with LVMYour trauma is just as valid as mine ♥️ I’m sorry again he is a total dick. I’m still healing honestly. I’ve tried therapy, developing hobbies, and nurturing my friendships a lot more since then. Having a healthy outlet for our feelings and a trustworthy support circle is real helpful. Reading about narcissistic abuse in relationships also made me able to detach a bit more since it forced me to see him for his true colors. The research also validated my pain that I was gaslit not to acknowledge … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:16 PM |
| 40 | Following our intuition can save our lives; the story of Rodney Alcala - prolific serial killer. A demented man whom appeared and won on a 70s’ Dating show and the Bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw who avoided a terrible demise.It is so wrong we live in a world where Breonna Taylor gets murdered by the police for her ex bf’s mistakes, meanwhile a psycho pedo rapist women killer was able to live out his life. 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:08 PM |
| 98 | The aftermath of being with LVMI am so sorry for all you’ve been through. I think I may know exactly how you feel. I developed Stockholm syndrome / trauma bonds with my abuser and although I knew that I deserved better deep down - I didn’t have it in me to cut them off for some reason, perhaps I projected my own heart onto him? The attachment we need to free ourselves from LVM is scarring. Although we know we’re better off without them, unloving them is not easy. I’m still affected by the trauma lvm have caused me and always … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 02:55 PM |
| 7 | “Whoever told y’all that sex work is empowering, lied straight to y’all fucking faces. You’ve been hoodwinked. Bamboozled. Scammed.” 190k+ likes on TikTok for this intersectional feminist queen’s wisdom, brought me hope for a better future. I hope more and more people watch and understand.They say they’re anti-exploitation until it’s about killing their sick boners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 02:29 PM |
| 54 | Water boarding couldn’t have gotten this confession out of me 😭😭This ain’t it 😭😅😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 01:25 PM |
| 15 | Following our intuition can save our lives; the story of Rodney Alcala - prolific serial killer. A demented man whom appeared and won on a 70s’ Dating show and the Bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw who avoided a terrible demise.Agreed on SW 😔🙏 Although I’m relieved your friend is alive, the fatality that ensued from her ex is so unfortunate. Thank you for sharing . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 10:54 AM |
| 14 | Following our intuition can save our lives; the story of Rodney Alcala - prolific serial killer. A demented man whom appeared and won on a 70s’ Dating show and the Bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw who avoided a terrible demise.Thank you for the recommendation 🤍 I am very sorry for your friend’s experience, but thankful she has that intuitive sense. I wonder how many missing women and unknown evil murderers are out there 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 10:38 AM |
| 82 | Following our intuition can save our lives; the story of Rodney Alcala - prolific serial killer. A demented man whom appeared and won on a 70s’ Dating show and the Bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw who avoided a terrible demise.In March 2010, the Huntington Beach, California and New York City Police Departments released 120 of Alcala's photographs and sought the public's help in identifying them, in the hope of determining if any of the women and children he photographed were additional victims. Approximately 900 additional photos could not be made public, police said, because they were too sexually explicit. In the first few weeks, police reported that approximately 21 women had come forward to identify themselves, an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 07:50 AM |
| 15 | Following our intuition can save our lives; the story of Rodney Alcala - prolific serial killer. A demented man whom appeared and won on a 70s’ Dating show and the Bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw who avoided a terrible demise.Robin Samsoe, a 12-year-old girl from Huntington Beach, disappeared somewhere between the beach and her ballet class on June 20, 1979. Her decomposing body was found 12 days later in the Los Angeles foothills. Samsoe's friends told police that a stranger had approached them on the beach, asking to take their pictures. Detectives circulated a sketch of the photographer, and Alcala's parole officer recognized him. During a search of Alcala's mother's house in Monterey Park, police found a rental r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 07:07 AM |
| 14 | Following our intuition can save our lives; the story of Rodney Alcala - prolific serial killer. A demented man whom appeared and won on a 70s’ Dating show and the Bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw who avoided a terrible demise.In 1978, Alcala was a contestant on the popular game show The Dating Game. Host Jim Lange introduced him as a "successful photographer who got his start when his father found him in the darkroom at the age of 13, fully developed. Between takes you might find him skydiving or motorcycling." A fellow "bachelor" contestant later described Alcala as a "very strange guy" with "bizarre opinions." Alcala won the competition and a date with the episode's bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw, who subsequently r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 07:07 AM |
| 17 | Following our intuition can save our lives; the story of Rodney Alcala - prolific serial killer. A demented man whom appeared and won on a 70s’ Dating show and the Bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw who avoided a terrible demise.After Alcala's second release in 1977, his Los Angeles parole officer took the unusual step of permitting a repeat offender—and known flight risk—to travel to New York City. NYPD cold-case investigators now believe that a week after arriving in Manhattan, Alcala killed Ellen Jane Hover, 23-year-old daughter of the owner of the popular Hollywood nightclub Ciro's and goddaughter of Dean Martin and Sammy Davis Jr. Her remains were found buried on the grounds of the Rockefeller Estate in Westchester… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 07:06 AM |
| 20 | Following our intuition can save our lives; the story of Rodney Alcala - prolific serial killer. A demented man whom appeared and won on a 70s’ Dating show and the Bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw who avoided a terrible demise.In 1961, at the age of 17, Alcala joined the United States Army and served as a clerk. In 1964, after what was described as a nervous breakdown—during which he went AWOL and hitchhiked from Fort Bragg to his mother's house—he was diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder by a military psychiatrist and discharged on medical grounds. Other diagnoses later proposed by various psychiatric experts at his trials included narcissistic personality disorder, and malignant narcissism with psychopathy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 07:06 AM |
| 36 | Following our intuition can save our lives; the story of Rodney Alcala - prolific serial killer. A demented man whom appeared and won on a 70s’ Dating show and the Bachelorette, Cheryl Bradshaw who avoided a terrible demise.I have heard of Ted Bundy, but I never knew about this monster despite residing only one city away from Huntington Beach. It sent chills down my spine and enrages me to see he managed to get on a Dating Show despite having killed, tortured, and raped multiple women and little girls already. I am so thankful Cheryl Bradshaw followed her instinct after coming face to face with him and avoided the date set up. Too many of us women are socialized to feel like we cannot back out of dates for our own … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 07:04 AM |
| 22 | The OP gets her exes head above water and wonders why her new boyfriend is mad. Put yourself first, stop being "cool", and let a guy manage his own finances. It was never up to you to SAVE him in the first place!💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 04:52 AM |
| 174 | this is why I will never settle for less until I meet someone who loves me and respects our relationship like thisThis made me genuinely smile. Love like this exists! FDS women do not hate healthy love from HVM. We hate low value “love”. We often call out misogyny in dating and it gets falsely misconstrued by lvm as misandry. I regularly share links to FDS posts to the few HV men I know in my life and they never feel offended, they try to find compassion to learn how to be better + to hold other men accountable. Receiving “Reddit care resources” from male users just because we want to ensure that women are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 04:32 AM |
| 51 | The OP gets her exes head above water and wonders why her new boyfriend is mad. Put yourself first, stop being "cool", and let a guy manage his own finances. It was never up to you to SAVE him in the first place!I’m sorry I’m speechless. If this ain’t a rescue mission, I don’t know what is 😭 for once I understand the boyfriend here because sis should have seriously invested in herself, not her ex. (or any man for that matter) It also potentially puts her in a vulnerable position with her current bf because if he’s low value, I can imagine him holding this against her farther down the line. For example, imagine manipulating her to give him money because “if she loved him”, she would do the same for him. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 04:12 AM |
| 167 | Horrified, but not surprised at the male entitlement in the second picture. (Trigger warning, sexual abuse) Abusing women in bed has become so normalized, lvm are not afraid to announce they’re going to harm women. 💔 she needs to leave ASAP.Why not normalize healthy romantic intimacy where the woman feels loved, respected, and actually gets to cum?? That’s what sex positivity really should be. Instead it’s turned into gaslighting women to accept violence in bed. Consent can be revoked any time. This goes beyond typical porn sickness too, they threaten rape and literal death if women don’t submit to becoming their sex slave. I am so scared for every woman who is with a psychopath/sociopath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 06:16 PM |
| 40 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he make you feel BALANCED?💯 thank u for posting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 03:08 PM |
| 26 | “Whoever told y’all that sex work is empowering, lied straight to y’all fucking faces. You’ve been hoodwinked. Bamboozled. Scammed.” 190k+ likes on TikTok for this intersectional feminist queen’s wisdom, brought me hope for a better future. I hope more and more people watch and understand.🥺😔💔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 03:06 PM |
| 127 | It’s been 2 years since Brenna Taylor was killed. As an Asian woman, I cannot speak for Black women. Watching and reading comments with of Black women dealing with the challenges of misogynoir (sexism & racism) makes me really empathize and want to amplify their voices though. She deserves justice.She was innocent, an EMT/essential worker, and they somehow still find a way to blame the woman for her own death. 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 02:37 PM |
| 152 | "men give women sense of security" be likeLMFAOOOOOOOO WHERE IS THE LIE 😭😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 02:08 PM |
| 113 | It’s been 2 years since Brenna Taylor was killed. As an Asian woman, I cannot speak for Black women. Watching and reading comments with of Black women dealing with the challenges of misogynoir (sexism & racism) makes me really empathize and want to amplify their voices though. She deserves justice.It’s been 2 years since ʙʀᴇᴏɴɴᴀ ᴛᴀʏʟᴏʀ was killed. As an Asian woman, I cannot speak for Black women. Watching and reading comments of Black women dealing with the challenges of misogynoir (sexism & racism) makes me really empathize and want to amplify their voices though. She deserves justice.**** I am so sorry I cannot edit the title and forgot to double check my grammatical errors. I’m still heartbroken about her. She did nothing wrong. She got involved with the wrong scrote and was in the en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 01:57 PM |
| 492 | The fake proposal -- anyone else?Yes, future faking is such a shitty tactic narcissists use to try to lovebomb us and to make us think they’re more invested than they truly are. Because lvm ego love the attention they get from deceiving well meaning women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 01:03 PM |
| 77 | Don't cry, beg or show emotion or over communicate. State what you want then leave when it's not met. Men enjoy the begging, crying and emotional outbursts because they know this means you're wrapped around their finger and will stay. It is a massive ego boost for them to have that power over youIt is so crushing to pour our souls out in text to men who don’t even care. I have a terrible habit of reaching out in my most vulnerable state, even when I know the other person is not emotionally available. It’s why I’m trying to be more content single, nurture female bonds, and learn to love myself. I don’t want to beg for any male approval any more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 07:07 PM |
| 16 | The course of a relationship is up to a MAN and MAN ONLY.Needed to see this. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 09:56 AM |
| 24 | Lost a female friend and don’t know how to process. (Trigger warning for rape and abuse survivors)I appreciate you so much for taking the time to read and respond to this long rant, I’m sorry for being so emotional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:12 AM |
| 19 | These posts from tumblr hit close to home because I remember being conditioned to think it’s all my fault and that the only way to cope was through being made to submit in kink. Younger me couldn’t be more wrong. I’m 23 this month and I cringe when I think about how indoctrinated I was at 17.Honestly, how dare they use innocent kitty clip art to try to justify this victim blaming shit 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 01:52 PM |
| 117 | Even tho you know they’re LVM and don’t want to be with them…I relate heavy. I find myself falling backwards often and I have to catch myself. To be honest that’s why FDS helps so much as a community. Revisiting this particular sub when I’m about to do some pick me shit has prevented some regrettable choices. We’re human and even if we know better, sometimes it’s a real challenge to vet. We’re doing our best to have self control and to make wiser decisions, it will always be hard. Growth takes more guts than regression. We stumble while we examine ourselv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 04:15 AM |
| 162 | As a Ukrainian living in USA, here is how most of my dates used to go for the past 10 yearsThese men who have an obsession over “exotic” and “foreign” women are draining. Us women of color are also done with it. I’m so sorry you’re putting up with this behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 01:47 AM |
| 394 | How to prevent hornyness related pickmeness on datesI honestly make myself cum before and afterward. I often get female post nut clarity and realize I’m happy or relieved I decided to not go for casual / non committal sex when I use this method. 😂🤟 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 12:33 AM |
| 22 | The “empowerment” propaganda has to stop.No worries, I don’t find you rude sis 🤍. You’re just trying to help me understand better and I will definitely look into the cons of the Nordic model. Personally in an ideal world, I do not want sex work to be legalized in any way. When I say decriminalize it for “sex workers”, I’m saying I don’t want exploited victims arrested in the process. I still want Johns/buyers to be arrested at least. It does not mean I support the selling of sex though as I recognize the industry for the monster it is.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 12:15 AM |
| 71 | Confused about our relationship - DESPERATE for helpI think you know the answer deep down about how low effort / toxic he has been to you and how unhealthy the relationship is to your health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 07:05 PM |
| 177 | Confused about our relationship - DESPERATE for helpSunken cost fallacy: the phenomenon whereby a person is reluctant to abandon a strategy or course of action because they have invested heavily in it, even when it is clear that abandonment would be more beneficial. You wouldn’t be wrong to cut him off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 06:50 PM |
| 134 | Confused about our relationship - DESPERATE for helpI’m going to try and read this soon during my break, but I have to say this for now - I don’t believe any man who causes you this much stress to write as much as you did is worth it sis. (I’m not shaming you and I’m happy FDS is a safe space for women, he sounds like a headache though). Edit: There are red flags everywhere sis, I just do not see how he is in any way high value. You deserve better. You met in a very vulnerable way… It is not difficult for us empathetic women to feel connected to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 06:48 PM |
| 150 | How can you tell if "My ex was controlling, abusive, crazy..." etc is the truth from a guy?This is a great question because narcissists have a habit of going on “smear campaigns” about their victims (once they realize they can no longer use us and during the discarding phase). They really do turn the whole narrative around. Like my groomer ex raped and abused me, but he went around telling everyone he knows that I was the crazy bitch, that he treated me so well when it was the opposite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 06:01 PM |
| 59 | The Two Income HouseholdLMFAOOOOOOOOO need to get this tweet framed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 05:37 PM |
| 69 | The “empowerment” propaganda has to stop.This is why I support the Nordic model : arrest the men / buyers who drive the demand and decriminalize the “sex workers” so that they’re not punished for being exploited. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 05:18 PM |
| 182 | The “empowerment” propaganda has to stop.I am so sorry that pedo took advantage of you… I am relieved though that you are safely away now from that exploitative industry. 😔🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 10:00 AM |
| 255 | The “empowerment” propaganda has to stop.“The industry is about breaking the young.” 🙌😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 09:44 AM |
| 19 | Men who hide their child???I think it’s justified to not want to over share about our children. I mostly found it concerning that he used to proudly post about his daughter and now he changed his social media to look like she never was born. He posts about everything else he’s fond of: which appears to be cars and women who are not his wife. I’m totally with you though on not broadcasting every moment on social media as I think privacy matters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 02:43 PM |
| 26 | This quote from Bell Hooks reminded me of why I no longer do 50/50.The sub criticizes the hypocrisy of liberal feminism and seems to be in support of radical feminism. I think any one who is familiar with FDS would understand we are still a feminist sub… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 02:16 PM |
| 59 | Men who hide their child???Mm most men make me want to guard my womb and I don’t intend on letting my guard down until I feel sure of someone as committed and high value as the friend you mentioned. If I’m going to become a mother for someone, he better figuratively worship the ground I walk on. I’m relieved your friend could be a high value example as a husband and father. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 09:20 AM |
| 783 | Man Wonders If Leaving His Urgently Ill Girlfriend At The ER Was, Like, Rude Or Whatever.Oh my god, I hate him for trying to start off by saying his gf is “pretty sensitive”, as if what he did wasn’t a total dick move that any one with basic empathy would feel upset at. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 08:50 AM |
| 30 | How would you feel if your partner said they were open to a threesome?To be honest, it would be a dealbreaker question for me. I’m bisexual, but I cannot possibly fathom the idea of sharing or being shared with a partner. It just turns me off too much and it’s taken me a long time after all the “cool girl conditioning” to come to terms with the fact that it’s okay to have a boundary on what your partner is open to. It personally takes complete mutually desired monogamy for me to be secure so I understand where you are coming from, I don’t think you’re wrong for fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 06:53 AM |
| 169 | Very yikes. They actually do think that not being a monster entitles them to everything.“Nice guys finish last” seems to always be said by entitled men who are not even genuinely kind/ who think they’re owed pussy and worship for simply not being blatant abusers. Authentic HVM respect women without expecting a round of applause. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 06:27 AM |
| 43 | This quote from Bell Hooks reminded me of why I no longer do 50/50.Hugging you from here sis, we live and we learn our worth 🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 05:48 AM |
| 22 | This quote from Bell Hooks reminded me of why I no longer do 50/50.I love that about her name, TYSM for sharing that with us 🤍 (I can’t edit the title sadly, but it will be good to know for future reference) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 05:19 AM |
| 394 | Husband tries to get his wife to sign papers blindfolded then berates her for not trusting him. So shady!! I hope she runs!!He sounds so manipulative, I fear for her life if she stays around him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 11:23 PM |
| 447 | The next time you feel silly, know that there are men out there who will jeopardize their entire bank account funds for the chance to see breasts.Behold - “the logical sex” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 06:22 PM |
| 71 | Do y’all realize how many ways women are shamed for NOT DYING?Poem from @farida.d.author on Instagram Do y’all realize how many ways women are shamed for NOT DYING? We’re shamed for getting older. We’re shamed for having c-sections. We’re shamed for surviving assault. When our mere existence is a defiance to the system that wants our lives missing, we dismantle the patriarchy each time we choose living. I didn’t realize getting older was shameful until I noticed women are taught to dread their birthdays and it’s a taboo for us to say how old we are. I’m 34… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 10:04 AM |
| 104 | If men are the “gatekeepers” of marriage, then all the divorces and marriage breakdowns we see today, is their fault.The types of men to say this are those who typically love to flaunt power without accepting blame or responsibility. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 06:19 AM |
| 13 | Brooklyn 99I felt this comment in my soul! I think the writers do a good job writing flawed, but likable characters. There’s feminist moments, but also some LV choices involved. The series as a whole can be hilarious and wholesome though which is why I like it too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 06:15 AM |
| 438 | When men in professional settings treat you like sh*t when you don't wear makeup. I'm sorry, was this supposed to be a date?!They hate us if we wear makeup and they hate us if we don’t, we can’t win with scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 03:36 AM |
| 382 | This is one of the most horrific stories I have ever seen on Reddit. Thank god she is getting out. How is there not protections for young women like this.Abusive grown men preying on vulnerable teenage girls is such a common experience, it has to end. I feel horrified for her, he was her first idea of “love”. She will eventually understand who he is is the opposite of love and this was a trauma bond. I am hoping the very best for her recovery and healing going forward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 01:42 AM |
| 60 | I hope I’m not the only one who raised my eyebrows with a bit of concern at the age gap here. I hope for her sake he is HV, but FDS has taught me to be wary and some of the commentary made me sick…Referring to her own dreams as “dumb” and “little” also caught my eye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 01:20 AM |
| 72 | I hope I’m not the only one who raised my eyebrows with a bit of concern at the age gap here. I hope for her sake he is HV, but FDS has taught me to be wary and some of the commentary made me sick…Thank you for this quality comment that articulated the possible red flags that I couldn’t quite put my finger on when reading it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 11:22 PM |
| 24 | I hope I’m not the only one who raised my eyebrows with a bit of concern at the age gap here. I hope for her sake he is HV, but FDS has taught me to be wary and some of the commentary made me sick…True true, scrotes hate to see women happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 11:03 PM |
| 23 | I hope I’m not the only one who raised my eyebrows with a bit of concern at the age gap here. I hope for her sake he is HV, but FDS has taught me to be wary and some of the commentary made me sick…This is what I was thinking too. It sounds like an endearing love story, but I pray more than any thing it’s also ENDURING as they both age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 10:55 PM |
| 40 | I hope I’m not the only one who raised my eyebrows with a bit of concern at the age gap here. I hope for her sake he is HV, but FDS has taught me to be wary and some of the commentary made me sick…Mm although I do hope that it’s genuine love and happiness they share, you brought up valid points on why I’d worry for her well-being because we all see our lovers through rose colored lenses. Edit: a male user felt the need to DM me; “y’all are so narrow minded. Who gives a shit about age if you find someone who treats you the way you want to be treated.” Excuse me, I think it’s narrow minded to not understand women feel concern because of countless experiences where age gap relationships + fi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 10:42 PM |
| 48 | I hope I’m not the only one who raised my eyebrows with a bit of concern at the age gap here. I hope for her sake he is HV, but FDS has taught me to be wary and some of the commentary made me sick…I agree that I’m happy she feels loved and respected within the relationship (granted that he does truly value her). I’m more disturbed after reading depraved comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 10:32 PM |
| 43 | In real life, he would have dumped her after 1m of a relationship, because a man would never truly appreciate and respect a relationship where there was no dating phase. It's too much of an easy win.OMG SIS ME TOO! I went from finding it charming to being mad at how inaccurate it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 10:16 PM |
| 169 | In real life, he would have dumped her after 1m of a relationship, because a man would never truly appreciate and respect a relationship where there was no dating phase. It's too much of an easy win.I despise movies like, “no strings attached” starring Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman or “friends with benefits” starring Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake - ironically both released in 2011. These movies give women a false idea that these low effort/low commitment men actually care about us or like it’s so realistic an arrangement like this would be equally mutually beneficial. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 09:30 PM |
| 22 | What is the most messed up way you found out your partner was cheating on you?My first boyfriend broke up with me and proceeded to let me have sex with him still, knowing I was still in love with him. Right after we had sex and after he had an orgasm, I asked him to go down on me and he said he had to go. I felt so fucking embarrassed because I had gone down on him when I didn’t have to, thinking he had the same consideration or thought to at least have the last time we had sex be a mutually satisfying experience. But I shouldn’t have been surprised since he never made me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 11:30 PM |
| 53 | Bell Hooks on letting go of LVM🙏 amen sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 01:01 PM |
| 136 | The new Batman is a Peeping TomI’m disappointed to hear since in The Dark Knight trilogy, Bruce Wayne/Batman is also portrayed to be a womanizer having two women on his arms at parties. I’m a superhero fan, but the objectification of women in some movies make me cringe. Another example was how Tony Stark was portrayed in the original Iron Man. I thank the heavens for Wonder Woman… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 12:51 PM |
| 344 | I was told by a female colleague that at first sight I’m totally unapproachableI once found this to be an insult, but now I take it as a compliment because most men who approach us when we try to be friendly or accommodating are not good men any way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 12:43 PM |
| 125 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I do think there are some women who actually enjoy anal when prepared so it doesn’t have to mean he’s low value, but most of us are not into anal and that boundary is perfectly acceptable. If you are not comfortable with him having done that before or what he said, you have every right to not be with him any more. I personally don’t think I’d feel very secure if a man was into anal as well (I do like to be orally stimulated there, but penetration is too much to think about since I was raped in t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 07:40 AM |
| 35 | Sisters, I beg you... please STOP posting screenshots from other subs, which offer no advice and only highlight disgusting bullshit that men do. WE KNOW these clowns exist. WE DON'T need to see it here all day every day. I feel like leaving this sub because of it. 😫I’m guilty of this for my most recent post which was removed by mods for low effort content. Not taking it personally since this has happened to other user’s posts for the same reason and I see my mistake. Sometimes I get so worked up and triggered myself, I feel tempted to ask FDS for reassurance that I’m not the only one who thinks how I think. However I now understand how this can be more harmful than helpful. FDS is meant to be a safe space for women and I do feel bad for unintentionally mak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 07:32 PM |
| 30 | Why does it take posing as a female for some males to believe us about the misogyny we deal with? I do like the bottom two comments… (Repost with trigger warning for the horrifying top comment, I’m sorry for forgetting)💯 LMAOOOO TRUE SIS! Gave me the same type of ick as the “nice guy” who usually thinks he’s owed pussy now for being a decent person. Then when he doesn’t have a woman’s trust, he can say it’s because he was too nice for thinking we’re human, even though that wasn’t actually all that kind to begin with - it’s basic human decency. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 01:55 PM |
| 1797 | How dare rich and successful men not have harems of 16 year old virgins, like I would have If I had even 1/10th of there powerStrange that I find all the women here better looking than their men?? But even if not, women don’t exist to look pretty for other people. Jesus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 03:29 PM |
| 38 | Hmm, did this seem like an innocent question from him or am i wrong to possibly feel the ick?Thank you for the wisdom, I’ll change my profile to make it less vulnerable. I didn’t think of it like that. This is why I’m so happy I got approved for a flair today. Women here actually look out for other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 12:59 PM |
| 161 | Hmm, did this seem like an innocent question from him or am i wrong to possibly feel the ick?You’re right, thank you for reassuring me to follow my intuition in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 11:38 AM |
| 83 | Hmm, did this seem like an innocent question from him or am i wrong to possibly feel the ick?Thank you sisters for the validating advice and feedback. It sounds like these kinds of guys think using the word “genuinely” and “please don’t take this the wrong way” makes negging seem better. I’ll know better to block and delete if a man questions me for not wanting to choose between protection and respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 11:35 AM |
| 11 | Hmm, did this seem like an innocent question from him or am i wrong to possibly feel the ick?Mm my profile did mention that I’m a feminist, but I’m also feminine and appreciate men with healthy masculinity who like chivalry. I hoped that red pillers would feel repelled by it since I think they’re the embodiment of anti feminism + toxic masculinity, but perhaps lvm read it differently. I hope no one here thinks I was intentionally promoting their language and understand I wrote my bio with FDS principles in mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 11:21 AM |
| 82 | This is why you never stay with a man who expresses interest in anal. What he really wants is to hurt and humiliate you.Thank you for your compassionate response sis. ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 09:03 AM |
| 508 | This is why you never stay with a man who expresses interest in anal. What he really wants is to hurt and humiliate you.My rapist groomer boyfriend who was 22 when I was 17 constantly brought up anal to me almost every time we hung out. I always said no. He coerced me into doing a bunch of shit I already didn’t feel ready for or like to do, but that was something I was set on saying no to. One day on new year’s eve, he got drunk and “slipped it in the wrong hole”. He tried so hard to gaslight me that it was on accident, but he fucking knew… he was a porn addict who could only get really hard from seeing me suffer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 07:32 AM |
| 26 | On dating hood, ghetto street men.“I need a ride or die”, is code for struggle love. They’ll manipulate you and make you feel like you’re too sensitive or entitled for wanting more. I’ll never settle for that again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 08:04 AM |
| 39 | Man admits he uses liberal feminism to his benefit to save money on 50/50 dates & get easy sex on the dating market. He loves 3rd wave feminist women who “flooded the market with easy sex.” Straight from the horse’s mouth - Lib. Feminism benefits MEN. Get rid of LibFems now & replace them w/RadFems.I blocked a guy on online dating within minutes because he had the audacity to bring up 50/50 after my bio clearly stated I like generous men, felt good not to waste my time with a low effort dude. He asked me if I give as much as I receive sexually. Told him I like to be with someone who is happy orally pleasing me and intercourse, but I have a boundary with not giving head due to trauma or having casual sex. He then said he prefers more 50/50 ☺️ I said I’m already giving more than 50/50 when I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 07:53 AM |
| 16 | Euphoria: libfem propaganda or thoughtful series?Not gonna lie, all my friends rave about this show - however I think I’m too uncomfortable watching teenage characters sexualized to the extent in which I’ve heard. I understand tackling important issues are necessary and I think most of the actors are my age or older (I’m almost 23), however I worry about the execution. & I also think the content may be triggering for abuse survivors like me. But I don’t know, some people say it’s really good and others seem to get the same icky feeling I do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 07:48 AM |
| 324 | Has a man ever left you or started abusing you when something negative happened to your looks?Not personally, however my low value dad abused my mother about her weight. My mom had 3 pregnancies and 3 c-sections in 3 years. She lost so much blood and it should be expected she gained weight after sacrificing for the kids. My dad has ALWAYS weighed far more than my mom, despite her being only a few inches shorter than him. She has never made fun of his weight. He once said she looked like a refrigerator and laughed as a neg (my mom told me this happened when I was very young). Because of h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 07:47 PM |
| 116 | I’m tired of scrotes trying to mask their attraction to minors.Seeing the “barely legal” category as a literal child was my awakening on how women are objectified since birth… they want to defend their porn, but can’t comfortably defend the top trending categories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 08:28 AM |
| 185 | This. Is. Horrifying. Husband thinks it’s okay her sister was physically abused and went to the hospital by her boyfriend. Wife hasn’t mentioned leaving him in either post (that I’ve seen)I’m actually crying because of flashbacks to my abuser, why are some males so lacking in empathy. Edit: honestly I think men who defend abusers are prone to become abusive or already have a secret history of it. They get defensive because they’re inadvertently defending their own depraved thoughts about potentially harming women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 02:07 AM |
| 3 | I met another FDSer in the wild! We are growing as a community!I love this and am waiting for the day it happens to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 12:38 AM |
| 42 | I could not find ONE comment saying she’s in the right. He expects her to come over on the first date but gets offended when she mentions him paying for tea. A $2 item. 🥴Liberal feminism - where everyone says having a disgusting scrote pay for pussy is empowering, but we’re also not allowed to want to be treated out / desire more than 50/50. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 11:40 PM |
| 34 | Valentine’s Day cringeLadies, I saw a terrible neg caption on Valentine’s Day. “A lot of fish in the sea, and I caught a whale!” … in a picture where she looks like a total babe and he looked…… Edi: I love whales too, I just hope this guy meant it with the loving context we have for them 😭🤣otherwise, she deserves better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:20 AM |
| 111 | This is why I refuse to date single fathers. Being childfree keeps certain drama out of your life.Damn, this is too real… I’m not Black (I’m Asian American), but do relate. My dad is a classic lvm. Had 3 kids with his first wife, married my mom after she became pregnant (she did not know he wasn’t divorced yet when they met). Had 3 kids with my mom. Was barely there for all 6 of his kids + 1 kid from my mom. And he managed to fuck things up with all 7 of us. All because he couldn’t stop sexually coercing my mom for 20+ years, she left him finally. It hurts my heart when I think about how she… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 02:47 PM |
| 159 | When being a pornsick pickme trying to fulfill an unasked for male fantasy goes wrongI’m cringing for her. This is solid evidence about how being a Pick-me will get us nowhere. Also if he was a real HVM who actually loved her, I don’t think he would have accepted that offer. She shouldn’t have offered up her friend as a fucktoy in the first place, he shouldn’t have used her. The whole situation is dehumanizing to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 10:32 AM |
| 36 | How'd You Find FDS?To be honest it was so random. After Kobe Bryant passed away (rest in peace to Gianna), I was a bit taken aback at how offended fans were when people would bring up his rape allegation. I understood grieving an athlete they highly looked up to, but I also had internal conflict because I was a rape victim who wasn’t always believed. I’m not saying he’s guilty, but the way men and pick-mes painted him as absolutely innocent rubbed me the wrong way… his case was settled outside of court, that doesn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 08:18 AM |
| 87 | Tonight is the night…I was thinking about the same thing. It’s a day of joy and drinks for most men, but a day women in abusive relationships fear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 06:14 AM |
| 306 | Imagine being so mentally weak that your entire mood depends on over-identifying with men who throw a ball around.Jesus Christ and men still say they’re not allowed to express their emotions? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:14 AM |
| 12 | This poor girl needs saving. Porn sick, limp dick... and abusive.This shit is heartbreaking and exactly why I don’t understand why I was called creepy by men on another subreddit for giving advice to a woman about the orgasm gap after losing her virginity. If someone had told me about it early on and gave me a healthier idea of what sex can be, I would have avoided plenty of trauma. Lvm hate it when women come together and share wisdom. They think porn isn’t creepy, but talking about the female orgasm is weird to them. HVM care about and want to change the wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 01:10 AM |
| 192 | Beards change way men look a lot more than makeup. Makeup comes off every day while you only see what men looks like if they shave. Don't trust men with beards.Men be like, “women wearing makeup is why I have trust issues”. like damn bro, that’s wild. Women have trust issues because of y’all deceitful beards on top of the fact 91 percent of women killed by men were killed by men that they personally knew. LMAOOOO Edit: I need more intersectional feminist/ FDS friends! Please pm me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 12:55 AM |
| 153 | Just relax and let HIM worry about the date.I needed to see this ! So many low effort men who can barely plan a date and it forces women to do all the emotional labor. Dating should be a pleasant experience and I won’t hesitate to cut a man off any more who won’t take initiative on taking me on a proper date. If he wanted to, he would. Edit: I got called creepy on a different “female centered” subreddit simply for asking a woman who recently had sex for the first time if she had an orgasm. Got downvoted for warning her about how often men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 01:15 PM |
| 5 | She found out her husband was cheating at 70 and kicked him out! Found love again are 73. Never stop vetting ladies! Do not settle for less.I love how she didn’t allow sunken cost fallacy to make her think she had to stay with a piece of shit just because she was married to him for that long. It shows that women can live with FDS values at any age, we should never have to accept infidelity or lvm behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 08:27 AM |
| 41 | He’s picky af! 7-8ths are only for banging not love.Who wants to bet this guy is a 0 value man? LMAO. I had a scrote approach me, trying to get a date. Once I established some boundaries via text, he tried to neg me by claiming that as a 3 - I have to become submissive if I want a husband one day. I was in shock, like why approach me if I’m just a 3? Are you that desperate? It wasn’t until FDS that I realized he wanted to neg me into changing for him. Good thing I blocked and deleted immediately. If he ever wants a happy wife, he needs to take hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 05:21 AM |
| 12 | Husband “face fucks” pregnant wife for 45 minutes, gets verbally abusive when she wants an orgasm too; OP thinks it’s her fault for “not communicating”Heartbroken because this is the true reality for so many women who think this is normal or acceptable. He doesn’t even go down on her at all it sounds like and he wants 30+ minutes of abusing her face? I’m disgusted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 10:39 PM |
| 19 | "Male - Female friendships" study... Doesn't seem accurate 🤔LMFAOOOOOOOOOOO THEY EITHER LIED OR INTERVIEWED THE MOST WHOLESOME GROUP POSSIBLE? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 02:46 PM |
| 3 | I have received many angry dms from men because of this sub in the last 24 hrs wtf? Anyone have privacy tips, this is getting grossThe self victimization is insane here… he’s really acting as if women have not been historically and still currently oppressed as a class by men since the beginning of time. We’ve barely scratched the surface of true equity. If they’re wanting to Jill themselves over FDS, they would not last a day as a woman dealing with world wide misogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 03:49 AM |
| 3 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?This post really interests me because honestly this is a major thing I still am figuring out within FDS standards. I was raped and abused often in my adolescence, which led to me developing bipolar depression and borderline personality disorder. I do my best not to harm others or use my disorders as an excuse to be toxic. I’m overly emotional, but I’m not cruel. I’m almost 100% sure though my ex has narcissistic personality disorder and I don’t know if I’m a hypocrite for not thinking I could da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 05:27 AM |
| 28 | Testosterone does NOT cause aggression-men have no excuseOmg I’ve had two exes who used Testosterone as a bs excuse. They expected me to be more understanding of their ‘struggle’ to not be abusive because they’re men. LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 07:07 PM |
| 25 | I wonder why he wants to date someone 10 years younger than him…Thank you so very much, this comment felt like a needed hug from a sister. I love this community for helping me learn my worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 11:59 AM |
| 47 | I wonder why he wants to date someone 10 years younger than him…Omg i’m crying because I’m 4’10” so we really did have similar experiences. The way lvm fetishize petite women is disgusting. I’m so sorry that happened to you too. Edit: Need help finding old post about pedos and porn making it worse??? Not the one from this week about normalizing pedos. There was an FDS post I saved too far back that I’m trying to find about how giving men child sex dolls only further perpetuates pedophelia as they start wanting the real thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 11:58 AM |
| 273 | I wonder why he wants to date someone 10 years younger than him…Red flag asf. Two things I heard while underage during intercourse with adult men, “can’t wait till you’re 18 so I can finally say this feels legal” and “you’re my high school slut”… I felt so demeaned, but I didn’t know how to react due to patriarchal conditioning + the world’s pedo porn obsessed culture… When I was 18, I had a man in his early 30s say, “it’s kinda hot that I’m inside a hot 18 year old rn” . I felt so disgusted. I had no self esteem then though and wanted to just feel desired. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 07:34 AM |
| 219 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himThis is why FDS is such a needed space. The rest of Reddit and most of the world are conditioned to excuse male incompetence and encourage women to deal with shit they find incredibly unattractive. Here we encourage women to follow their intuition because we know it’s deeper than a wedding cake. It’s him crossing a boundary and showing that he will do it in the future given the opportunity. She’s smart to take this as a sign to leave him. I don’t think any HVM would behave the way he did. Edit: … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 08:50 PM |
| 1186 | Lil Miss Cheetah catches a Cheater red-handed 🥴😂As much as I hate this smelly looking scrote, I do love that the queens were respectful and supportive of one another / instead of fighting for a man who ain’t shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 08:52 AM |
| 15 | Sigh. Ladies, tell me what you think.Holy fuck, these LVM are so embarrassing. No self reflection. Everything is always our fault. Again, losers want all the credit for our pleasure and none of the blame for our lack of satisfaction. How pathetic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 04:13 AM |
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