I couldn’t find the original source of this text unfortunately, however I felt like this has to be shared. I was groomed into ddlg as a minor & am still unlearning the collective gaslighting from the kink community. Daddy dom/little girl or caregiver/little is not harmless. It glorifies pedophelia.

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recoveringlvmlover · 2022-03-26T08:06:49+00:00

I used to say the dreaded “daddy” during sex. Immediately when I had children i stopped and my stbx husband was confused as to why. Uhm. Because I have a child and it’s fucking weird and I see that now. How do you differentiate when your child is calling you dad and when I am? The thought of him equating the word daddy with AROUSAL made me want to vomit. I’m shocked that that’s so normalized (that and the “step” mom, dad, sibling porn)

Also, I used to work at a bank and a nasty neck beard man would come in SMELLING SO BAD and his gf would be ON A LEASH, covered in bite marks and wearing little girl clothes. 😔

saintbabydoll · 2022-03-26T07:12:45+00:00

i hate ddlg so much. it's so nasty. i don't care if that's how you get off, you should strive to be better instead of letting your sexual desires take the reins like a damn animal.

i'm very short and just built small. i get infantalized a LOT and attract the weirdest dudes. "daddy dom" types love me. also i am east asian and weird nerds which i assume a lot of these daddy dudes are, like anime and think we are hentai dolls. not to mention a lot of anime is pedophilic. once a guy i was talking to called me his "little girl" and it was the most disgusting puke inducing thing ever.

any guy that is attracted to childish traits in women or draws any comparison to a grown woman and a child is absolutely beyond hope. marry a man like this and you can never feel safe with him around your daughters.

kycake · 2022-03-26T07:57:11+00:00

when i first found out about dd/lg “kink” i couldn’t believe it. like people openly admit that they sexualize, get turned on, and get off to children. pretending that a grown ass male and a little girl, a child, are having sex is fucking disgusting. somehow instead of recognizing how harmful and awful something like that is, people were able to brand it as a harmless “kink” yea no. this “kink” is straight up ped*philia.

makeawomancum · 2022-03-26T05:54:22+00:00

I’m sorry I’ve over posted lately as my adhd has my mind racing, I shall calm down. There are shitty men out here being called ‘daddy’ when they don’t even provide or protect. Their undeserving egos are literally getting stroked despite barely or not ever giving their female partner an orgasm. Even if he does objectively “take good care of” her outside of bed, it doesn’t make that sexual dynamic healthy. Just because some ‘dom” may not act on real pedophelic urges, does not mean it won’t still indirectly harm children since people become socialized to think of sexualizing kids as normal when it’s inexplicably fucked up.

Edit; I wonder what offended predators are downvoting since the karma keeps going up and down, LMFAO

sunfloweronmars · 2022-03-26T06:27:10+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you, and thank you for sharing. Ddlg has never sat right with me. Some kinks should be shamed IMO, especially when they harm girls and women like this. To be frank, I’m getting tired of folks acting like shaming insecure and abusive degenerates is akin to murdering baby kittens. Shame in of itself isn’t a bad thing, the ability to even feel shame is a sign you’re still human. TLDR; normalize shame.

broogaloo · 2022-03-26T10:52:03+00:00

I am also coming to terms with the dysfunctional dynamics I was conditioned to enjoy in the bdsm community. Literally fetishizing the denial of orgasm to cope with the fact that the partners I had were too inadequate to actually provide me one. Fetishizing physical and emotional abuse to stroke their little egos.

There is no way for a person to be HV and also have bdsm k!nks. I cannot be simultaneously respected as a human being and also physically abused by my partner for their pleasure, even if I consent. Ddlg is just as (if not more) insidious.

found_thissubfinally · 2022-03-26T09:41:52+00:00

This whole kink is gross.

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-03-26T16:18:15+00:00

"DDLG is tHeRaPy, it helps women go through their trauma!"

I've heard this argument before...and it just bothers me to no end.

You can have stuffed animals and cuddle time and learn to become emotionally mature...heck, this is the "softer" version of people "un-potty" training themselves...these fetishists are regressing and it is a horror show.

And it's mostly women and their gross "Daddys"...just ANOTHER thing men can use to infantilize and belittle women...and even if it was "Dom Mom Little Boy" it would be still friggin' disgusting.

thewetdog_ · 2022-03-27T00:56:05+00:00

Imagine being involved with a man like this, making things official, getting married and then Having a fucking little daughter with him 😩😩😩 this beggars belief

kindly_light_ · 2022-03-26T06:55:57+00:00

i think you have it the other way around - theyre already attracted to children, and use this now semi mainstream kink to express their twisted sexuality

Japanese_Lasagna · 2022-03-26T14:24:05+00:00

I remember people thinking I was a prude when even as a teenager I flat-out said that I would never call a man “daddy” beyond my own father. It is a non-sexual term for me and a label for the most important person in my life. I would not sully that by using it in a sexual context. The very notion disgusts me.

Likewise, terms like “baby,” “babygirl,” and “babyboy” disgust me too because I just think of babies when I hear those terms, and there is nothing appealing about that to me. “Babe” makes me think of that movie with the pig.

I just can’t even with these people.

And yeah, the only couple I know of who does DDlg is a seriously mentally ill woman who’s incapable of holding long-term employment and her husband who I’m certain is a would-be offender if they ever were to have kids. It was her husband who’d initiated the dynamic.

CrazyPaine · 2022-03-28T00:13:31+00:00

So any time the ddlg comes up I literally think of Lolita. That book right there. Woo boy. 🙃 🙃 🙃 🙃 That man that was narrating was the worse. Because that's how men think like how he did.

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