I was accused of rape last year and just got cleared - AMA.

2012-02-13T00:07:30+00:00

I'm going to have to call this one rape. I don't believe if two drunk people both have sex together that one should be able to call rape in the morning if they were both equally drunk and neither one forced the other. But you got resistance, and resistance = rape.

2012-02-12T15:12:53+00:00

"I got some resistance when I started pulling her tights down, but I know that's because had her eye on some guy who was also at the party and she was worried he'd come outside looking for her."

The fuck? It doesn't matter WHY she didn't consent, it matters that she didn't consent. If you got some resistance you should have STOPPED. If she was drunk to the point that her resistance was ineffectual you should have STOPPED. Consent isn't that difficult a thing to understand. You have admitted to getting away with rape; if I had any idea how I'd go about working out who you are from your throwaway I would submit this to the police. If what you describe above matches your legal testimony then the system is broken if you got away with it.

kyru · 2012-02-12T15:49:16+00:00

so you raped her and got away with it, classy

owlet_monologue · 2012-02-12T15:34:15+00:00

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urghblaghablah · 2012-02-12T16:04:30+00:00

You're a terrible person. Please at least learn from this not to have sex with people who may not want to have sex with you.

wellfuu · 2012-02-12T17:24:12+00:00

OP's a rapist in denial

owlet_monologue · 2012-02-12T18:04:46+00:00

We were BOTH really drunk. She felt like she was going to throw up which is why we ended up outside in the first place, so she could get some fresh air. She didn't puke, but we got pretty close (helped because it was pretty cold) and when I started kissing her she did NOT push me away or say no. I got some resistance when I started pulling her tights down, but I know that's because had her eye on some guy who was also at the party and she was worried he'd come outside looking for her. And I have to admit that I kinda wanted to sabotage this guy's chances with her so I may have pushed a little harder than normal, but certainly nothing that constitutes rape, though in her mind she might have made that mistake. She acted weird and sulky afterwards, complaining that I'd hurt her (she had almost ALWAYS complained after sex though) and after she left I literally never heard from her again. I had no idea anything was wrong until the police picked me up so I never got a chance to explain myself to her or hear why she really thought I had raped her. The police said that she had claimed she had said no, but she hadn't exactly been kicking and screaming, so I figure she was too drunk to remember, or had just filled in the blanks with some crap.
I did NOT rape her.

You DID rape her. The details are even more damning. I really hope you begin to see this in a new light. It's a terrible thing to have to realize about yourself, but if you can acknowledge what you did, you can learn from it and never hurt another person in this way again.

DrunkenTypist · 2012-02-12T15:56:44+00:00

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gabboishere · 2012-02-13T00:08:11+00:00

You raped a girl.

You fucking piece of trash.

2012-02-12T18:41:25+00:00

Yes you did. There's a reason a book called I never called it rape exists at all.

Female bodies are not there for you to use, scumbag. Just because she didn't kick and scream, you assumed you could use the body, like she was part of the furniture instead of a person.

You are a rapist, and you got away with it. Sickening.

owlet_monologue · 2012-02-12T18:34:01+00:00

Legitimately accused of rape, falsely acquitted by society. This is why the theory of rape culture exists. This is why we deconstruct victim blaming and attempt to educate would-be rapists--because I'm giving this poor shithead the benefit of the doubt here and blaming the culture that failed him, failed to educate him on the etiquette of sex, failed to give him clear and concise rules involving the respect of others and their bodily autonomy.

eskachig · 2012-02-12T00:10:54+00:00

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MysidianPadawan · 2012-02-13T00:47:12+00:00

This story read differently when I commented before. I swear it was edited or I was in one of my loopy, spaced out mind-states. I got trolled hard. I take back everything I said. I feel like a horrible person now.

eskachig · 2012-02-13T03:24:18+00:00

Your "better" explanation is so rapey it hurts.

thebackwardspumpki · 2012-02-12T03:01:19+00:00

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me_jayne · 2012-02-11T20:45:41+00:00

Good to hear that nothing came of it. Honestly, if I were ever falsely and maliciously accused of something like that, I don't know how I would respond. But violent revenge wouldn't be out of the question.

EDIT: Help. The "not a downvote brigade" is downvoting me. :O

TheHumanTornado3 · 2012-02-12T01:01:26+00:00

shitthatdidnthappen.txt

TheRealPariah · 2012-02-12T01:13:54+00:00

In Great Britain...

Bobsutan · 2012-02-11T22:00:57+00:00

And now you sue. Defamation of character, emotional distress, the whole 9 yards.

furriesrights · 2012-02-11T22:34:41+00:00

Aww that sucks, I'm sorry that happened to you :( Jails suck because they don't let you dress up in costumes. OK maybe prisoner is a costume, but who wants to wear the same one every day? Can't they let you be the cop sometimes? I would be a german sheppy police dog!

JeremiahMRA · 2012-02-12T23:54:48+00:00

NOT rape, but the white knights who believe women have no personal responsibility for their actions sure came out of the woodwork.

MysidianPadawan · 2012-02-12T04:56:58+00:00

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2012-02-12T05:50:32+00:00

At least you got laid ;-D

Was she wet? :3

Title	I was accused of rape last year and just got cleared - AMA.
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Date	February 11, 2012 8:42 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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