Over the past couple of years I became somewhat friendly with the father of my daughter's classmate. By friendly, I mean having a chat when we see each other at school things, the kids hang out, occasional fb comments, erc. He's divorced, extremely attractive and looks after himself. He works hard, earns well, and is very involved in his daughters' lives. He also seemed v intelligent and I always enjoyed talking to him. He's never said a bad word against his ex
In fact, he's never said a single thing that raised any flags. If anything, he seemed compassionate and empathetic, and truly appeared to adore his daughters. I've been to his apartment when dropping my daughter off and it's always spotless.

But one thing always bothered me - a mutual male friend once mentioned to me that it was his wife who initiated the divorce. She seems nice enough - attractive, intelligent, and well-groomed. If he really was such an amazing guy, why did she leave him after 12 years of marriage?

The other day I was talking to another friend who is very close with his ex-wife. She's not a gossip at all, but I asked her straight out why they got divorced. She told me that he verbally and emotionally terrorized this poor woman. She herself witnessed him absolutely raging at the ex-wife over a dirty dish in the sink or no milk in the fridge. He'd constantly call her, checking where she was, who she was with, or to make sure she wasn't, heaven forbid, napping. Apparently he hated it and called her lazy because sometimes she'd take a nap. Whenever he was scheduled to arrive home, no matter where she was or what she was doing, she'd get home 30 mins before his arrival to make sure everything was spotless, or he'd lose it.

I admit i was shocked, but i really shouldn't have been.

Goddesses save us from abusive NVM who are smart enough to know exactly how to put on HVM camo.