Im having a lot of sex and I think that is making me look “easy”

dofneneh · 2021-09-07T03:11:01+00:00

You look easy because, according to you, you are easy. Do you want to change perceptions or reality?

Teacup000 · 2021-09-07T05:14:14+00:00

This is all still a theory I'm working on, so bear with me here:

Sex makes men feel loved and desired and wanted in a way that they don't really get anywhere else. The equivalent for women may be a man telling her how beautiful he finds her and how in love with her she is.

In terms of the five love languages, this would be a physical type of affection contrasted with a verbal type.

Imagine a men comes up to you at the end of the first date and professes how much he genuinely cares for you, how attractive he finds you, and how much you mean to him.

Maybe it would be flattering, that was probably his intent...but it might also feel false. Disingenuous. Hasty.

And that means you might not feel special. You might think he does this with every date, and that you're the rule, not the exception.

That's what I think a man looking for a long term relationship might feel when a woman is quick to sleep with him. If sex is a gift you tend to give away quickly, it won't feel as valuable - then he might not feel valuable as a result.

There's another comment by SunshineSundress that gives advice on how to handle this type of situation that's probably better than anything I could say. I'm a big advocate for honest communication, especially about one's shortcomings, though I probably do this to a fault.

My hope for you is that you'll find a partner who loves you and would work through any issues you have in your relationship, sex or otherwise.

adoctorswife · 2021-09-07T05:12:33+00:00

Men prefer sexually pure women, virgins or low body count. Sounds like you probably already have a high body count so you might want to start practicing self control. Don’t sleep with a guy too soon, don’t sleep with too many guys, and be relationship material rather than hookup material.

SunshineSundress · 2021-09-07T04:48:31+00:00

The slut and how not to be one: what makes a man think a woman is a slut is not how fast she sleeps with him, but her inability to turn previous and current sexual encounters into relationships. To avoid being a slut, be a keeper.

Now, if you already have a high n-count, it is true that men are turned off by this. That doesn’t mean you have no course of action to better your chances and adjust your strategy with this in mind. Check out this post too: So what if you’ve had a lot of partners? It really breaks down what your options are, and explains WHY men are turned off by high n-counts and what you can do in spite of that.

bekkys · 2021-09-07T05:52:12+00:00

Yeah no sleeping with men immediately will make them think of you as a fuck buddy, nothing more. Wait at least 3 months or until you’re officially in a stable relationship to start having sex.

LateralThinker13 · 2021-09-10T00:58:33+00:00

Im having a lot of sex and I think that is making me look “easy”

Because by any common metric, you ARE easy.

Do you think men get turned off by women who have sex too quickly?

Yes and No. Plenty of men who just want sex love a woman who's into sex. But no HVM LTR-prospect will respect you or wife you if you're that easy. Being easy is a way to relegate yourself to plate status.

Hopeful_Pay_6685 · 2021-09-09T19:28:56+00:00

You're basically a feminist since they're sex-positive and into that type of stuff. To be a feminine woman is to have self-control and temperance. Yes, men do get turned off, and a high body count means you're less desirable for marriage.

Why would a guy who wants to be in a long-term relationship with you want a woman who's had many c*cks inside her compared to a woman who's had few to none? Who's more desirable?

I'm waiting until marriage with my bf because the sex will the best long-term and i'm not filling a void. I'm having it, someone, i absolutely love and would die for. What's so special about doing with it with randos who's going to pump and dump you afterwards? I would feel so hurt and broken if a guy i had sex with left me afterwards. And that's why our culture is doomed because of this promiscuous, non-monogamous culture we have.

yourbadformylungs · 2021-09-07T05:16:09+00:00

I think its great you own and embrace your sexuality, however consider having sex with the right man and not just anyone.

If it helps any, idk where you are dating or finding these men but if its online, consider video chatting first. Make sure you know what you want beyond sex and be able to have the will power to walk away for what you really want in the end, a long term relationship. It may take months or years, but stay single and save all that energy for the right guy.

anonyree · 2021-09-20T06:05:28+00:00

If you want long term exclusive partner, 3 date rule. But after that good and plentiful sex. Buy you need to push exlcusive relatively early.

Title	Im having a lot of sex and I think that is making me look “easy”
Author	peanutbutterhottie
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Comments	17
Date	September 7, 2021 2:50 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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