Hi, fellas. I hope you all doing well. Just like I mentioned in the title, this post is about Manipulation and how you can utilize from it not only in Dating arena, but also in other areas of your life. I will share my own experience about Manipulation. I wanna say from the get-go I am not The Darth Sidious and I don't want to seduce the young Alphas by the Dark Side. I will just write down how other people will manipulate you most of the times, how you can save yourself from their manipulation, how you can manipulate people in good ways. In the end, I will mention why you should be aware of Karma, why you shouldn't go too far in Machiavellianism. So, let's start

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How manipulation can be learnt?

For me, manipulation can be learnt by two ways. Either you are surrounded by manipulative people 7/24 of the time (No wonder who they are, family members) or you learn it by your own will from self-improvement and psychology books. Unfortunately, I learnt it by first way and then I followed the second way. First one is practical, for a long time you will suffer in pain and then you start to learn manipulative people's skills/moves. You start to use their weapon against them once and that's the start of the journey.

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The first step for Manipulation is to learn how fool you are. Actually you WERE.

Let me explain it. In order to learn manipulation, you should first observe how other people manipulate you. They will fool you once, twice and thrice. Let them do it and learn their style. And also look inside yourself and be able to see your own weaknesses which is the most harsh part. We all can see other's weak side but only the 1 out of 10 can see their own weaknesses. Find your weak side as soon as possible and fix it permanently or hide it from other people as much as you can.

Important note: I had a sperg friend and when I told him this one he went to surgery and he fixed his nose which was a normal nose. In this part I am not talking about appearance, I am talking about your weak sides that can be manipulated. An example from myself, I have co-dependency when it comes to loving women because of my NPD mother. I either invest more and get needy or I am 100% aloof in order to save myself. I know that this is my weakness, I know that this can be manipulated easily by women who are master manipulators.)

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When it comes to manipulation, everything is possible.

Yes. Everybody has the unlimited potential to do any kind of manipulation to you. Everybody has borders in this life that you can't pass over. It only takes a step and you will see their dark side. This borders could be anything. Some beta can try kill you if you had sex with his wife, some loser friend can make you go down in sneaky way if you become better than him, some girl would like to see your death alive if you cheated on her, your boss can sabotage you if get the same woman he wanted to get, etc. That's why just understand the fact that everybody can do any kind of devilish thing to you if you step over their boundaries. Due to that, always see people's invisible boundaries and never ever step them over. If you do, get ready for dealing with a monster.

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It is not personal. It's is only business.

Sometimes it is impossible to see people's motive. Sometime you think to yourself, why the hell he/she did this to me because I didn't step over his/her borders. Actually, you already did. But the point is that person will never tell you that "You are my worker and I am your boss. You were supposed to obey me not take the girl I have been simping for a month." As you see, when you can't know what their boundaries are, you will get into trouble of thinking that why the hell they did this to me. And as you think to yourself, it will be too late for you to save yourself from their manipulation. It will be too late and you will get damage. That's why whenever you just sense that some person manipulates you in hard way, tries to fuck you up, either save yourself or run away from that person. Just know that you stepped over them without realizing and you don't know how it happened. Don't ask them anything (because they won't tell you the real reason), and don't waste your time for finding out the reason (once time is gone, it can never be gained again). Say to yourself that "It's not personal. It's only business). And move on.

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Gut feelings are your most powerful card in manipulation game.

Gut feelings can save you any kind of manipulation if you are able to use it properly. Your gut feelings have been evolved throughout out the centuries and you can improve it by yourself, too. It will ring the bell when something is wrong and all you have to do is just trust them. Especially when you have the choice of between trusting your gut feelings or other person, always trust your guts. Most of the times even the person who manipulates you will try to make you think that your gut feelings are wrong, they will make think you are not being manipulated and something is wrong with you. That's why don't share gut feelings with someone unless you trust them. I don't know whether it's proven or not but meditation helped me a lot for improving my gut feelings.

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Rationalization is your weakest card in manipulation game.

Gut feelings and rationalizing are like two enemies. One side tells you that say, your gf is cheating on you. It happened to me multiple times, I just woke up one day and I realized that I was cheated on by her. I even saw a dream about her having sex with some guy and when we broke up she told me that that her friend was her daddy. This kind of things will happen without any reason and will be followed by huge amount of rationalization. You will rationalize other people's actions and you will delude yourself by this way. Ignorance is bliss. That's why when it comes to rationalization, always be careful. My tactic is that if I spend my whole day by rationalizing, then my gut feelings are true. If I can answer my doubt easily, then my rationalization is true. Example:

- Did she cheat on me?

- I think no. (Rationalization is true. You are being paranoid.)

- No. Never. She would never do that, she is not that type of person... (4 hours later) Maybe she wanted to cheat, but then she realized that I am her king. (Gut feelings are right. You aren't being paranoid, you just rationalize it).

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Movies and books are good way to learn other manipulators' style.

Well, smart people not only learn from their own experience, they learn from other people's experience, too. That's why it is very useful to watch movies or to read fictional books which there are manipulative characters. I mean, always pay attention their way of dealing with other people and how they achieve what they want. Life is too short to become Master by your own skills, learn other manipulators' skills too by movies and books.

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Be aware of Master manipulators.

The best manipulation is the unseen one. And the best manipulators are never ever caught. Even if they get caught, you can never ever prove that they did manipulate you. They will never ever accept the blame, instead they will shift the blame on you and they will make other people believe that your are the one who is blameful. They will change your understanding of reality, they will challenge your gut feelings and even if you were a fool like me to believe in them, they will damage you in very very harsh way. When you meet the Master manipulator, there are two ways. First, just RUN. Or play the fool and make them think that they are manipulating you. In deep down be able to control the situation and don't let them go too far. If you see that they are going too far, just RUN again. For me, BPDs, NPDs and Dark Triads are this type of people. We all know the BPDs and NPDs but the dark triads. Man, everybody claims that he is dark triad but the REAL bastard dark triads are like pure angelic people from outside. In order to know whether someone is dark triad or not, you should live with him 7/24 of the time. Just, run. Whenever you sense that other person has the master diploma in manipulation, just RUN.

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Machiavellianism in dating game: Manipulation game vs Chad game.

Manipulation has pros and cons in dating area. Unfortunately, learning manipulation will make you lazy person when it comes to fitness. I mean there is a famous cliché "Would we lift weights if we could get the women with beer belly?" The answer is no, we wouldn't. This is the cons and the pro is that you can get any women (but only in long run). It's like a paradox, you can steal any Chad's girl in long run but when it comes to short run you get nothing. That's why manipulation in dating arena works only in social circles and only in long run. In social circles, there is enough time for a manipulator to get the girl, because the girl cannot reject seeing him. Actually she has the obligation to see him everyday (such as at university). That's why if you are about to learn manipulation, realize the pros and cons of it. Don't make the mistake that I did, don't leave the gym out of arrogance.

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The last part. KARMA. DOES. EXIST.

Yes, fellas. Karma does exist when it comes to Machiavellianism. I don't know whether you are Muslim or Christian or Atheist or Deist. Just trust me on this one and don't go too far in Machiavellianism (Don't get paranoid, I am not manipulating you on this one :D). I really don't how it happens, but when you go too far in manipulation, when you get what you want but you still manipulate the other person, when you manipulate the person without any reason, when you use it for devilish reasons, Karma will catch you sooner or later. It always happened to me, sometimes karma was instant, sometimes it happened the exactly one year later. Just realize that manipulation can be done in good ways. In order to save yourself from toxic people, in order to get the girl you want, in order to go upper in career ladder, etc. It's is not always win or lose, it can be win-win, too. I will repeat myself but it is for your own sake. Don't go too far in Machiavellianism. God or Universe or Holy Spirit will give you the karmic lesson. Even those dark triad motherfuckers get the karmic lessons, too. They can manipulate you for sure but Karma is inevitable for them, too.

Disclaimer: Manipulation is a tool and it is amoral just like TRP. It is up to you either use it for good or for bad. My advice is use it for goodness for you own sake.

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That's all I want to tell your about manipulation. Learn to use it for goodness. I hope you all liked it.

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Peace.