For some women (and men), they were abuse victims in childhood and they subconciously seek out the pattern and hook up
with abusive humans, to repeat such a toxic pattern and need healing..... However, ABUSIVE could very well be also shy and introverted. My father was very abusive at home, yet shy among other people. other than that, depends on the woman. Some
women are too young yet to know themselves, and to know people,
so they naturally, like any human, tend to give attention to EXTROVERTED and CHARIZMATIC (not necessarily abusive) people.

However, in a one-on-one relationship, women (and men) usually find out that
being the life of the party doesn't mean being a good partner. so later in life they don't get fooled so easily and don't prefer anymore
those who know how to get attention. Same with men - men also prefer women who attract lots of attention in social situation but later in

life learn ,that
such ability does not always make a good partner.