I don't understand why you want to label yourself as an involuntary celibate.

If someone asks you, you can tell them you are a virgin. Or that it's none of your business if you are embarrassed about it.

I know there are “incels” here. Do you really base your identity around not getting sex? People base their identity around their career, call themselves a doctor, barber, scientist.

They are into sports and say that they are a Madrid fan or a Federer fan.

I know nerds who take pride in their identity even if others use that term to denigrate them.

Is this an attempt to take a slur that hurts you and wear it proudly like a shield? Is it an expression of pain and anger at all the rejection?

Even bastards might say “yes I'm a bastard” in a moment of anger. But they won't form communities around it. I have myopia, it's sad but I don't obsess over it. Don't you guys have other things you can base your identity on. I am a gamer, son, citizen, you know see yourself with better more optimistic labels.

So I ask you, incels and femcels. Why? Do you get any benefit from this...