As the title says I am in a bad place right now. I filed for divorce end of July, we were married for 4.5 years. I am have been the sole provider for our family for the past 3 years as my daughter was born premature. I was the sole provider because I made enough money for us to live. A nice house and a newer car for her. If she made more money at the time I would of stayed home. Our child has cerebral palsy and had lots of appointments. She is now in school and gets all her therapies through that.

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I put my life on hold and did everything for the family. The only thing I asked of from my wife was to take care of the child and keep the house picked up while I worked. I would help out with whatever whenever as I worked from home. I took care of everything else.

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We start having issues in our marriage and I recommend we go to couples counseling, I find a counselor, and off we go. With out going into a ton of detail, I haven't felt like a husband for a since our child was born, I was just a roommate that helps out with everything and occasionally would have sex. The wife does not change and I decide I need to file.

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The first two weeks were fine and we talked about amicably settling this, I told her I am not running away from responsibilities like child support and spousal support. As soon as she found an attorney, we no longer speak and only talk to each other about our daughter. She starts claiming harassment and all this nonsense that is not true and is backed up by messages, bank statements, etc.

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Yesterday I was served with a emergency order of protection clamming harassment, physical abuse, intimidation of a dependent, etc. Pretty much the whole kitchen kink. When they gave me the order it did not include the allegations so I had to drive an hour today to get those. Luckily I am able to stay at my parents house for a bit. The allegations include sexual abuse during our marriage, what equates to being an unfit parent, long standing harassment and a slew of other things. Based on all of those it comes down to any time that I said or did something she did not like its now abuse. I have never yelled at her, have never laid a finger on her. I am not perfect but I have been a good husband, father and provider. I tried to fix the marriage and she did nothing.

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So now I cant go with in 200 feet of her, my daughter, my house and everything else. I gave my all to be able to give them this life and not worry. We are not rich and we lived paycheck to paycheck but in comfort. She wants 50% of my income between child support and spousal support....indefinitely. Our daughter is in school and we can get a babysitter for after school. So now I have to pay thousands more to defend my self against this bullshit order of protection, cant be in my own home with my home office for working, all while she goes on with living like nothing has changed for her.

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This system is fucking broken, I'm broken.