It's actually ridiculous. You know this specific type of man who just doesn't get over anything, and needs a new supply asap to suppress their obsession with losing you? Probably cheats and beats you up and then blames his ex gf from 8th grade who left him scarred and also his dog died 15 years ago. We all have that one (or more) guy. They might mourn out loud for the loss of your relationship while already warming up a new woman, who has no idea what she's getting into. DON'T FALL FOR IT! It is never genuine.

I dumped my NVM ex around two years ago - he was the text book abusive, violent, cheating clown guy who yet tries to hoover you back after you get fed up with their bullsh*t. Mine tried to hoover me back actively for six months. I even moved countries but it didn't stop him. He's blocked everywhere, but his ways are... rather creative.

I thought he had finally let me be, but on Wednesday I was browsing through a certain online forum that I sometimes visit out of boredom, and I actually noticed him there still trying to breadcrumb me on one relationship related thread with his "maybe if me and my ex were single after some years, we could try again, but SHE NEEDS TO WORK ON HER FLAWS TOO". On some fking online forum. While I'm here planning a wedding with my fiancé (who is an absolute HVM by the way). It made me chuckle. The delusion (and audacity) is real.

I literally had a guy come cry to me after a freaking decade about why am I not talking to him or answering his messages on social media. He was the first guy I ever kissed (I was 17 and a virgin) and when I didn't put out after two weeks, he went and banged my best friend of the time. Now I'm 30, and he still tries to follow me on Instagram. I checked his profile and he just got married in August.
I had my very first boyfriend (who also cheated on me) adding me on Snapchat after 6-7 years of no contact, from his contacts list. My second boyfriend was generally a good person, but last time he popped up was six years after I dumped him, it was him moaning about how he will never find anyone like me. Six years!

They never get over. Especially if they were the dumped one. They are desperate for our attention and validation, and they try to control every woman who has ever been and who ever will be in their life, with their little pop ups here and there, their needy messages, their "unknown caller" phone calls, thinking their attention is special and would change our minds about these dusties. It's just a lifetime of relationships proving we are not the ones who should be afraid of "being alone for the rest of our lives". It's clear projection of how needy they are of women, of women's attention and love, and their fear of rejection and non existent self-esteem. Keep the circus running, clowns, but I'm not staying for it.