So, I'll keep this brief. There's probably a better guide out there but it's probably not as short as this.

You've just been dumped, found her cheating, drifted apart or had to end your relationship.

It hurts and you feel like shit. You know what you need to do but are struggling.

Here's a simple guide:

Realize that you're not alone

You aren't not the first person to feel like this. You're not the last. As you read this there are other men currently going through this. They'll live so will you.

You are not identified by your relationship You existed before your relationship and will exist afterwards.

She's moved on

Not that it matters, but she's moved on or will very quickly. Don't entertain the notion that she's sitting by the phone waiting for you. She's more likely to spite fuck or "slut it up".

Lift

This is said a lot but only an idiot would argue against working out and proper diet. Not only do you increase your prospects for a new woman but it keeps you busy...

Keep busy

An idle mind drifts and it'll drift to something familiar.

Burn that bridge

You don't need her phone number, her old photos, that shirt. If you can burn it do it. Not sure why but there's some powerful symbolism.

Don't move on to the next chick

Take the time to reflect and grow. You don't need a relationship. Fuck around but work on yourself. Going from relationship A to relationships B won't give you time to reflect, change or do anything.

Avoid drugs and alcohol

Seriously don't need to explain that.

It's OK to be sad

You're not a machine. Process the emotions alone, behind closed doors or with a close, trusted male friend. Then move on.

It's OK to be alone

You don't need to have a partner. You don't need to get laid all the time. You don't need cohabitation. You do you.

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Anyway, I'll leave it at that. Anyone want to give tips feel free to add to the list.

See you guys in 2022.

Edit: Man this kinda blew up. Forgot how many break ups occur in December.

Hang in there fellas.

Edit: Few things I didn't think that I needed to add:

  1. Focus of this post is for YOU. Only one item on this list mentions the girl. The rest are about YOU and how you handle it. The gist is acceptance of your emotion and allowing yourself time to process it, objective reflection, perseverance through masculine comradery, self improvement, and stoicism. It also switches the perspective from loss and regret/pain to opportunity, and growth. Most of these things can be for any other jarring/emotionally taxing event.
  2. There's a few Chads in here who were calling this a BP post. Something about if you're thinking of her then you're not truly RP. I must apologize to these paragons of masculinity and stoicism for somehow forcing them to read this guide that's clearly not for them. While I agree that if you're upgrading your life and have success, you shouldn't be thinking about her. I sometimes forget that some people are, like Glorious Supreme Leader, are born perfect with no faults, weaknesses, or room to grow. Not going to bother explaining that any guide becomes redundant if it's not needed. Instead, I'll just thank these souls for their insight and wish them a speedy trip to Mount Olympus.

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