What is some examples of a double standard you’ve faced as a man?

63daddy · 2022-02-18T15:45:19+00:00

Personally:

I’ve encountered no men, or no single men allowed venues on numerous occasions. I’ve been informally excluded even more.

I’ve had experiences where I’m disbelieved, because I’m male, even though I have more support for my claim.

I’ve had to sit quietly while women get a preferential voice in meetings or conversations.

I strongly suspect I’ve lost opportunities to affirmative action for women, but can’t say for sure.

Expected to pay for dates.

I’ve been subjected to mandatory trainings which insinuate all men are rapists and which give information I know to be false, but of course I can’t challenge these presenters.

I had to register with selective service. Women are of course exempt.

I’m ineligible for women only opportunities, trainings, etc., that would have interested me.

I was once called a harasser because a woman felt my broad shoulders, athleticism and masculinity were intimidating, though she admitted I never said anything harassing towards her and never touched her in any way. I was essentially a harasser for being a masculine male.

CawlinAlcarz · 2022-02-18T16:55:35+00:00

The biggest double standard that I have encountered and which has impacted me personally is the "workplace conversation" one.

This is basically where a female in mixed company is allowed to discuss things of a "sexual" nature or which make generalizations about the opposite sex (especially in a negative light), with little or no blowback from anyone, where if a male in mixed company had said the same things, they'd be reviled and on their way to HR by day's end.

Stunning-Cost-5752 · 2022-02-18T15:02:13+00:00

Got the cops called on me cause I took my dog to a park by my house years ago. Luckily nothing came of it as I had been going there for years and some of the parents knew me and my dog by name but I stopped going there when kids where present

Tayaradga · 2022-02-18T18:50:03+00:00

An ex said i raped her. I never even touched her sexually as we were still in highschool. I had to prove that i was innocent. But when I actually got raped, nothing happened. Chick walked away scott free. No trial, no charges, nothing. I wasnt even allowed to press charges -.-

jeff_the_nurse · 2022-02-18T18:34:14+00:00

I’ve been profiled for being at the park alone with my children. My wife never has.

WhereProgressIsMade · 2022-02-18T18:47:09+00:00

20 years ago I read a “Christian” marriage book when I was single because I thought it would help me understand what to expect.

The pastor wrote half for men and it was all about things he needed to make sure to do for his wife.

The pastor’s wife wrote half for women and I was curious so I read it. There was not a single thing in what wives should do for their husbands. It was all about what she should expect her husband to do and how to manipulate him into doing it.

It really opened my eyes. The more I paid attention the more I found similar attitudes to that pastor’s wife all around me. Many women want marriage and a husband but not any obligations or responsibilities that come with being a wife.

CryingMadGirl · 2022-02-18T21:06:52+00:00

I’m not a man but

I got sexually assaulted when I was kid by a woman and a little boy about my age. Well, the boy got expelled, but the woman worked for years since no one took it as seriously. (She was my teacher and I was about 9)

Normal-Yogurtcloset5 · 2022-02-18T22:06:35+00:00

When I was in college I was going into NYC with some friends…three women, a gay dude and me (straight). The entire way up there the women were going on and on about feminism, women’s empowerment, how women can do everything men can do, yadda yadda yadda…until one of the tires blew. Then, all three women turned to us to change the tire. I talked about the double standard and their BS feminism for the rest of the night…even after they told me repeatedly that they were tired of hearing about it. I reminded them that they wouldn’t have to hear me talk about it if they had lived up to their feminist ideals by, at least, helping with the changing of the tire. But, since it was “dirty work” they were more than willing to expect the men to do it and that’s why their feminism is BS.

TheLargeWizard · 2022-02-18T20:31:08+00:00

In high school, girls were allowed to play on the football team, and wrestling team, and pretty much any other “boys” sport in school because not letting them do so would be sexist. They never once let a boy play on any of the girl only teams like volleyball. Total double standard.

Alarming_Draw · 2022-02-18T22:03:44+00:00

in a bar with bunch of new college people. A vile loudmouth rich girl was literally laughing about poor people and boasting about how she was going on ANOTHER ski holiday soon, paid for by mommy and daddy. I mocked her posh accent as her behaviour disgusted me. Within SECONDS three random men had surrounded me 'protecting' her as she got more and more loudly angry at me for my brief response.

never upset a woman in public unless you are prepared for idiotic white knights to run to her damsel in distress act.

for the record, the story has a great twist and i came out on top. but for a while there things looked very bad for me in the face of the angry guys....

Now imagine a woman saying even the worst things about a man in a public place. we KNOW NO women will step in and get involved. we know because people have run public experiments that prove men defend women, but women never defend men. theres your double standard.

togotfury1983 · 2022-02-18T23:43:06+00:00

My very first day of kindergarten I accidentally stepped on a girls heel. She responded by kicking me between the legs. When I tried to hit her back, the school principal who had watched this grabbed my arm and twisted it so hard it bruised and said, "you don't hit girls." I got punished for trying to hit her, she didn't get punished for actually hitting me

therenousername · 2022-02-18T23:00:47+00:00

Google my wife yells at me then Google my husband yells at me (some of you may have seen the meme and it's true its pretty much disgusting and very disappointing)

3-10 · 2022-02-19T02:00:25+00:00

Army: Women didn’t have to do the ruck marches.

Women didn’t have to carry the SAW or the 240.

Women who were abused were allowed any amount of time to seek counseling. My bunk mate was going through a bad divorce and was told to cut back on his multiple appointments a week. He committed suicide.

I was told I was malingering after being injured on deployment and going to PT and charged. Girl, slipped in ice and broke her leg. No one cared she took 4 months off for therapy. (Charge was dismissed on appeal). She got 40% a year later. I didn’t get any coverage, but still have bolts in my leg.

Al_Modir · 2022-02-19T03:55:18+00:00

Women being allowed to reject sexual advances from men and expecting to be treated with respect for exercising bodily autonomy while being allowed to go absolute apeshit at men who reject their sexual advances. You ever rejected a girl? Every man should try it once in their life to get a bit of perspective.

DirtyPartyMan · 2022-02-19T00:14:15+00:00

Marriage. Relationships. Tax law. Divorce/Child Support & Alimony. Custody Cases. Law Enforcement Responses to Domestic Disputes. Prison Sentences for identical offenses. Selective Service (Draft).

It’s really a long list. These are just a few.

togotfury1983 · 2022-02-19T00:22:37+00:00

My very first day of kindergarten I accidentally stepped on a girls heel. She responded by kicking me between the legs. When I tried to hit her back, the school principal who had watched this grabbed my arm and twisted it so hard it bruised and said, "you don't hit girls." I got punished for trying to hit her, she didn't get punished for actually hitting me

MGTOW_and_Bitcoin · 2022-02-18T14:14:13+00:00

Here is a very short list of the major issues of feminist hypocrisy: Issues MGTOW talks about, but gets banned over. It's clear that Society sets men up to fail even before there are allowed to mature and catch on to the hypergamy game or the feminist cover-up.

But we men should be responsible for learning from our own experiences if not from the experiences of other men.

The things I list, I list because I believe there is institutional power or strong social conventions behind these issues which forces or manipulates men into these types of discriminations or affords women various types of privileges.

I'm not concerned with a man who acts thirsty.... let him throw away all of his opportunities and wealth just to sniff a vagina or two... I really don't care beyond introducing the red pills. It's the things which men are gaslighted into or legally forced into that has to be addressed. Thus, what matters to me is how Society and governments step in and force or manipulate men in ways it does not do to women.

What follows is the list of real grievances:

The court system tells fathers that they have rights, but mothers can frequently infringe upon father's rights with impunity.

The first Institute set up to study domestic violence concluded that women commit a larger amount of domestic violence...

Women can commit (4) of the worst imaginable crimes and it's not labeled as such: women can take children away from fathers, extort fathers using their children, remove father's from the most important role as a parent and force them into indentured servitude.

Women commit the worst imaginable type of violence: taking away your rights to your own child and women commit this act everyday in family and divorce court. I dare anyone to point at a more violent Act.

Women are allowed to legally extort and interfere with parenting time for men for resources or just some cruel Vendetta by using his child, and these "judges" slap these women on the wrist when they should be losing custody.

The most important role of a parent is making financial decisions (like what clothes to buy, if the child goes to a daycare, what daycare, what sports to get into, what books to buy them, etc.) Child support takes away all of those choices from fathers and give them to mothers, who go on to conflate it for their contribution as a parent. Worse still they further alienate fathers by calling him cheap while he is paying her way in life, paying to support her lifestyle.. etc. Make no mistake about it this is Parental alienation at its most basic level and it's built into our family court system.

Women can Force men into lifelong indentured servitude using legal devices like permanent alimony. Wtf...

All of these three crimes should be showing up on the statistics showing and proving the criminal deviance of women. And again I can't find any other crime that is worse than these four.

Women can put men in jail on a mere accusation and these women get away with 4 of the worst crimes imaginable...

Western women will complain about clitoral mutilation in the world, and circumcise infant boys without any possibility of consent.

Women can practice all forms of prostitution, but men will still be held as criminals for participating.

Feminist complain about men stalking women, physically and verbally abusing women, but complains when a man or boy fights back or when men complain about cancel culture harassing men at work.

Feminist complain about sex trafficking which forces women to serve men's sexual needs, and then they ignore all the men who are forced into indentured servitude in order to serve women's lifestyle needs.

Men are not given fairness under the law like due process or the assumption of Innocence, when it comes to gender issues... so it is men who lack basic rights whenever women complain.

Women complain about not having a voice in the media and yet that's all the media reports on meanwhile men's issues get marginalized, demonized and the manosphere gets deplatformed for talking about men's at issues like this.

Western women complain about arranged marriages in the world and continue to ignore how men are also forced into these marriage equivalence like common law which forces men into marriage all over the world.

Western Women will complain about not having parental choices even though they have the option of abortion adoption and legal abandonment, and continue to ignore how men do not have even one choice to be a parent and how women consistently force men into parenthood in a way that they would never find acceptable if done to themselves.

They will complain about Harvey Weinstein getting naked in his own hotel room with an aspiring actress who takes that deal, then they will March down Main Street completely naked writing the word slut on their body with their own menstrual blood.

They complain about representation in all of the easy air conditioned offices, and ignore their lack of representation in all of the hard heavy dangerous dirty Work.

They yell and complain about the wage Gap and they ignore all the other Financial gaps like: the child support Gap, the net taxpayer Gap, the alimony and palimony Gap, the consumer spending Gap, the car insurance and Healthcare premium Gap, etc, etc...

They complain about fairness under the law and then they promote antifather discrimination in divorce and family courts.

They complain about manspreading in the trains and then put their purses on empty chairs or support women pouring bleach on men's crotches.

They complain about equality in the workplace and then they look for special privileges like menstruation leave,

They point to news events where women are held captive like Boko Haram and then they ignore how all of the young boys and men were slaughtered. And then say that women are more affected fine the Injustice is against men.

They March alongside black lives matter and then they support economically disadvantaged black father's going to jail the next day in child support cases.

They complain about men not marrying women and yet they also complain about the institution of marriage but also how there are no men worth going through the process of marriage and divorce rape... but they're also 70 to 80% more likely to initiate divorce.

They complain about not being able to get ahead because of all of their student loan privilege and then they ignore men who can't get ahead because of the excessive alimony, palimony and/or child support orders.

They complain about civil rights protection for all women and then they take all of the rights away from fathers (Tender Years Doctrine, Title 9, and the default full custody for women)

Capable-Service33 · 2022-02-19T08:20:29+00:00

I'm MtF. As a man there was a constant expectation of productivism. I had to constantly be pushing myself for my future wife and kids. Taking estrogen people felt less need to be angry at me and push me to work. I was allowed to rest.

Samniss_Arandeen · 2022-02-18T17:22:50+00:00

Modern relationships are the biggest double standard ever. The man has to put in all the work just getting the relationship started, suggest/ask out on/pay for all the dates, assume all the emotional investment, perform the lion's share of material provision only to be taken for granted, be a rock for the whole family yet when he needs support they immediately turn on him, be dumped for absolutely no reason and taken to the cleaners for it.

Lice138 · 2022-02-19T16:40:30+00:00

In a professional business setting men have to be covered except for their hands and face while a woman can have purple hair and wear a black shirt skirt and a low cut top, then they will complain about the air conditioner being on and how it’s not fair that men set the thermostat so low.

Mavgrim · 2022-02-19T17:36:15+00:00

I'm a guy. A woman grabbed my butt in broad daylight in front of multiple witnesses. I protested and I was laughed at. The irony is that I was the one who got shamed for protesting. Fuck feminism to hell.

evaneli13 · 2022-02-19T00:50:16+00:00

Being called a dog for sleeping with many women but call a woman a slut and you are sexist.

I worked my ass off to be a "dog". Lots of time, pain, money, strategy, working out, grooming, walking on eggshells trying to say the right thing, and showing value.

Women don't have to put even a tenth of effort a man has to put in just to get laid.

3 hours of makeup is barely an effort.

You know how many unattractive women get laid? A 3/10 will do better that a 7.5/10 man any day of the week.

A male slut is a badge of honor. Can't say the same for women.

Why do you think women like men who are taken? Because it shows value, yet you don't see men jumping to impress a woman who is the town's scooter.

qianxiaonai · 2022-02-23T12:01:08+00:00

I think it's about child care. I've had a group of teachers abduct my son when he was crying outside kindergarden. Literally rip the crying boy from my arms. Contrary to feminism which demonises mothers, in the hind brain the female drones in the feminine collective embody the belief that childcare is for mommies.

5Vegan5 · 2022-02-19T05:32:14+00:00

Well although I haven't tried much but according to my small experience, Dating Apps/sex related things These all are highly dominated by girls, I mean a girl can easily get right swiped/texted often but a man will hardly get a reply back even . And this sucks a lot according to me... Cause these girls have stop giving respect to even genuine guys, and literally ignored a bunch of numbers.

Although I haven't used Tinder apps etc but i have gone through one of the app and found this in 2-3 days only ,also other people tells the same.

Aleksz_ · 2022-02-21T15:45:56+00:00

I was once in hospital. Had a shared room with another dude. We were cool and had alot of laughs.

Right next door to us we had 2 female patients, and one of them was totaly bat shit crazy. She was EXTREMELY emotionally unstable. Her room mate asked to not sleep with that person 1 more night, which is understandable. The next day there was another female patient that had to fill the void, cuz empty beds are expensive for the hospital. Yea, same shit. The crazy one attacked the new patient instantly, accused her of beeing a fat slut and threw all sorts of words at her and you could hear that miles away. Just as a reminder: We had a room right next to them.

I called the docs over the phone because i felt like they were going to fight and someone is going to get hurt. The doc came, he dealt with the situation.

Next day they talked over it and nothing happened. No consequences. And guess what, yeah. The crazy one started another fight a few days later. Still no consequences.

I just asked myself this: Dude, if I did that in a damn hospital (btw not mental hospital or anything just a regular hospital) as a man I would be kicked out iiiiiinstantly. No question about that. I asked one of the docs that were responsible for us at that shift about that and he told me straight up: Idk man, does it even matter?

I was like: Fucking hell man are you kidding me?

Ofc I didnt say that, that was just my thought process but I was clearly shocked.

In the same week the girl that got attacked complained aswell to change rooms or to remove her. A senior physician got involved into this because nothing happened. I only thought to my self: Oh boy here we go.

The senior physician took quick action. He threw the crazy one into a mental hospital that was suited for her needs, apologized to all the patients who had to go through that and dont get me even started how he talked to the doctor overseeing this who was responsible in the first place for not taking any action.

Phantombiceps · 2022-02-19T04:29:10+00:00

Anytime i throw myself on the ground and get really into my chew toy, writhing around , grunting playfully as i shake that thing in my jaws and go to town on it with my teeth, I get judged. But when my dog does it, somehow it’s “appropriate”.

Ok_Expression_6793 · 2022-02-19T18:34:47+00:00

if a double standard exist. I look at the dualistic binary concepts in beaded in a triad to help think what is going on. I am working on white and black. and the triad is not logical for humans in the triad. Note: Humans can from the earth. to survive as man and female (a dualistic binary) in the environment to have a child. see evolution-existence-extinction. the color white and black is black adsorbs-white reflects Back absorbs heat. white reflects heat. see grey scale. see color wheel of triads. see music scale of triad. How the dualistic concept of white and black is brought about by using thought-thinking-Knowledge in a bad way that cause conflict. I have watched BIG COCK CULT. and BNOW That has a view of what to do. be kind/love- be kind/actions be kind/life. Now way is this not working

Title	What is some examples of a double standard you’ve faced as a man?
Author	crusadingRABBIT
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Date	February 18, 2022 2:09 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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