Okay...I know I've posted previous post D-bomb (initiator) indiscretions here. To be clear, I'm not looking for validation or disparagement. Just sharing.

So...Had no plans tonight. If you read my previous post, I learned a hard lesson about going "out on the town" on an empty stomach. So I made myself an early dinner before I headed out. I ended up going to a bar about 18 miles from my house. When I go there, I was literally the only customer there. The bartender was a late-20s/early 30s Latina. She wasn't "hot" in the subjective sense, but she wasn't unattractive either. I get the vibe that this isn't a Millennial/Gen-Z "safe space" so I'm just being real.

So while it was just the two of us, and later, just a few other patrons, we kind of chit-chatted. We vibed on a number of levels. We both come from a Latino background, so we shared a lot from that standpoint. Turns out she's like a cocktail maestra (or so she claims) and a foodie. Big turn-ons.

Later, some girls that she seemed to recognize came into the bar, and sat at the opposite corner. Full disclosure, I'm 46M, and not exactly an Adonis physical specimen. I confided in her, and asked, "How old are they?" She said, "I think around the same age as me, 27." I was simultaneously horrified and turned on by that number. Based on our conversation, I assumed she was 30+, but physically, it made sense. She definitely had a youthful vibe.

So, as I was wrapping up my tab, I scribbled a note on the receipt, and told her that I really enjoyed the conversation we had that night, and that I thought she was an "amazing woman." And I really meant it. I left my number, and said, "Would love to hang out, but if you want to ghost me, I understand, and NBD."

So yeah...I was either incredibly bold and brave, or incredibly stupid. Haven't heard from her yet, and may never. But post D-bomb, I'm learning to find my b@lls again...