G.L Lambert is trash (@8plus9 on twitter)

pickmieshaexorcist · 2022-03-07T18:59:37+00:00

Never trust a male dating guru who aims his advice at women. At best, they just fancy themselves kings holding court over a harem of fawning courtesans. At worst, they actively participate in perpetuating gaslighting and abuse by giving advice designed to break down women’s intuition and sense of self-preservation.

TikiTikiTata-chalala · 2022-03-07T17:47:31+00:00

A lot of these mysoginistic broski's are successful bc the initial advice they offer makes sense, but the more they expand why the more their values show

Sekina7 · 2022-03-07T21:29:30+00:00

AGREED

throwaway12380404 · 2022-03-07T23:07:00+00:00

I disagree, his work really helped me through a narcissistic relationship. I know he uses a lot of curse words and is not everyone's cup of tea but he really reinforced to me how to have more self respect and his book "Why men don't love women like you" was such an eye opener. It's because of him I didn't go back to my narcissistic ex and knew I had to level up. I am grateful to his work. My favorite lines from his book:

"You may not want to lose him, but you have no choice. Your man isn’t moving away from you, the universe is pushing him away. If you truly are a Spartan, then you recognize this is not a tragedy, it is your will. The fact that you two can no longer stay on the same page, no matter how hard you try, is all the proof you need to walk away. Even if you bent the rules of time, this boyfriend, your last boyfriend, the ones before him, none of them would have made it. If your eyes were this open and your confidence this solid, you would have attracted a much stronger man, but you didn’t. You got the man who the old you manifested, needed, and deserved. This is the truth you don’t want to stare in the eye, but you must. Your relationship doesn’t need to be reset; it needs to be erased.

You are your own salvation, and for the first time in this life, you should understand that you don’t need a man’s love to save you, complete you, or uplift you; yours is enough. The stronger you become, the stronger you will attract. This was never a love story; it was always meant to be a rise to power."

dangereusefemme · 2022-03-07T21:52:55+00:00

He talks in many, many circles. Educated black men have a tendency to do that, the mental gymnastics they spew will have your head spinning with that type. Black women (his target audience) need to have their discernment on 1,000 because he has a stake in black women keeping black men’s desirability in tact. If at least 50% of BW figure out that they are being played, especially with guys like him who exist in that precarious grey area, they will not waste a lot of time on something that is not numerically possible. You can’t “Manifest a Boyfriend” (a name of one of his articles btw—) when the numbers of your community do not exist. furthermore, how can you manifest a whole human being? Ridiculous. Forget the new age stuff, dating is a numbers game. And yes, While he does actually provide some very good material, and produces some salient and applicable points to the dating and marriage game, one has to have an extremely good nose for sniffing out the bullshit in his writing. Take the meat and spit out the bones with that dude’s content.

BedazzledSwashbuckle · 2022-03-08T18:09:28+00:00

He's a good way to see into the minds of psychopathic, angry men. A lot of them do think this way.

A lot of men generally are encouraged by their male peers to think this way. If you have to handle / work around them (hopefully for a finite period of time), some of his "tactics" can work. I've liked the books simply because I can point the more "pickme" of friends toward them and they will eagerly start them and then .... pause. Even if they like the clarity of what he's saying, his degrading tone and the overall admission that he's shallow and brutal and doesn't really bond with women ... gives them pause. (Then I slip in all the areas where he and Dworkin agree with each other about men - there are SO. MANY. - and we are off to the rad fem races!! ;) ).

He's a great way to understand how a psychopath approaches what the rest of us think of as relationships.

I don't think he's realized that he's a psychopath yet, though. Or he'd mask a bit better.

Repulsive_Ad5357 · 2022-03-07T21:49:46+00:00

I read his book, “Men Don’t Love Women Like You”, this week.

The first 100 pages had several main messages/themes: - Above all, it emphasized that you are not special for existing, having a pussy, being hot, having a job, being independent, or for anything else a woman might normally take pride in. It was very insulting (on purpose, he explicitly writes that he wants to take basic women down a peg several times.) You shouldn’t think of yourself as different or better from other women, because you’re not. EtcEtc - Several stories of really horrible things happening to women for the crime of falling in love with a low-value man. - Basically saying that men are not looking for love, will not love you without manipulation, and are all just looking for holes to fuck.

This part of the book genuinely made me cry, both because it was very genuinely mean and because if men are truly so awful and manipulative all across the board, requiring strict counter-manipulation to obtain one that might still cheat on you anyway- I don’t really think I’d want one. The outlook was just very bleak.

Then the next 200 pages is for his solution. Do you know what his fucking solution is? I’m not fucking around here, his solution is basically just confidence. Believing that you are inherently different from other women, and remember that you are special JUST FOR EXISTING. Believing that you are special and that men want you because you believe you are HOT, because you HAVE A PUSSY, because you are INDEPENDENT and don’t need a man anyway. Literally the exact things he just finished telling you were worth nothing.

I shit you not, it felt very much like male manipulation tactics. Cutting you down and making you believe there is no hope, then building you up so that you believe your success is attributable to this dude. It felt like grossly obvious and unpleasant attempted manipulation, and I was mostly disgusted for the rest of the 200 pages.

In short, I didn’t really like this book and don’t think it’s worth recommending to any woman who already has confidence and self respect lol. If I were to pick up a dating advice book again I’d check to make sure the author was a woman.

Title	G.L Lambert is trash (@8plus9 on twitter)
Author	Africanaissues
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Date	March 7, 2022 1:59 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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