Had a guy lose interest because I told him I do not like to party

4evaneva · 2022-04-19T12:26:36+00:00

This reminds me of when I was on OLD years ago at 25 and matched with a 32 year old who turned out to be friends of friends with people who I would culturally consider to be older brothers. That would already be an unmatch but out of curiosity I kept messaging, and he hit me with the whole party boy lifestyle when the older brothers were all either married or just about to and I was thinking, you’re really 7 years older and still living like this…

frostedgemstone · 2022-04-19T10:52:42+00:00

They really are very confused. They reject women who party, sleep around, etc but refuse to date women who don’t do that bc they’re “boring.” Not really getting the logic there

Tharwaum · 2022-04-19T10:47:33+00:00

I’m convinced that party is code for sleeping around or being able to fuck easily. 🙄 Major bullet dodged!

AyemHerself · 2022-04-19T11:27:51+00:00

They don't want wife material, that's the point. They want to fuck around while convincing themselves they have no other option because the "modern woman" isn't worthy of their love.

oscine23 · 2022-04-19T16:50:50+00:00

He lost interest because he realized he wouldn’t have the opportunity to get you drunk and take advantage of you.

kulaykahel · 2022-04-19T11:47:24+00:00

My ex-boyfriend was like this. I don't like partying with people I don't know and going to clubs and he shamed me for being insecure. He said the reason why I don't like interacting is that I'm not confident enough. Men suck, to be honest. Lol

oddcharm · 2022-04-19T13:51:13+00:00

yes girl I am proud of you for getting the lesson right away! All those hot takes on how men don't respect women who ABC or XYZ is them talking out of their ass. We already know he's an immature one lol

Struggleis4real · 2022-04-19T18:43:49+00:00

Gahaha love when they weed themselves out! I had a guy unmatch me when I told him I didn’t have IG lol!! He wanted a harem to breadcrumb and orbit yikes.

Moira_Spice · 2022-04-19T21:03:46+00:00

Lol not a YOU issue babe. You're totally fine not appreciating parties.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-04-20T05:55:14+00:00

Do this instead: you lose interest when he doesn't meet the checkpoints.

Say "um, yeah, that's a deal breaker for me, sweety."

It will put them in their place.

It's them that have to compromise for you, not the other way around.

nana19_ · 2022-04-20T01:03:13+00:00

Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees!

sjsjsjjxjskskx · 2022-05-29T00:45:04+00:00

Someone not sharing your interests like partying isn’t a red flag

djdjsjuxud · 2022-06-14T17:30:25+00:00

Calling men confused idiots is pretty sexist ngl

ThemaskedGoose · 2022-08-08T02:18:13+00:00

Your 50% you’re dads nut

2022-04-23T20:45:38+00:00

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Title	Had a guy lose interest because I told him I do not like to party
Author	Africanaissues
Upvotes	979
Comments	40
Date	April 19, 2022 9:55 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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