We always talk about men's social media habits, but we really can't forget about ours.

This is a topic that I wanted to post on /FDSLevelup (shameless plug), but thought it would gain more traction here.

Ladies, part of being a HVW is carefully curating your social media content, or not having social media at all. For those of you who use Instagram, you may have been inundated with posts of half-naked women, thirst traps, etc. You may even be thinking that those women have the respect and attention of men, because they post photos like that and get thousands of likes.

Do they have the attention of men? Yes. Do they have the respect of men? No. Sexual desire does not equal respect, as I've said many times before.

Not only does what you post online matter to men, but it matters to your future employers and educational pursuits, too. Ask yourself, would you be happy if your future employer found your social media content? Would you be happy if your future children came home from school one day crying that the other kids at school were sharing pictures of their mother?

Women are leaving nothing to the imagination, parading around in lingerie and bikinis in inappropriate situations in a feeble attempt to get internet points. They are forgetting that these photos are out there forever. These photos will also be used to make a quick surface level judgement about them, without actually getting to know the women behind this content personally.

Simply put, a woman who does not respect herself is easy prey in the eyes of men. These men will think that these women are "for the streets" since they lack modesty and are advertising themselves to hundreds, if not thousands of random people on the internet.

Also it makes no sense to me. Why post photos like this? You're giving men more content to masturbate to. They aren't admiring your "beauty."

As a HVW, here's some tips for a carefully curated social media account:

  • NEVER post lingerie pictures of yourself. I don't give a fuck what size you are. If you're trying to masquerade a feeble attempt for attention as "empowerment", you are doing it wrong. True empowerment is feeling confident with who you are and what you have to offer, not looking for the validation of random internet strangers and men with one hand on their dick while they post some fire emojis on your photo.
  • NEVER post anything in an extremely suggestive pose. I'm all for fitness and bodybuilding, but the thing that irks me the most is people who insist on upload photos or videos of themselves in extremely suggestive/sexual poses. No Jan, I don't need to see you in a bikini in doggy style to see how you do glute kickbacks.
  • NEVER post a bikini picture out of context. Bikini's and swimsuits belong at the beach. Men don't need to see you in the bikini on the beach spreading your asscheeks to know you were at the beach.
  • Be CAREFUL of the people and content you follow. When I had Instagram, I would do a clean sweep on a quarterly basis to get rid of any acquaintances that would ruin my image. I had "friends" who decided to post these raunchy photos of themselves. I had some friends who thought they were going to be the next big thing on OF. I removed them from my following and I removed them as followers. Men will make the assumption (incorrectly), that you are one of them. Birds of a feather flock together etc.
  • Do NOT air out/post your dirty laundry on social media. Nobody gives a fuck that you and your boyfriend broke up for the 7th time in the last 72 hours. This shows a lack of awareness and credibility for keeping information personal.
  • Do NOT post passive aggressive statuses about ANYONE. Not only does this make you look problematic, immature, and childish, it also signals to other people that you do not have a mature communication style.
  • Do NOT continue to be friends with men you've chatted with a few times on OLD on your instagram. For one, these men don't deserve to have the key to your life to even be allowed to access your instagram. Secondly, having a large collection of random men from dating apps on your social media accounts makes you look desperate IMO.
  • DO have a private account, if you must have instagram. Be selective on who you let “in” to your life.

Do not compare yourself or your self worth based on the attention you get from men online. The wrong kinds of men will be the ones attracted to this content. High value men care about their appearances and respect women, and would not be caught dead dating someone who does any of the above seriously.

Curious to see if you have anything to add.