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| 2 | Followed RPW advice a lot, but no dating success :( 21FThank you so so so much for this! I have been feeling down since my last breakup and I've been doing everything I can to prioritize and level up. I have even bought my dream car last week, and I am so grateful of all the ways I could achieve my dreams, slightly shy of turning 30. Faith and patience... putting my trust in God. He will have me figured it out even when I don't! <3 | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/24 04:24 AM |
| 2 | Men commit only when they're ready. Doesn't matter how great you are.This is beautifully written! Unfortunately I don’t have an Econ degree. Would you mind rephrasing in laymen’s terms? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/24 06:37 AM |
| 1 | How To Keep a Man Interested while Waiting For Marriage to have sexGod bless your heart and soul! Truly God has given His words to your spirit. This comment really reached me… I was dating an Orthodox Christian man and things got heavier than I would have liked. I found myself wanting a commitment and he couldn’t commit, he said he wanted access to me as friends, best case scenario as FWB. I was hurt, but I made damn sure I didn’t reveal how hurt I was. He was just an immature 30 year old man.., stuck in his party boy ways. I told him I wanted to end our dati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/24 05:36 AM |
| 2 | Confidence for the Single RPWThank you 💓 | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/23 07:15 AM |
| 2 | Partner says we cannot be together in the futureYou’re a saint for bringing light. Bless you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/23 04:36 AM |
| 1 | Partner says we cannot be together in the futureThat’s what all of those men say. He’s not independent if he’s bowing down to Mommy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/23 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Partner says we cannot be together in the futureForget him. He already showed you how irresponsible he was by asking you to be his gf in the first place. Harry relinquished his title for Meghan. His grandmother’s uncle Duke whatever his name abdicated the throne for Wallis Simpson, an American divorcee. Your pathetic excuse of pansy ex ain’t worth a penny for leading you on. Sure. He can run off with a virgin maid from back home. You still won at the end because you dodged a massive bullet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/23 04:33 AM |
| 7 | Stop Chasing the Honeymoon PhaseYou are so lucky! It is telling that you are grateful for your sweet relationship with your husband. Keep praying for the rest of us ladies! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/23 03:25 AM |
| 1 | How to stay interesting as a housewife?Thank you for posting this! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/23 03:29 AM |
| 12 | How to spot the difference between a masculine figure and controlling man?How does he react when under stress and pressure? How does he demonstrate signs of anger? How does he speak of his former girlfriends? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/23 04:43 AM |
| 2 | What was your timeline?Definitely enjoying the posts. Thank you for sharing, ladies! At late 20s, I definitely feel anxiety even though I consciously know I shouldn't. I didn't have dating experience as a kid. Just generally shy, socially anxious, was and still is prone to limerence (ugh!!!!). Parents highly discouraged me from dating when I was younger too (cultural bullshit). So now that I'm getting closer to 30, I'm all of a sudden supposed to know how to date then somehow get married? *sigh* I bring my prayers up … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/23 05:05 AM |
| 10 | Ladylike TipsStop swearing. Be intentional. Slow down your walk. Slow down your speech. Never correct someone if they’re wrong in public. Be gracious. Be graceful. Be polite and be pleasant. Pluck your upper lip hairs. Or get them lasered. Fake nice is the worst you could be. You’re better being downright rude than fake, shallow, and hollow. If you’re suffering, seek therapy. And stop being so bitter. The only words that come out of your mouth, when you need to talk about someone behind their back, is honey.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/23 02:32 AM |
| 3 | My man called me ‘Femme Fatale’.It is a very good thing for men to feel uneasy when their interests are being hit on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/22 04:18 AM |
| 1 | How do you know if you’re boring?Thank God. 😅 | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/22 05:27 AM |
| 2 | I don’t know how to flirtHOT APE him. If you look up in Google, it will go in more detail on HOTAPING as a flirtation method. I'm someone who is unfortunately a little too friendly with strictly platonic friends vs. when I'm around the hot guy I'm interested in. Smile, compliment, touch him light if you can. But by God, flatter that man's ego. I say a prayer and mentally rehearse how I'm going to compliment the guy before I talk to him rofl. Keep practicing. Also, one thing that may help is watching old TV Shows and cla… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/22 05:23 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, understand that by becoming a HVW - LVMs/NVMs/ZVMs/Scrotes/Toxic people are no longer in your LEAGUE. So stop wasting your time and energy on them.In my most aggressive voice, FUCK HIM! 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/22 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Listen to your guts, ladiesIs it worth it telling a close guy friend to keep an eye out on the shady guy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/22 05:07 AM |
| 1 | Notes from "Get the Guy" by Matthew HusseyPrinting, laminating on my bedroom wall. Queens never show their hand! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/22 05:32 PM |
| 1 | I 22F was spoilt and sheltered my entire life. I don't know how to face hardships and am very naive/trusting/childlike.Never talk about money to anyone outside the family. Heck, sometimes you can’t even talk to other family members about money. Lest you place a target on your back. Volunteer. Do community service. Use your privilege to serve the undermined and oppressed. Realize that you will have friends that want to use you for success, status, money. It can be lonely, but get comfortable being alone and solitary. Keep chasing your dreams! When others are rude, boorish, keep your kindness and manners. You don’… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/22 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Hot Take: There is no 'way' to meet a High Value ManYes! Take as much time as you need to actualize and fulfill yourself as a woman. It is not about waiting for a HVM. We are doing the work necessary to become a HVW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/22 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Revisiting Fascinating Womanhood Ch19 The Feminine MannerThank you OP for posting this, I am saving this 💖 I wanted to ask, if a man makes us less feminine and less gentle, does this mean we should ditch him and find one that will awaken our softness? (In terms of dating) is it that our inner softness should be drawn out when he and I first meet or when we know each other more? I’m on the fence, as with little dating experience! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/22 07:00 AM |
| 7 | Other women as competitionI dare say that from what I have observed, women who display adolescent behaviors of competition anxiety still in their 30s (and beyond) have been incredibly average in appearance and compensated for that in their career. Such women probably never received male attention, especially the positive kind. I highly suspect that these women were probably bullied or ostracized in their younger years, which is why gatekeeping, mate guarding, and shunning others behaviors resurface well into their adulth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/22 08:51 PM |
| 12 | Other women as competitionExactly!! And OP, may you remember that another woman's beauty, talents, and gifts are NOT the absence of your own!! All of us are Mona Lisas in our own right. Any woman or man who ignores/ostracizes/criticizes us for worst DOES NOT depreciate our innate value and uniqueness! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/22 08:47 PM |
| 10 | RPW Flirting: Bashful Smiles or Witty Quips?Thank you! Your examples are golden. I found myself engaging in verbal spars of sarcasm with a man. I am realizing that I need to tone it down, and I find my OWN femininity decreasing from that 1 interaction. All that hard leveling up on my own gracefulness and gentleness felt like it was being flushed down the toilet. Eek!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Can sarcasm ever be feminine?omg, thank u! I like to think of it as building tension in a manner that capitalizes on double entendre, the murky, the teasing, the plausibility. You can easily see if someone is negging you or teasing you through jokes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/22 09:57 PM |
| 2 | Advice for dating religious men?FDS Principles and vetting STILL APPLIES!! Don’t let their self-proclamations of them being a Catholic or coming out of the consecrated life fool you! (Have you read any of those ”dating a former seminarian but he is not sure about marriage” posts? Sad all around. One reason why ladies never chase men!) A man could be sequestered in a religious community for much of his life and STILL not learn a single thing from his time in that community! No matter how outwardly HVM through: doing charity wor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/22 07:53 PM |
| 1 | How to use crushes to our advantageYou really need to keep yourself occupied if you do feel a crush coming on. It is so easy to get tunnel vision... even if you do have it, practice self-control. For instance, limit your dates to once a week. Hopefully you have better sense than to hang out with him every chance you 2 are free. That has a high propensity for future faking and speeding up what should be a very normal progression for a healthy relationship. You MUST write down each time he has said something and done something “o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/22 07:31 PM |
| 1 | My HVM was actually just a golddiggerThanks for the advice. When going on dates, what clothes should we wear? Still want to dress presentable and nice, but don’t want to signal suga mama vibes. We ain’t tryna get loser scrotes here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/22 08:44 AM |
| 2 | Playful Bashfulness: My Secret Weapon to Melting His Heart😭 the innocent doe-eyed method is the way to go! Thank u OP | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/22 11:16 PM |
| 1 | GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?"Hahaha, exactly! We’re honest too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/22 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Am I ready to leave nun mode?YOU are the prize. And he better invest in you like crypto. You’ve spent all these years improving your mind, body, spirit for your own good. That is truly admirable. A man must meet you at your level of respect to even have the 1st conversation with you. The thoughts holding you back don’t want to see you happy and thriving with a high value man. Keep pushing against these vines and get yourself out there! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/22 07:16 AM |
| 19 | How to truly know when a man likes/is interested in you?Call it women’s intuition. I think he is attracted to you too. The next time you catch him looking at you from afar, smile. This signals to him that you are receptive to his attention and to his gaze. No need to flail your arms with a high-pitched squeal to come hither. A sweet, demure smile in acknowledgement will suffice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/22 07:13 AM |
| 1 | Girl Game: What are ways you invite men to chase you?Yeah, you right! It’s totally fine to walk up and say “Hi!” for goodness sake! Greeting doesn’t mean chasing ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/22 04:53 AM |
| 2 | Why men investing mattersThe motto, the motto. Thank u so much for the reminder 😭 May we never forget 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/22 04:51 AM |
| 2 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he make you feel BALANCED?Protect your own energy. You can't put a price on peace. If he makes you feel anything less than, that's your cue to run away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/22 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Subtle signs a man is going to be a terrible fatherBe careful. A man could be outwardly generous with the disenfranchised. He could be amazing on paper. You just need to look, listen, collect data. Watch how he spends his money on his meager income. Ask what he does in his free time. Is he upskilling? Is he taking classes? Is he getting additional certifications? Can his lifestyle even keep up with his salary? Does he believe in delayed gratification? If you can, figure out what he thinks about investments and retirement. Even so, don’t get caug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/22 10:14 PM |
| 5 | How do I return to, protect, and define my feminity?Community service. Charity work. By that, do the things that are in direct contact with those you are helping. NO logistics and planning - that is a very masculine task and you’ll lose your feelings of what it means to be a feminine woman who gives generously. Childcare. Have you tried being a nanny, au pair, babysitter, or children’s aide? There is something about protecting a little one where you look beyond your bossy, bitchy self. Pardon my language, I didn’t quite know how to get across b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/22 08:52 PM |
| 11 | Girl Game: What are ways you invite men to chase you?Thank you, thank you! Time to do some digging. 😊 | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/22 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Girl game: How to get your man to be a better manAs The old adage goes, be the kind of guy you’re looking for, only in female form. THAT’S how you never lower your standards! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/22 12:26 AM |
| 1 | How to avoid falling back into old pickmeisha habits?Focus on your level up journey. RELENTLESSLY! Read books that will grow your abundance mindset. Delve in your passions. Pin mood boards. Take full body selfies of yourself in outfits you adore. Try out new hairstyles. Get your nails done. Be comfortable in YOUR skin. Hobbies, hobbies, hobbies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 06:34 AM |
| 1 | Triangulation and youKeyword: Keep seeing other guys. Don't get that oneitis until he got that oneitis for you. Even then, make sure if he's actually worthy of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 06:29 AM |
| 1 | If a man has a female best friend it is a red flagEspecially if the female friends are better looking than her, right? 🙄 A HVM will make it clear as night and day that there are boundaries to be enforced! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 06:26 AM |
| 1 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.Be extra wary when she uses God's name to cover her work. "Oh, it was God." "Oh, it came from God." It's 1 thing to praise God. It's another to use His name to veil your machinations to fuel your agenda. Keep your eyes open. And guard your heart. Capitalize your relationships with everyone so that if there ever was a smear campaign, the people who heard the rumors will go, "What? That can't be right." Those people might watch your interactions from then on, but guess what? You're being your high… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 06:20 AM |
| 1 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.These women are narcissists. They are also psychopaths. The minute they know that are you an independent free spirit that does shit on your own whim, they will be highly threatened. They know they can't tame you. They know they can't predict your next move. They know you are a force to be reckoned with but because they can't guess your move, you bet they will attack belligerently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Pick-me-men.How do you know that you could be dealing with this kind of guy? How do you vet? What are the giveaways and tells that he is this way? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 06:10 AM |
| 1 | Pick-me-men.For these types of men, are they basically just milquetoasts with no balls? I don't know how else to describe them. Effeminate men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 06:08 AM |
| 1 | Pick-me-men.Shit. The more I read, learn, and digest, the more I come to the realization about what it is that I avoided. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Lvm disrespect pickmes because they feel emasculatedMmm yeah. Don't date any "project" man. No Barbara the Builder type shit. He will always respect the "one who got away," who is ironically the woman he'd ever want to level up for but couldn't because a pickme "stood in his way." Don't even let a guy say that because HE got in his OWN way. He didn't have the character to persevere, crawl through vines, conquer to get to her. Men fought wars for the women they love. He will have to live with his consequences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 05:47 AM |
| 1 | If you have a pattern of “saving” men please read this.I call it the Harley Quinn syndrome. In trying to "fix" and "save" the man, you start to pity him. That's how a trauma bond forms. That's how you get yourself into an abusive relationship, even if you don't intend it to happen. Be really, really, really cognizant of this when you find yourself wanting to show a man "the light." It's not your job to do it. Not even a trained professional can do it. Leave. Run. Ignore. It's not worth setting yourself on fire to keep this man warm, and trust me, he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 05:39 AM |
| 1 | You have a RESPONSIBILITY in being HVTrue love is one that is healthy, peaceful, serene... It is truly divine bliss. Never settle for abusive, toxic, insecure, uncertain, see-sawing bullshit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 05:30 AM |
| 1 | What has been your biggest bullet dodged, and which vetting strategy do you attribute to it?🎯 shot my heart and out the truth pours forth if it is not a reverberating, resounding, ROLLING LOUD as fuck "yes" and if the courtship/affection is not obvious, nexting the helllll out of the guy! he only gets one chance. we don't beg for scraps of affection. we don't beg. we don't ask. we DEMAND full and complete devotion. no cowards. no 2nd chances. we aren't desperate for men, whether LVM or otherwise. we DEMAND falling in love with ourselves first before we ever lay down our life for a ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Being a people pleaser is a major tenant of being a pickme. Men will only love the 50/50, sex supply, and maid service, not you as a person.This is excellent advice. But how does one play the long game of silent observation when we are pulled away and someone/some other group tries to get our attention consistently? That's time away from observation!!! 😤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Being a people pleaser is a major tenant of being a pickme. Men will only love the 50/50, sex supply, and maid service, not you as a person.Yuuuu heard? 📣 A person could not like for you reasons that aren't even related to you! And, a person could pretend to like you to use you in some way! The best company is those you fully trust and have your back too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Never want to go through a heartbreak again? Then establish these boundaries.I love you! Thank you, sister! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Wow, he seems like such a great guy. He’s so different than anyone I’ve dated before. We never fight. He’s been committed since day one. I can tell he really cares about me. Blah, blah, NO!Wow. This kind of LVM is insidious. What’s worse is that he appears to be a HVM to the world, but none other than those closest to him in the romantic sense know the true him. I really hope our girls on here know to lose the rose colored glasses, to fight biology of the tunnel vision, and vet the hell out of men. Human nature can be partly blamed for us being so misty eyed when we do have a crush on someone. luckily, all the tenets, strategies, schemes to get our heads screwed on right will show… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/22 12:16 AM |
| 2 | I may already know a high value man. I just wasn’t healthy enough to notice it.Yes, of course!! I wish we could post again on this forum. But, hey, thank God for the old posts cuz we need a reminder every now and then ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/22 07:24 AM |
| 4 | How to communicate my needs without making him feel emasculated?“Honey, could you please help me with....?” Tone matters. ”Babe, I’m having an off day/night. Could you help me?” Start small. Reward, compliment him when he does the little things. When he sees you light up, he will want to seek that reaction in you even more. Use grace. Use affection, especially physical admiration. You got this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/07/22 04:57 AM |
| 1 | 7: ⚡️’The Spark’ and Chemistry - Healthy Relationships SeriesHey girl, thanks for sharing this. I fell in love with the idea of who I thought he was. i thought he was a self-disciplined gentleman. No. That was merely an illusion. Only time shows true character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/22 04:54 AM |
| 1 | Man with girlfriend flirted with me in front of her. How to overcome my disgust and outrage?This is actually both really polite and straightforward. I’ll use it 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/22 04:48 AM |
| 1 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesExactly. He should have been enamored with you, and he was, when he first saw you. But once he realized he needed to put in effort to even be able to have the first conversation with you, he found out he needed to get on your level. Lazy, no drive, no ambition... The trash took itself out ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/22 08:24 AM |
| 1 | To the pickmeishas who want to steal my man: Thank you!Yes! this the queen boss mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/22 08:08 AM |
| 1 | Why What He Spends MattersOnce you know his occupation, ask about his hobbies. If his occupation can't keep up with the expense of his hobbies, and he frequently delves into expensive hobbies, you can bet he's not investing in his LEVEL UP journey so that he can fully support himself... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/22 07:20 AM |
| 1 | You don't need to have an actual mate in order for men to mate guard youI am reading this and wow.... it really makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/22 07:18 AM |
| 1 | On "Roasting"Thanks for bringing this up. I've seen a pickme chase a man and he shared, very publicly, how irritating she was and aired her dirty laundry in public. Yes, I get that she is really unlikeable. Says quite a bit about his character. At first, I'd think that such a public statement about her unpleasantness would signal her to back the fuck off. But she still chased. Then I realized, there's 2 sides to the story. He must've done something to get her so dependent and pining for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/22 07:05 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with threatened Pickmeshas who see you as hostile competition when you're with a man or men she likes?You keep it really surface level. Don't respond to her texts, calls, invites. And if she has flying monkeys that want intel on you, you keep that really surface level too. I was shunned out of a social group because the 'alpha girl' knew her crush had a crush on me. He was the group leader. She knew I had a crush on him too. Her entire friend group were the girls. Only some of her friends acknowledged me when I was new. So what did I do instead? I befriended the boys. Some of the boys were in he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/22 06:48 AM |
| 2 | I may already know a high value man. I just wasn’t healthy enough to notice it.THIS IS IT! A REAL HVM will treasure your "boringness" and your self-assured solitude, knowing damn well you are secure in yourself and love yourself so much to know how and when to cut ties with toxic people. Value peace. Value stability. And above all, value mutual respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/22 06:29 AM |
| 2 | How to stop women from seeing you as competition and more as leader/respectable friend?Keeping certain aspects of your life private. That's the only way... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/22 06:18 AM |
| 1 | What are your favorite tips for keeping things feminine and sexy?What kinds of clothes are you buying for yourself? How about your negligees? What about shoes? Look up Pleasers brand for heels. They are really comfortable (pole dancer top choice), and they’re bound to have a style that is cute/feminine vs raunchy :) What kind of media are you consuming? How about books? Consider taking supplements. Dong quai is pretty good for female health | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/22 09:23 PM |
| 2 | How can I reset my life plans after LTR breakupI am so sorry that this happened to you.Please be grateful that he showed his true colors. If you had gotten married to this man, your days would be filled with “what ifs” and “I regret marrying him.”The good news is you have lots of time to find yourself, fall in love with yourself, treat yourself the way you deserve, and my personal favorite: make conscious decisions to live the life you always wanted to have and level up! You have a dream. But you value yourself so much that you won’t settle … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/22 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Top 5 books for rpw?For RPW mannerisms and decorum: Jennifer L. Scott’s Madame Chic series (3 titles) For RPW who are Christian: Virtuous: A Study for Ladies of Every Age by Nancy Wilson Habits of a Godly Woman by Joyce Meyer Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/22 08:53 PM |
| 2 | how do I get the energy to dress up?Love your shape. The category is BODY, and YOU nailed it. Consistent hip thrusts and weighted lunges will do wonders for your glutes. Daily affirmations in front of the mirror. Get a Pinterest that has fashion boards. You will quickly see that you have a running theme going on. Go shopping. You don't have to buy anything, but try accessorizing! TAKE PHOTOS OF YOURSELF IN DIFFERENT OUTFITS AND LOOKS!! MAKE A COLLAGE OF YOURSELF. You will see how amazing and ravishing you really ARE! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/22 03:56 AM |
| 1 | What are small things I can do to improve looks/confidence ?Cut the carbs. Lift weights for a toned look. Wash your pillow cases, sheets, and blankets often. Sunscreen. Moisturize. Cleanse. Exfoliate. Get a routine that works for your skin. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 05:12 AM |
| 1 | Being a homemaker/SAHM in this economy…Something to think about. Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 05:05 AM |
| 4 | Being a homemaker/SAHM in this economy…I used to think the way you do too. My only advice is to start small. It might look unrealistic, but once you come across a fascinating, hardworking, priceless high value man, becoming a stay-at-home mom will become a reality. It would be a tough reality, but a man who really loves you and wants the best for his family will be able to get it done. The trick is, though, in the meanwhile, you work on yourself and on your own earning potential before he arrives in your life. Find what it is you do … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/22 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Why are men attracted to innocence?oh jeez, u mentioned thug culture. 🤮 it is a whole breed of LVM and toxic masculinity. Stay away. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/22 12:18 AM |
| 12 | How to stand out from other women in being and physicality?Speak, walk, and talk like a lady. Dress like a lady. As others have said, wear clothing that shows your feminine physique but subdues the sexiness. Stop laughing so loud. A sweet chuckle is fine. Smile from your eyes, be passionate in speech. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/22 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Real life RP effects: men in 40s divorcing wives who helped them reach high SMV/RMV?Dude is an asshole.Actions speak louder than words. He may have a large vocabulary, use fancy words, and turn up the ol’ Englishman charm. But he cheated on his wife, philandered with countless women, completely airing out his dirty laundry in public. He is also a consultant to some seedy politicians. Close friends with a notorious politician who cheated/divorced (?) on his wife with cancer. Yes, I am putting it in blind item terms. You can put two and two together. He is the definition of LVM… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/22 08:44 AM |
| 43 | What are your observations about women cock blocking/“clitoferencing” other women?Taco blocko is one I’ve heard too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 06:56 AM |
| 107 | What are your observations about women cock blocking/“clitoferencing” other women?Yeah, I've seen men mate guard/cock block other men for a lady in question. It's actually pretty entertaining to watch. I will say, though, if you're ever in the huddle where 2 or more men are after you (and it becomes a rather heated conversation with you and the men), remember that attention is fleeting. A man could fight for you because you really are his DreamGirl. Or, he could be fighting for you because the other men are doing it and he wants to see if he can win you over. How will you kno… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:32 AM |
| 86 | What are your observations about women cock blocking/“clitoferencing” other women?Shoot, that's a new low. I ain't ever heard of it til now. Wonder what happened to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:22 AM |
| 80 | What are your observations about women cock blocking/“clitoferencing” other women?That’s 1 way to get it done 😂 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 02:50 AM |
| 103 | What are your observations about women cock blocking/“clitoferencing” other women?Thanks for putting this into perspective. It’s not fun to see other women not recognizing their own worth. It’s interesting to observe from afar, esp. what the man does. But then you really hope the woman becomes her own love, her own heroine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 12:11 AM |
| 32 | Why Does He Do That? - A StudyThat's the high value way to go. Bless your soul. After everything you've been through, enduring all his crap, you know to bless him from afar and know that it is his hell to bear. Keep being beautiful. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 05:03 AM |
| 136 | Men that talk about social mobility/social class/wealth, is this a red flag?Thanks, girl!! He's also teaching me a lot of things without me asking for his help. Like investing. (I honestly don't even listen to him. I'm nodding away but trust me, my brain sputters like a cymbal-clapping monkey.) I've found that a lot of men will try to teach me things. Why?! Does the dumb fox have something to do with it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 04:50 AM |
| 79 | Men that talk about social mobility/social class/wealth, is this a red flag?He asked me what my vision was. (He’s one of my former classmates.) I thought it was quite the question. He’s a dreamer, big on social justice. Wants to help disadvantaged people. I sometimes think he sees me as a bon bon eating Miss Priss, and he will joke “endearingly“ about it. But every joke has some trail of truth. Yes, I got the vibe he was insecure. I hesitated on his question about social class climbing. I simply asked, “Is it even possible to shift social classes that easily?” Deflected… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 04:02 AM |
| 39 | Men that talk about social mobility/social class/wealth, is this a red flag?Right....? Even in jest... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 03:15 AM |
| 5 | Protip: Be careful of the photos you post on social media as a HVW.Thank you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 01:44 AM |
| 12 | Do certain areas or physical spaces in public trigger you?Thank you! I have been labelled as 'paranoid' by my peers when I was growing up. But listening to you all wise women, I am trusting myself more. The only other time I had this upside down feeling was when I was observing a classroom. A sub was in there and for some reason, when he talked to me, I felt this rush in my chest/stomach area. Boy, was there something actually wrong because the children noticed he was glancing at the girls suggestively! He only did it when I wasn't within the vicinity.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 05:17 AM |
| 1 | Be aware of giving your number into a whatsapp group with men in it — Even if it's friendly.Are there any free apps that let you choose a number for texting? I used to use one back in the day but completely forgot the app name. Bah! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/22 07:38 AM |
| 6 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)Great question.In my experiences, they don’t want us to have a rich circle. Especially not with other white men (attractive) or white women their age. It’s a sense of entitlement they have to their own space. To them, it’s a power struggle. They want US to beg for their approval, circulate around them to have their scraps of attention, grovel at their feet to be socially mobile in popularity. They want us to be their lackeys and pawns, but they see us laughing, being independent as us going rogu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 05:45 PM |
| 26 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)being an introvert is a blessing in disguise lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 01:59 AM |
| 16 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)Yes, she’s white. I grew up with white girls in a very white town. I never felt like I fit in their group, because that would mean I would have to forsake the WOC in me. Hell no. So I know these white girls are subtle backstabbers af. But the crazy thing is, when you exert the same amount of self-assuredness, confidence, bravado, style, and confidence as these white girls, they go ballistic. The difference is that we recognize that we have value, that we have power, that we have self-love to kno… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 01:55 AM |
| 23 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)Yes I’m a woc. Is there a a connection? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 01:49 PM |
| 16 | After trauma, how are you forming healthy friendships and romantic relationships?Your last sentence. Hug. 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:37 AM |
| 2 | Do these shallow men expect us to feel bad for them? I certainly don’t ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ex called me crazy. His younger bro said I looked like I could cut off his (my ex’s dick) if he ever pissed me off. now I know why. ex and his family were so far gone, why would God ever let me join a family of trash through marriage? im just proud of myself that I displayed my hyper aggressive nature when threatened, I could defend my self, my honor! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 05:54 AM |
| 34 | Wealthy men and mistressesThis. Don't fuck with the wealthy. Don't say a word about their personal entanglements. If you are in their circle, they will be quick to cut you off. There goes your livelihood. There goes your reputation. You will be blackballed like it were nobody's business because frankly, you literally have no business. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 06:49 PM |
| 21 | Wealthy men and mistressesLOLL your friend is a QUEEN! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 06:48 PM |
| 36 | Ok, what to do when another girl finds out her crush has a crush on you instead of her?I live by the “dumb fox” rule. Smile, be friendly, even feign ignorance. I will not confront her; otherwise, I would look bad. Nope, not losing face for that one. Reputation is everything. The less other people know, and the less she knows (And especially the less she knows that I know of her M.O.), I will be Fine. I would not be so quick to assume that the man pulled moves on her. I honestly think that sometimes, we have to give more credit and responsibility to women. If you chase, thats a n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.*scribbling notes* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 02:19 AM |
| 13 | In group outings, what should we look for in how men treat women and other men?How about the other way around? He shows interest in you and engages in deep eye contact with you when others are around but when it’s one on one, he will get physically close to you but not say much? *shrug* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Ladies how do you feel about mother’s who pick out girlfriends for their sons?Ew ew and ew 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 12:20 AM |
| 6 | FDS Speaks: "[You] have yet to find a man you can fall in love with."Be with a good man you’re attracted to and who’s attracted to you too.... :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 01:59 AM |
| 1 | How can you tell if "My ex was controlling, abusive, crazy..." etc is the truth from a guy?YES! it isn’t and will not be about him anymore. WE are in the limelight! Not him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 01:55 AM |
| 10 | Subtle signs of misogynyThis is where a strong sense of self-love comes in. (Education in healthy vs. toxic relationships should also be taught in our young children as they’re growing up.) A man will always escalate if he thinks he has no control over his partner, especially if he perceives that he has no control over other aspects in his life. He will escalate especially if he thinks romantic couple arguments are about who‘s “right” and who’s “wrong.” Heck, he might even apologize on the surface but he will resent yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 03:03 AM |
| 15 | Ladies, any tips on how to identify if you’re ready to date, especially coming out of a long term toxic relationship?It’s not you, it’s them. Seriously, get to know as many men as you can. Keep doing you, keep focusing your eyes on you, keep getting to know different people. If you feel that ‘zing,’ great. If you don’t, keep it movin’, find someone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 01:17 AM |
| 8 | Subtle signs of misogyny😭 yes, they perceive the world from their own morals. then u try your best to prove him wrong, that not all women do x... just move on from such a man who is obvious issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Insecure Men and their Allegations of CheatingAhhh shit 😭 Im so glad you are safe! Some things not working out are a blessing in disguise... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 02:57 PM |
| 101 | Have some standard!As if alone is some sort of curse? SOLITARY PEACE IS PRICELESS. LOVING YOURSELF THE WAY YOU DESERVE IS PRICELESS. KNOWING HOW YOU ARE THE TABLE IS PRICELESS. Never forget the gift and blessing of inner peace. You won't find it in a man. No amount of dick, whether good or a sack of shit, should ever come between you and your peace, your self-respect, and dignity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 05:16 AM |
| 4 | On dating hood, ghetto street men.I know what you mean, babe ;( It’s because we are attracted to their forthright attitude, outspoken confidence (which is really toxic masculinity), and raw emotions (which is basically emotional immaturity). We think “strong provider” by the way they get passionate... NO, they are manipulative, controlling, possessive, self-oriented, and even abusive! They strive on drama, they strive on having their egos stroked! I dont go for software engineers, doctors, lawyers, Ed Sheeran listening men eithe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Insecure Men and their Allegations of Cheating“Delusions of jealousy” I must look that up. Thank you! Controlling, possessive men are certainly a unique type of species.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 12:14 AM |
| 2 | Insecure Men and their Allegations of CheatingWhat the fuuck. That man needs some serious help. If a man cannot find peace within himself, don’t go messing around with another woman’s peace just because he can’t find it! 🙄 My ex said “I’m so stupid” and “I’m an idiot” and other self-deprecating statements. He freaked me out when he started punching his car radio after saying he hated his life!! I got scared and told him to stop, then he started crying and reaching his arms for me. 🤯 shit, maybe i was dating a basket case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/22 12:13 AM |
| 3 | Insecure Men and their Allegations of CheatingUghhh these men are so moronic. if they can’t see that we‘re genuine, once in a lifetime, and worth sacrificing for... they can pound sand. we skirting out of there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 02:02 AM |
| 17 | Revenge body? Try a revenge LIFE!Being alone is TOTALLY okay! If you don’t want to socialize now, do it when you are ready. Sometimes we have to be in a healthier headspace before we interact with the “outside world.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 08:04 AM |
| 38 | Revenge body? Try a revenge LIFE!Yes, yes, yes! I am finally closer to that feeling of where I want to be. I am smiling again, laughing again, even going out to meet new people and I’m a super shy introvert! I almost gave up on making new friends. (man, that abuse really makes you close-minded to new friendships and relationships. do not isolate yourself! You are OK to be alone. You are NOT ok to think you are unloveable or that you are a failure because you’re not married!) The process of hell will singe, scorch, and burn yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 07:59 AM |
| 21 | Revenge body? Try a revenge LIFE!THIS! 👆👆👆 I unfortunately deleted all our texts the moment I found out he got married. I was a little blindsided by it, panic attacked, and furious because I felt like everything he said was a lie. (No, just a bad anxiety episode from major cognitive dissonance.) I wished I saved and printed every abusive word and email that he uttered, not to sue (statute of limitations and also, what good is going to come out of that, he lives a pitiable life already lmao) but that I could plaster it on my w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 07:49 AM |
| 7 | If you dated men who expressed they were not attracted to women from their own culture, what red flags did they have? What other problematic behaviors and personalities did these men exhibit?Jeez, I never thought of it in that way. Thanks for opening my eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 11:56 PM |
| 40 | If you dated men who expressed they were not attracted to women from their own culture, what red flags did they have? What other problematic behaviors and personalities did these men exhibit?When I dated my ex, I would think about our hypothetical children. If he felt “disgusted by brown women” as he put it, if we had a daughter, she would be brown too of course (half brown, half East Asian). So how would he feel towards her? That was conflicting to me, but I never brought it up with him in conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 04:19 AM |
| 49 | If you dated men who expressed they were not attracted to women from their own culture, what red flags did they have? What other problematic behaviors and personalities did these men exhibit?What happens to the man and his children once that self-hatred has spread?! 😔 Don’t bring innocent children into the mix when the psyche isn’t healthy. Ughhh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:29 AM |
| 41 | If you dated men who expressed they were not attracted to women from their own culture, what red flags did they have? What other problematic behaviors and personalities did these men exhibit?Either way, they shoot themselves in the foot, get dad bods from all the stress, and refuse to take responsibility. No self-respecting queen wants that kind of rat shit-infested garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 02:47 AM |
| 9 | What happened to the men that told you they dumped, dated, or married someone because of their parents?Isn't it a blessing that you were able to AVOID his toxic shroud of misery and his wacko family?!!?! I am so proud of you for walking away from such a catastrophe. Without him, you are able to live your beautiful, amazing, fulfilling life the way YOU want it to be! 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 06:43 PM |
| 6 | What happened to the men that told you they dumped, dated, or married someone because of their parents?Did they ever speak to you after you broke it off? 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:03 AM |
| 14 | Can you at a later point in an established relationship – bring up exes as a conversation for reflection?Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Heavy weed use and its link to schizophrenia. Don’t date a heavy weed user.Could you explain what effects there were from teen weed use? Had a debate with my ex that weed was terrible. His siblings used. 1 sibling was a daily marijuana abuser as a high school senior. His other sibling also used when she was in high school! Should’ve seen the red flags! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 03:51 AM |
| 2 | So done with avoidant men.Caveat though, you could be SECURELY ATTACHED and still morph into insecure anxious attachment if your NVM bf abused you! Never underestimate how much of your life will turn to worse, even shit, after dating or associating with low value bums. You will experience an inordinate amount of time loving yourself whole again, picking up all the shattered pieces to become securely attached again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 03:04 AM |
| 2 | So done with avoidant men.Thanks so much for creating this discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 02:57 AM |
| 1 | It only takes one wrong guy to ruin your entire life.Stay strong, queen!! 💅🏼💞😍💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 07:59 AM |
| 0 | Ladies, what have been your experiences with dating men that have unresolved and untreated intergenerational trauma?Respectfully, binning ethnic subgroups as the umbrella term “Asian” is a rather hasty misnomer to each ethnic group within this category: whether Chinese, Korean, Vietnamese, Nepalese, Burmese, etc. Asians are not a monolith. The stories within a Korean family immigrating to the U.S. may be similar to those families that immigrated from say, India. But, all regions have their geopolitical, cultural, historical complexities that make each story different. Even with the Asian-American immigrants, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 06:46 AM |
| 1 | Men Know What They're Doing. Stop Letting Them Get Away With It.Damn. These men got it bad! Not our problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 02:21 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, what have been your experiences with dating men that have unresolved and untreated intergenerational trauma?Aw, had my eyes set on dating Asian men. (I’ve only dated Desi.... unless they have left their culture/toxic background, they can stay the hell away from me.) are the American-born asian men any better? Really do not want a self-hating american-born asian guy either. Must be socially, emotionally healthy and aware! And physically attractive too. No inferiority complex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 01:25 AM |
| 3 | When all of my frienda are so desperate not to be alone and date guys just because they're "nice", how do I stop this from infecting leveling up journey?Go babe! 😍 👑 💅🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 01:14 AM |
| 2 | Substance abuse equals LVMthank you for this post! i wanted to add: be very wary and careful of men who recently stopped. as soon as his personal life got unbearable, he went back to it, especially when I specifically told him at the start of our relationship to not do it again. Rather than confront and resolve inner turmoil, the weed and drinking until drunk (even though the latter was not a recurrent situation), his actions showed me the real him. 1 issue was that he did not respect my boundary. The next issue, which w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 01:10 AM |
| 28 | Ladies, what have been your experiences with dating men that have unresolved and untreated intergenerational trauma?Yeah, I know what you mean. It's tough because it's someone you love, but you can't be the one fixing or saving. He alone has to do the work to face those challenges head on. Good for you for choosing to move on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 07:11 AM |
| 62 | When all of my frienda are so desperate not to be alone and date guys just because they're "nice", how do I stop this from infecting leveling up journey?Minimize contact.Or, better yet, not be friends with them anymore. My "circle" is not even a circle anymore. It's really a triangle with my family, those who support my FDS paradigm. Is it lonely? No. Am I alone? Yes, but I enrich myself with activities (such as reading, dancing) and socialize with others through work/volunteering. Why would you subject yourself to mediocre relationships, whether with friends or a boyfriend? You deserve the best that life has to offer. Go treat yourself. Go be y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Markers of AbuseHe deleted all photos of me when we were fighting. Massive toddler, he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 06:41 AM |
| 2 | Markers of AbuseIn my experience, he would initiate text wars until well past midnight. Both of us would not let down or concede. But when conceded, he ended up resenting me even more. Sometimes during text wars, he would purposely drive out an hour to see me, to attempt to talk about the disagreement, but he wouldn’t open up. Then he tried to engage in sexual intimacy as a way to feel close; I reciprocated because I wanted to show that I still loved him. After we both got off, I found myself crying because I f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 06:35 AM |
| 30 | Men Who Are Bored/ Claim You’re Boringbest friend’s ex said i was boring and that he didn’t like me for some unexplainable reason. (He was no prize pig.) lvm that I was involved with, a Pathetic rebound, said I was boring and he didn’t even have a college degree. these men have nothing going on for themselves so they point fingers at women who are calm, collected, and clearly on their way to boss level. these men, to put it bluntly, are jealous of the women who appear “boring” because we are stable! instead of looking at others‘… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Reminder not do date mama boys.👀 avoid it like it were a rat-infested, shit-infested building... doesn’t matter if he feels like “home,” damaged goods is still damaged goods, one that YOU won’t be able to fix. That structural damage is on the man’s insides... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Tiptoeing Around a Fragile EgoReally good advice. This kind of man cannot be saved or healed from a woman’s love. He must consciously recognize his maladaptive behaviors and negative thought patterns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 07:50 AM |
| 2 | Never Forget: Men will stop at nothing to chase their DreamGirl. If you know or suspect you're not her, then disengage immediately.Did they ever sob boo hoo after the breakup with a DreamGirl, claiming they were 'stupid' and messed up a great thing? Even though clearly at the time they wouldn't step up and shape up for DreamGirl? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 06:25 AM |
| 1 | What Kanye is doing to Kim right now is narcissistic abuse, and the whole world is feeling sympathy for him because oh poor guy has mental health problems and just wants his family back. Nah he went out and got a whole new gf and is just mentally exhausting Kim to get her back and keep torturing herSo that's why I told my ex that he and Kanye appeared to be very similar.... LOL. *shrug* Asshole to the world yet still an abusive asshole to his girl. smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:10 AM |
| 14 | When a man blatantly says he's the jealous type, you better believe he's a toxic, controlling and manipulative man.And here I was thinking it was endearing.... Wait until he controls what you wear! On my own birthday, when we spent it together, I wore something cute. I said it was for him and that I wanted to look cute too. That didn't fly. He got upset with me for wearing a lace top, short shorts, and a long sleeve to cover my arms. I brushed it aside... OH WELL, now we learn! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:07 AM |
| 1 | If you have a pattern of “saving” men please read this.Depraved, arent they! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 07:02 AM |
| 1 | Are you tired of being alone? Are you feeling lonely or incomplete? You don't need a boyfriend. You need friends for human connection and you need to be happy on your own without a man.I feel so lucky to have read your comment. have been going thru these thoughts lately, thought I was just a Debbie downer. no, just working on myself :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 03:24 AM |
| 1 | A Case for "Vanilla" SexFirst of all, thank you SO much for unfolding the intricacies of sexual and emotional intimacy from a Catholic perspective! I have a really tough Time verbalizing my approach behind the soul connecting, bond strengthening Aspects of physical intimacy. You have done a phenomenal job of explaining the metaphysical, emotional, spiritual, and emotional. Thank you! 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 08:02 AM |
| 1 | If a man says he was abused!!! Being able to recognize the signs is so important. Any connection built on that trauma is a no go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:35 AM |
| 1 | So it finally happened; a NVM from my past came crawling back.I hope to reach that state of “nothing” like you. Til then, focusing on treating myself to love, happiness, and worth. A relationship with myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 07:20 AM |
| 80 | A lot of men don’t marry for love. They marry for timing. Don’t be the woman he settles with out of convenienceSo it took years to know she was the one he loved the most?! Man, what a moron. I'm glad she got out of it while she could so she can meet a man who would cherish her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 05:48 AM |
| 190 | A lot of men don’t marry for love. They marry for timing. Don’t be the woman he settles with out of convenienceAnd for my women whose exes chose arranged marriages instead, those men chose SOCIAL APPROVAL instead of love! They chose a life of outward "comfort" and "privilege" at the DEEP cost of freeing, giving, and soul-nourishing companionship! Pity these fools, and smile your beautiful smile because you chose to be true to yourself! Fuck him, fuck the patriarchy, and fuck those infantile men who are still sucking those pacifiers! A man who chose bigotry, his family, his insular and toxic cultural cycl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:45 AM |
| 2 | When a man cancels on the first date, don’t reply and just delete him. Learn from my mistakes.Yes, yes, and yes! You think a lowlife scrote has options like you do?? Never! He just doesn’t want to put in the effort to keep you. He'd rather YOU be stood up than him, because he doesn't want his ego to take the blow! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes we gotta be "bitches"It is a HIM problem. Plenty of men have worked through their traumas, inner turmoils, neuro-atypical quirks to signal to a lady he is unequivocally interested. They leave no silence in between and they leave no ambiguity. Such a man who does is simply an immature child stuck in an adult man’s body. Next, next, and next him. We get compared to cars. Well, men are like buses. So what if he misses the mark? There’s a new one, actually many of them, coming along. We will just take the next bus and h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 01:52 AM |
| 45 | Is anyone else slowly getting there with FDS boundaries?Similar thing happened to me.Guy asks me to hang out a week in advance. (He is a mutual friend from work.) Each day that we bump into each other, he kept Asking if we were still on on Saturday... but doesn’t tell me a time or the fucking location. He literally waits until the day before to ask when I was available, and I said afternoon Saturday. Mind you, he messaged me at 4 PM and 3 hours pass by, STILL no response from him... So now it becomes the night before and he still doesn’t have a pla… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 09:40 PM |
| 21 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menOh, ok! Thanks for your reply. Could you elaborate on the white guy depravity red flags? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:19 AM |
| 3 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menSo you're saying, if they don't look creepy, they could exude creepiness by the way they talk? Could you elaborate? I like what FDS said about looking at the guy's following on IG. If they have a specific body type by the models they follow (which is a red flag anyway), it would mean that's their type. Now if I have the same body, that would mean he could not find someone within his own race? I can't tell if a white guy were to pursue, he is pursuing because he actually finds you attractive rega… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:49 AM |
| 2 | How to let a man know if they date he suggests is not appropriateThank u!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:45 AM |
| 4 | "All the good men are taken! They're all married by now!"Thank you! This is so valuable to know! a bad case of trauma bond and oneitis can make you think there’s something wrong with you if you ain’t married by 25. Fuck this shit! We bossin’ up first! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 02:10 AM |
| 16 | What are some signs someone's not over their ex?A man that still needs to throw salt on her name and what “she did” to him, even in passing. Damn bro, it was ages ago. A man could not be in contact with her but still be talking shit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 01:49 AM |
| 1 | The psychological affects of being with a LVM overtime.You are better off bossing up than to be bossed and controlled by your every move from a NVM. Be careful of who you share your energies with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 01:43 AM |
| 2 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?Omg. Now I know 😧 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 03:55 AM |
| 6 | Let’s hear your clever responses to “How are you still single?!”If going on a hang out with a guy, I respond, "Why not?" with a sweet smile. Dude will probably say "you're beautiful" blah blah blah. I answer, "I know" with another innocent smile. It floors them. LOL. Like I don't know my own hotness? Right. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:37 AM |
| 5 | Let’s hear your clever responses to “How are you still single?!”No kidding tho. It's very funny to see how guys will react when we say this LOL! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:35 AM |
| 1 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? LmaoOmg... how did that go? I hope to have my moment one day. (he is married, though!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:40 AM |
| 1 | He's Your Ex For A ReasonJournal, journal, and more journal. I process my grief, guilt, and trauma through Reflection. I also write down as many events from memory where he made me feel less than myself. Most people say to delete all texts, messages, and emails. I wish I hadn’t deleted them so I could save and print his emotional and verbal abuse. Luckily, I screenshotted them to my close friends so i was able to read that history. I know it hurts to read old messages but it WILL help you remember the shitty things he s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Boy BYE! Why do they always come back though? Lmao🙏 comeuppance | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:29 AM |
| 2 | Let’s Talk About LVM Exes and When They Come Back After A BreakupIs it bad if I would attend his funeral? 😂 Knowing him, he’d still be cursing at me 6 feet under. whatevvvs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:02 AM |
| 10 | Explaining South-Asian mama boy's culture and how it effects the women and the men caught in itDo these mama boys’ men finally agree to an arranged marriage out of defeatism/reluctance or extreme filial piety? Or is it contentment towards another step to gain family inheritance? I find it odd how the Western-born and raised South Asian men shout that they want a marriage with someone they love yet they do the exact opposite. They get into an arranged marriage with a woman who is clearly not their DreamGirl but perhaps their mother’s projection of a DreamGirl. I could not imagine these men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:34 AM |
| 12 | Episode infinity on "Men Who Tell On Themselves"FFS. He still kept up the appearances for his privilege, right? 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:26 AM |
| 21 | Episode infinity on "Men Who Tell On Themselves"Hi, you mentioned that these men will quickly resent the wife. Do they resent the wife due in part that she is dependent on him, always needing to rely on him and not having opinions of her own? Thus being a leech? You also mentioned that the wife will be compared - compared to his mom or past girlfriends?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:23 AM |
| 1 | He sent me a picture of his ex?😂 now that’s a line I’m going to use. Thank u! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 03:43 AM |
| 2 | This is why setting clear boundaries from the beginning is important. He showed his true colors before wasting any time. I had ghosted him many years ago after a few dates and always felt bad cause I thought he seemed nice, so I decided to respond when he reached out again and this happenedSucks to be them. We don’t share our space or energy with bum ass NVM. Byeee ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 03:28 AM |
| 1 | Your thoughts on this guy?The scrote didn’t need to have used OP for sex. Ego fill, emotional support, and therapist is what she was to him. These kinds of men are entitled as shit. They won’t look introspectively, and their true colors show how damn selfish they really are. Shared history should not sing any tunes of sympathy, no matter how deja vu. He was an asshole, and he’s still an asshole hoping to get his piece of the cake. 8 years. This scrotum should be ashamed of himself for thinking he has VIP access to OP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 03:20 AM |
| 1 | This weird type of poor communication that I dealt with after talking to a guy for a few monthsEmotional abuse tactic. “Why are you telling me this?” ”You always ____. I don‘t have time to...” “You have a long ass list of needs” “Why do you always wait until before I’m about to leave to cry?” ”You’re controlling me” ”All you care about is your own damn comfort” What man invalidates his own partner‘s emotions, as if his was the only thing. You don’t get to be treated like a King if your queen is really a court jester for your selfish desires! Manchildren. That’s what they are. Pretty p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 02:35 AM |
| 1 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?I want to add to that. Be extra careful of the men you become intimate with, because I strongly believe your energies will be shared. For example. My depressed ex with narc tendencies had a hard time sleeping at home, in his bed. He would even try to sleep in his car at fitness center parking lot. No matter where he went, he had the worst sleep. Until he started napping and sleeping with me, no matter if it was couch, bed, or car, he was able to sleep just fine but only with me. But, sometimes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Does this seem controlling? I’m no longer dating this guy, but he would tell me I couldn’t wear certain things or make any new guy friends and if I objected, he said that I didn’t give a fuck about him. If I thought he was being controlling he frequently called me crazy and irrationalYou think that his possessiveness is cute and endearing. It’s not. Don’t get any closer to him. He sees you as property and will try molding you into the woman he wants you to be, instead of the woman that you are now. He will try to have you dependent on him and trauma bonding with him so you can’t leave. And even if you can leave, the trauma bond will make you feel as if your hearts are still aligned together, that you will still make excuses for him, that you will not see the true malignant p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 12:30 AM |
| 1 | ladies whats some red flags that tell you a man is low key sexist?Well damn, he mocked me too. Fuck him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 08:25 AM |
| 3 | Developing dating/marriage strategy for non-western womenIf that’s the way it‘s gonna be, I’m glad he dumped me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 08:08 AM |
| 1 | How manipulative men leverage guilt against their partners.The abuser has no other reason to stop his abuse since he keeps getting what he wants to fill his hilariously low esteem needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 02:47 AM |
| 2 | Sis, just break up with him already!Every day you spend with him, even as friends, is robbing you the chance for your own mental clarity, sanity, and happiness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Since breaking up…🤭 it be like that we’re just cutting our losses ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 01:08 AM |
| 1 | This is emotional manipulation and you should never, ever think your SO is necessary to make you feel complete. Any variation of this is bad. Please take it seriously, a man who idealizes you is easy to disappoint as he holds you to unreachable standards, and once disappointed, he is dangerous.when he says this, he is basically not taking any accountability for his own accountability, right? like the woman exists for his happiness at all times, and if he’s not happy, he will blame the woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 07:20 PM |
| 52 | Don't Miss Out On YouEasy. Rihanna moved on from Chris Brown to create her own empire. She doesn’t need to make music anymore. She got her own. Karreuche Tran also dumped Chris Brown for better looking men. Yes, they side stepped the garbage. — In my life, it took me 5 years to process the trauma, grief, and abuse from a 1.5 year relationship. I suffered so much to get where I am today. I jumped through a thousand hoops to make it in my government job. The hoops were beyond my mental and emotional struggles... Any l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 08:36 AM |
| 2 | Dropped a manipulative narc on Xmas, just looking for FDS support and love💗 Thank you for this pep talk, for all abuse survivors! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 02:08 AM |
| 10 | another quick vetting strategy: how a man views your job and work historyWatch for how LVM will feel towards educated women. They will feel like their intelligence is threatened if they see we are well-read, well-rounded, and well-endowed. Get rid of a man if he says you’re putting him down with how smart you are. If he were truly HVM, he would bring himself to your level, because he knows he has a lot to lose! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Petulant vulnerability. A newly coined term, it seems, to describe the behaviour of emotionally manipulative men.Fuck ‘em. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 07:57 AM |
| 1 | “You’re Not Happy”- A Gaslight PhraseBe careful with that one. If you have an abusive ex, they could flip shits and verbally attack even further. Your safety comes first, | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 07:55 AM |
| 21 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?What does he say about Mom that will reveal about his personality/atttachment style? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 07:48 AM |
| 8 | The Phantom Ex - when avoidant men pine for a past loveWell if you was really in love with the fine ass woman when you had her but didn’t want to put in the work to be at HER LEVEL, you deserve every piece of karma your way. What’s she gonna do? Listen to your sob story how you married the wrong one and that you was stupid to let go of a good thing? Spare us the tears. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 03:04 AM |
| 1 | I want to release all women, especially those trapped in religion and cultural driven misogyny, of these “struggleships”. Being with him when he’s broke is not a badge of honor, constant fighting and cheating aren’t the “ups and downs” of relationshipsBeautifully constructed! 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 02:59 AM |
| 3 | Being “understanding” will get you NOWHERE with men. They will lie, use, cheat, and abuse you. Save your empathy ONLY for your close family, children, & trusted friends.Yes!! Don’t think you can save him or heal him or bring to the light. he has to make the conscious decision to be healed! if he holds onto resentment and won’t make that leap of faith and trust, that is on HIM. These kind of men cannot self-reflect or handle constructive feedback. Smh. it is a damn shame that a woman who clearly loves them shows them the truth, but they can’t handle the truth so they lash out against her. Such a man? Dump him. Delete him. Forget he ever existed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:23 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever ended a relationship because you realized his Dreamgirl wasn’t you—it was an ex or one of his friends?This is amazing! I love putting on the cute, high pitched-raspy voice mix on. 😂 We doing our secret agent work! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 05:07 AM |
| 3 | Never stay friends nor let your exes stay in your lifeGirl, how did you pick yourself up and become so strong? thanks so much for sharing your story. My ex got so upset when I declined his wanting to “just talk” and “I don’t want you gone” when we broke up. Now I know, if i had remained friends with him at the cost of being even more codependent and hurt, it would’ve ended the way you just described. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 04:37 AM |
| 1 | It does NOT fucking matter WHY he's problematic, that's NOT. YOUR. PROBLEM.Truth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 04:18 AM |
| 1 | Signs of aggression in any form is a red flag.ugh, emotionally immature man. His behavior has narcissistic tendencies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 03:50 AM |
| 1 | "I'm the Prize" vs "I'm Priceless" Mindset*hug* this is my new paradigm now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Avoidantly attached men like to pretend securely or anxiously attached women are “needy” when avoidants are actually very, VERY needy.Hey girl, thanks for sharing. What were the actions that your ex showed that were indicative of narcissistic tendencies? Would you have known that he was slightly narcissistic if you hadn’t gone to therapy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 07:32 AM |
| 1 | Why do men act so nice to other people but seem to hate their own wife and children?yet they blame everyone except themselves. some self-awareness wouldn't hurt! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 06:08 AM |
| 1 | Men Double TextingAnd he called you "controlling as hell" and "needy" too, right?!?! I'm glad you got out of it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Men Double Textingfuckkk those kinds of men. damn. emotionally immature as FUCK. cut him loose! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 05:59 AM |
| 1 | I thought I was saying a HVM until he got drunk and "dumped" me (minutes after telling me he loved me and saying goodnight), then immediately regretted it. Dumped, blocked, and deleted. As hard as it can be, I deserve better. Damn, it feels good not settling.honestly, my ex did the same thing when we were really headed to splitsville. We had broken up multiple times, and I took him back each time when he said he was sorry along with a “don’t hate me.” Once, we had a particularly bad falling out, and he drunk texted me at 4 am saying “I miss you, call me“ to make up and meet up with him. when I asked why he got drunk, which is something I did not like or want him to do when we were together, he said it was OK for him to do it because we weren’t toget… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 04:58 AM |
| 2 | Reminder: people are incapable of treating you any better than they treat themselvesI understand everything now. You cannot bring someone to be healed if they themselves do not choose to heal, level up, and pick themselves up. A man with dangerously low self-esteem will understand a HVW is better than him, but he will not put in the work for her since he cannot put in the work for himself! The standard to which he vilifies the HVW is the same standard he has for himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 04:44 AM |
| 1 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?Yeah girl, I honestly don't know what to tell you. My ex wouldn't open up about his culture. If someone were actually serious and long-term with you, they would talk about traditions, values, customs, even expectations. He said something similar to the effect about his mother. Why doesn't he become 2nd husband to his mother, you know? lol Everything I've learned is from subreddits, connecting with others who have direct experience with the culture. I hope he did not trauma bond with you either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:39 AM |
| 1 | Important Points on Self-Love/ Self-Respect. Read even if you don’t think you have low self-esteemJotting this in my notebook like I'm RANDALL 👑 A queen needs her affirmations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:33 AM |
| 2 | Family Matters. Pay close attention to his expectations for you joining his family, and pay equally close attention to his expectations for him joining your family.Thanks so much for bringing this to our attention. What you have mentioned is absolutely vital to the emotional stability, safety, and security between spouses! I had wanted to marry a man who I thought was HV, but because we were trauma bonded, the abuse seemed like it was “normal” to me. Broken boundaries should never result in escalated behaviors. Of course, he learned abuse patterns from his parents. No self-regulation whatsoever. Can you imagine if I had married that family? Not only would … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Family Matters. Pay close attention to his expectations for you joining his family, and pay equally close attention to his expectations for him joining your family.Watch the way he will stand up for you (or not) if he is pitted against you/your desires/your boundaries by his parents! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:22 AM |
| 1 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?And coming home really late, no quality time together or with kids! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Love is never enough!This is real shit we need to know. Can't avoid the important things!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:21 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else pick up Narcissist vibes off of pictures?Dead eyes. That's for sure. It's pretty pitiful to see but it's a give-away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:20 AM |
| 2 | Textbook narcissistic abuse. Luckily, most people warned OP!Can't win. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:19 AM |
| 2 | Trauma Bond vs. Authentic Love: yearning for the intensity of toxic dynamics? (see comments for text post)Thanks so much for explaining how it is conditioning. Weaning off my brain from the fighting! Free at last. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:19 AM |
| 1 | Finally left the narcissistic abusive ex after one last strawAin't that the truth? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:18 AM |
| 1 | 3 Reasons Why Narcissists Need to “Replace” Their Partners:Pinning all blame on the ex. Only NVM would do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:17 AM |
| 6 | Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.Honestly, you are so right. Anyone who is worth their salt and is High Value will put in the work to better themselves, become more mature, become more stable before they can share their universe with someone else. It takes true strength, patience, resilience to grow... It also means falling flat on our face on our climb up. Regardless, our character is tested. And we reap rewards for it. Never settle. When life gives you the opportunity to run away from an abuser, Run away. And never go back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 04:04 AM |
| 8 | Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.It's a pendulum of placing on pedestal and completely devaluing. They want their cake and to eat it too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 04:01 AM |
| 7 | Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.Now even if they move onto someone new, do we still live rent-free in these abusive narcs' heads??! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 03:38 AM |
| 106 | Marriage is not an accomplishment. Focus on leveling up!Find happiness within yourself first. You will know you were successful and joyful before a man came into the picture. And if you get married, that's beautiful. You can share the mutual happiness, desire, sex, attraction with a man you love who reciprocates his feelings for you. And in the off chance it doesn't work out, you know you will still be a boss bitch because you were your own woman before him and will continue being a confident, sexy, successful woman after him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 03:33 AM |
| 12 | Do not go back where you did not belong — your shitty, abusive ex will never change for the better.Thank you!! Women that have been abused are SURVIVORS, not victims. He didn’t do it TO us. Rather, we endured the pain and suffering to BOSS UP to the next level, a level that we didn’t know was possible! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 02:08 AM |
| 8 | Women who dated covert narcissists, did their narcissism get "worse" over time?Exact same thing happened to me.I was wondering how in the world our arguments escalated so much in intensity and in frequency! Towards the end of our relationship, we would break up and make up countless times. He would say "I'm sorry," "I miss you," "I don't want you gone," and I thought he really loved me so I took him back each time. But when fights got really bad, he said pretty mean swears and projections. It was Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. I loved him and always forgave him... until one time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 12:38 AM |
| 9 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?Here’s the thing. A man who renounces and denounces Islam has hell to pay. He must be willing to sacrifice everything: honor, family, inheritance, and his own life to be an HVM. For Muslim men who apostatize and convert to another religion, he may be subject to further threats to his life. A Muslim must be truly firm in their worldview and beliefs to leave behind a life of comfort in patriarchy. The question is which ones are willing to become noble HVM at the cost of losing everything. Not many… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 07:41 AM |
| 41 | Women who dated covert narcissists, did their narcissism get "worse" over time?So, you’re telling me after you 2 broke up, he still wanted to be friends? Well, that would be unhealthy to remain friends right after. Now, did he want to be friends to keep his ego intact but since you rejected his friendship offer, he became even loonier? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 07:36 AM |
| 1 | The audacity of menCan you explain more about these matchmakers? Are they duplicitous? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 04:48 AM |
| 33 | You will KNOW when a man wants you as his everything. Because HE KNOWS right away.A man might want you to be his everything, but will he sacrifice everything so that you become his everything? I say this after dating someone in a high misogyny culture. He declared bold statements of wanting to be free from his oppressive culture and family, but he did not put in the actions to leave. He might have said he loved me, but his actions did not show it. If he loved me, he would have abandoned the family inheritance; he wouldn't have given two fucks about family "honor." If he loved… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 04:32 AM |
| 1 | Things my therapist told me that kept me from getting back together with my LVMI also like to think of how different my life would have been had I married him.... Damn, I wouldn't have been an independent BOSS if I got married to him. There will be better, sexier, more responsible, more worthy men out there. Working on leveling up so that when the time is right, a successful, mutually fulfilling, full of love and sex relationship will be FULL of green flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 04:00 AM |
| 1 | Beware of this type of men. It's one of many abusive types mentioned in Lundy's book, but I see this specific type very often lately, especially on social media.The men who speak ill of former lovers baffle me. Like, just learn from it and move on? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 03:54 AM |
| 6 | Men Abuse Women Who They Perceive to be BETTER THAN THEMDon't even give a man who wants sympathy the time of day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 03:39 AM |
| 1 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?You mean to say that choking or at least a hand on neck during intimate relations is a warning sign? Is this a sign of disrespect and dehumanization? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 02:46 AM |
| 4 | Ladies who have dated Desi or Muslim, how did the misogyny affect how you were treated in the relationship?What do you mean by needs a mommy to sleep with? One that would dote on him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 11:58 PM |
| 17 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?In this regard, would makeup relations/intimate contact be unhealthy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:56 AM |
| 55 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?Exactly.... smdh. All the ladies that went through abuse are survivors! This is some shit to experience in your life. Damn! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:49 AM |
| 164 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?When our fights got bad, he would force me, verbally, to face him when I cried. “stand up, face me.” These were curt statements. He thought I was being disrespectful when I needed my space. I may have cried even harder but then he would hug me very tightly, a change in disposition... is this a manipulation tactic? That man left me in so many confusing flurries. Smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 06:53 AM |
| 1 | What are some tell-tale/subtle signs of a LV/NV man “warming” you up to physical abuse?You mentioned the devaluation, discard, and despise cycle. Does the despise ever dissipate or is it forever seething resentment/hatred? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:59 AM |
| 22 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?Men who enjoy sparring in and watching MMA/boxing/physical combat sports would be red flags as well? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:45 AM |
| 130 | What are warning signs that the man may become physically abusive?This was me. It took me years to finally realize IT WASN'T MY FAULT. It took me FIVE YEARS to list all his red flags, because my psyche clung onto how he was "perfect" and "no other man like him exists." It was painful, but I thank God and praise God every day I am free. Free from the abuse. Free from the blame. Free from the screaming, yelling, crying, walking on egg shells. Free to be ME, independent, beautiful, and hopeful. That is enough for me to be happy every day since I have been release… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:44 AM |
| 2 | Everyday I read multiple posts on Reddit about women being abuse by their SO or men in their life. Most of them don’t even realize they are being abused.The first step for a woman to know she was abused is to realize the man is FLAWED and that his actions WERE abuse, as well as rewiring her thought processes that it was NOT her fault. For 5 years after our Nc breakup, I did not know I was abused. I made excuses for his behavior, questioned my own sanity, questioned the actions I made in the past, blamed myself for hurting him until this day. I even blamed the people he blamed for his misfortunes! (that man was a perpetual victim mindset...) All … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 04:44 AM |
| 2 | Post-breakup... the sadness was actually oxytocin withdrawal??I love you 😭 exactly what I needed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:59 AM |
| 1 | “Crazy” GirlfriendLack of self-awareness Low emotional intelligence Victim complex/mentality Self-centered Low effort man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Unknown signs of abusive and manipulative men that I wish I had known soonerWe must have dated the same guy. I would tell him things out of care and concern, and he blew up at me, saying that I was trying to diss him in a roundabout/subliminal level. As I was young and inexperienced, I just played along to see how far his words would go. Yeah... that guy was not well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 07:43 AM |
| 1 | Stories and examples of sensitive/emotional men being abusive or manipulative?The funniest is when they say “and no, I’m not playing the victim.” LOL, this dick just outed himself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 04:51 AM |
| 1 | Pay extra attention to how he talks about his ex! [from Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft]Holy. So that’s why I did what I did. My ex would intimidate me and yell at me regularly. I thought nothing of it, but then I found myself spewing the same amount of vitriol at him. I always questioned how I stooped so low in the heat of the moment. NO! It was my body’s reaction to his verbal abuse as a way to defend myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?It’s not like he had a gun pointed at him to get married to her, right? Wish he wasn‘t such a balls-less pansy! Now the poor girl will suffer for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 03:17 AM |
| 1 | “Why did he marry her and not me?”Damn, ain’t this the energy I need! 😂 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Spend your teenage and 20s, mindfully!GO OFF! 👏 You have no idea how successful women are the gatekeepers. A HVM will make sure HE can rise up to how powerful and virtuous just as much as she is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Fawning like "How are you single?"/"You sound too good to be true!"/"Are you real?"Been there, done that. Ex put me on a pedestal. As soon as I addressed his actions I did not like, he didn’t like what I had to say. Insisted that I was “looking down“ on him. Then he would flip flop and say “you’re so much better than me, you deserve better” back to “YOU THINK YOU‘RE THE ONLY WOMAN IN THE WORLD?!” Man, looking back it, I kinda laugh and shake my head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:25 AM |
| 2 | It is NOT about "Finally finding the perfect HVM so that I can have my happily ever after" - It is about prioritizing YOUR HAPPINESS no matter what happens.Whoo hoo! Yes, thank you for mentioning the scarcity mindset. Def need to drop that, because WE are the prize. WE are the gatekeepers. Not men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:03 AM |
| 1 | My friend's mom just told me, "the only anti-aging skincare you need is sunscreen and staying away from men who give you stress"Omg so true! Dont forget the moisturizer ✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Men don’t always marry the woman they love the most: a n insight from an OLD convoThis is very interesting! ESP considering cluster b personality men are fickle as can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 10:12 PM |
| 16 | What is it about South Asian/Desi culture that makes the men so depraved?I’ve always wondered... how much is it where these men were ACTUALLY abused and imprisoned in their cultural circle via parents vs. them being just big babies? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Do not refrain from running a background check, snooping his phone, or showing up uninvited — trust but verify. Which tactics have you used to check his credibility?use whitepages. spydialer to reach his voicemail. find the names of their friends On social media, see if you can find posts with him tagged. find his family member’s social media profiles, esp. if he has siblings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Encountering men who overshare: RUN, SIS.LOL! I’mma use this from now on 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 09:04 PM |
| 1 | beware of men that aren't over their EX and the subtle ways they let you knowIf he does run away and tense up when seeing an ex, what would that reveal about him or the relationship that transpired? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 09:02 PM |
| 1 | beware of men that aren't over their EX and the subtle ways they let you knowI totally know what you mean. I saw my ex, and when I went to say hi, he would NOT look me in the eyes. I was friendly to him, like you said, no hang ups about the past. His body language was catatonic... He didn’t even ask how I was doing. 🤷♀️ 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 08:58 PM |
| 54 | What is it about South Asian/Desi culture that makes the men so depraved?🤮 boy you can’t tell me u don’t want an arranged marriage and get one 😂 they are roaches | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 08:39 PM |
| 3 | What've you rediscovered about yourself since being single?I like to talk back when threatened. I don’t bow down when provoked. I enjoy my freedom and autonomy. I am self-made, even though the road to get there was hell. I been through hell, AND I SURVIVED! I AM STRONG. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 08:38 PM |
| 5 | What've you rediscovered about yourself since being single?holy. Same thing happened to me. these men dont change. Glad we escaped bullshit entanglements. fuck them. We on our queen shit 🤙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 08:34 PM |
| 5 | Beware of 'moody' menThank you SO much for explaining the nuances behind this!! 👑 💗 🥇 My Pakistani-American ex (21) was my first boyfriend when I was 20. I grew up in a very sheltered Americanized upbringing (upper middle white culture) and I didn’t quite have exposure to Islamic-Desi culture. So, being as I was completely a baby to relationships, I believed every word this man said. Gave him a break because I really did think people were “out to get him” and that “people screwed him over,” which is why he had “mass… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 07:47 PM |
| 1 | NEVER EVER assume that you’re the exception to the rule.Same happened to me. My first relationship. I went crazy, even 5 years after the breakup trying to process why he dumped me. How could he be so cold? Why couldn’t he forgive me? Why couldn’t he trust me? Man. Fuck him. I loathed myself. I blamed myself. I begged God that I could even be back with him. Five fucking years of trauma over a relationship that only lasted a little more than a year. Completely NC too. I am fucking free now. He hurt me so badly, and still, I SURVIVED. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 06:17 AM |
| 1 | I wanted to share a really informative article that does a great job of outlining what it means to be trauma bonded to a narcissist as well as why it makes it so hard for the abused partner to leave.Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 06:05 AM |
| 1 | Just realized the extent of the damage caused by a narcissistic scroteIt’s not you. It’s THEM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:56 AM |
| 3 | Forgive yourself for past mistakes with men, but never forgetNever blame yourself For what transpired. It takes 2 to play. You did the best you could do given the knowledge you had back then. after you have learned what not to do in the future, the only thing you should “look back at it” is your beautiful ass leaving a shit person and shit situation. At the end of the day, you’re still a queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 04:13 AM |
| 3 | What've you rediscovered about yourself since being single?Wow. What exactly did your ex do to warrant tears and anger? What an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 04:08 AM |
| 3 | Beware of 'moody' menHe was Pakistani. It didn’t make any sense to me. Like he said he would never marry a “brown girl” with white features, especially not blue eyes (the Pakistani male trophy wife) because he did not want anything to do with brown girls. Then he goes ahead and does what he said he would never do? He even shit talked so much about his ex when we were together. I thought she really was the bad guy but now I’m side eyeing his account. He said that she slapped him and went telling their mutual contac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Beware of 'moody' menOmg. Gospel truth. When he got mad, he said I was a needy piece of sh—. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 07:12 AM |
| 2 | Beware of 'moody' menFUCK, this was my ex. Our highs were high and our lows were low... my brain got attached whenever I would bend backwards for his happiness just so he could show he still loved me. 5 years after our NC breakup, and he resents me to this day. He got an arranged marriage (when he vowed to not get one) and I wonder how he could cling onto negativity. Sheesh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 07:10 AM |
| 3 | Beware of 'moody' menMy ex would withdraw affection and communication when he got into his negative moods. It really made me feel like I was walking on eggshells with him. He crossed boundaries, and I lit myself on fire for his needs.... then he broke them. He would sometimes rage,p and pick needless fights. He would diss me, intimidate me when he was angry. Out of self-defense, i dished it back too and he upped the ante. I realized he had a traumatized childhood and did not have any secure attachment with his par… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 07:07 AM |
| 1 | Spotting Red Flags: Maternal EnmeshmentFuck, hitting the nail on the head. I dodged a bullet. 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 06:55 AM |
| 26 | How come ladies say you don’t want to be the “ride or die” woman to a man who grew to be successful with you?This is true for other cultures besides Western? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 08:14 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on Building With A ManI needed to know this. THANK YOU!! 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:25 AM |
| 1 | Do NOT listen to men when they say richer men don’t care about your educational background or job statusHow do the rich HV men differ from the rich LV men? How did you distinguish as you were growing up? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Information to withhold initiallyMen who were intimated by the woman’s success? Why is that? one person kept saying I was too good for him and too smart for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Information to withhold initiallyUgh. Facts. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:19 AM |
| 3 | Dating outside of your raceWell said. The discussion is more appropriate when framed around “culture.” :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 03:07 AM |
| 2 | Dating outside of your raceAs an Asian women, I side eye the FUCK out of white men. Expect white men to be patronizing and controlling, even strangers on the damn street. You need to learn to be cocky, downright arrogant to white men in order for them to respect you. White men have caught on. They know a sad majority of Asian women are self-hating and white-worshipping, so they will be opportunistic of that. But how will you show them that you eat those mfs Alive with your HVW and self-loving attitude? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 03:01 AM |
| 1 | What are the red flags that it’s emotional abuse?Thanks so much for sharing your story. I hope that your children realize how HV you are and follow your example! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 01:26 AM |
| 1 | What are the red flags that it’s emotional abuse?Yes, I understand what you are saying. Even while dating, he expressed worry about how I carried myself. He called me a “white girl“ as a way to perhaps, point out my whitewashed, Westernized worldview. He was afraid I might piss off his family with my American mouth and aloofness towards Muslim culture. He also didn’t like it when I wore clothing that was of a revealing nature or left the house/wasn’t available when he expected me to be. I was so naive, I thought this was endearing and manly be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:56 AM |
| 1 | What are the red flags that it’s emotional abuse?Were you of the same background as your husband? (or ex-husband?) Was he willing to compromise and see things beyond his worldview? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 04:32 AM |
| 13 | What are the red flags that it’s emotional abuse?He blamed everyone around him, and he was also pretty damn insecure. Why are Muslim-American men, whether practicing or not, like this? He didn’t grow up in a war zone, he came from a wealthy family. Father immigrated and opened up a restaurant and his dad was wildly successful. (His siblings are LV lazy, and at the time, I thought he was HV.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 02:51 PM |
| 11 | What are the red flags that it’s emotional abuse?It really makes me think about the dynamics of their parents. Is it that abusive between their parents too? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 02:48 PM |
| 19 | What are the red flags that it’s emotional abuse?Towards the end of our relationship, as we fought more, he would delete photos of me/us together that we had taken. What kind of abuse is this? Sigh. The break up was not amicable. He wanted to stay friends but I was speaking from a place of hurt and said I never wanted to talk to him again. I’ve tried reaching out, to extend an olive branch so to speak to show past is passed, but each time I’ve done so, I am ignored. He must have lost face acting the way he did in front of me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 02:47 PM |
| 35 | What are the red flags that it’s emotional abuse?He had only started using weed recently when we argued more Frequently. He had a very external locus of control, claiming it was i who pushed him to smoke weed to cope, which is unfortunate. At the end of the day, this man needs to work on himself. I too need to work on myself as well. after reading your comment, wow. Maybe I had my head stuck in sand, loving and defending this person. 😔 Eh well, queens got to learn and grow somewhere. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 07:52 AM |
| 3 | Just a reminder: if a man is rude or stereotypes women from his own race, bet he will also mistreat you.Why are brown men like this? 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 07:26 AM |
| 2 | HOW TO TEXT LIKE A QUEEN 📱👑This is the only way to do it. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 01:09 AM |
| 8 | Know your worth - "The longer you're on the market, the more people wonder what's wrong with you" "Some properties stay on the market because they're too expensive 🤷🏼♀️"You ladies speak the truth! I am so grateful for you fantastic souls! I’ve been feeling so much pressure about this in my personal life. I’ll just boss up, glow up in the meantime!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 07:51 AM |
| 2 | Do you want to get to know the nuances of his culture? Look at meme pages targeted to their ethnic groupAre you... from the future? 😱 also, a lot of memes I'm looking at on IG are in the native language :-/ i can't understand that! how about looking through YouTube: "What [nationality] men hate" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Why FDS is Crucial if Motherhood is a GoalGood luck getting that in usa sex ed. the amount of politics will never make it happen 🙄 but hey, you could do it for homeschool ed :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 08:34 AM |
| 3 | Why FDS is Crucial if Motherhood is a Goalnot all heroes wear capes... thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 08:30 AM |
| 12 | Never take a man at face valueew, ben shapiro LOL. hasan piker ugh, you know he belongs with all the gaming scrotes. leave him in the trash... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 08:19 AM |
| 2 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?don't get me started on those male fitness influencers. fuckkk, they just need to disappear with their desperate flexes of how fit they are and how to get fit. insecure mess at its best! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 03:29 AM |
| 6 | Any Powerful Men (like CEOs) that married DreamGirl? Or do these men just chase after status and bangmaids?I'd say look for small business owners who aren't married/have never been married. Or if they are married, go after their sons and see if they've learned HVM traits 👍(Different story if they think they'll cruise with parents' money. In that case, move on.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 03:21 AM |
| 18 | Any Powerful Men (like CEOs) that married DreamGirl? Or do these men just chase after status and bangmaids?What was his upbringing like? Did he make his own wealth from the bottom up, thus learning self-discipline and such? Glad you have a family member who's HVM! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 05:36 AM |
| 6 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?My guesses are: -something to do with socialites but could be ruled out because no Kim K -opera/classical music house owner -private residential club owner or manager (country club) -think elite... where do the elite hang out? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 05:34 AM |
| 24 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?Are most Docs Narcs? I've also noticed a high divorce rate amongst them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 05:30 AM |
| 62 | Any Powerful Men (like CEOs) that married DreamGirl? Or do these men just chase after status and bangmaids?Oh yes, psychopathy the higher rank you go. Now are they narcissistic and entitled before they were famous or did the wealth and power just make it more pronounced? probably a bit of both lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 04:32 AM |
| 5 | Any man who aspires to be a “house husband” (even joking) is LVMMakes sense! I only know of only 1 couple in my friend group where the man is pretty much a househusband. He was previously a customer service manager at a restaurant while his wife is a high-ranked nurse. The male's father recently passed away and left a shit load for the man. So what did the man do? Quit his day job as a customer service manager (even though the owner of the restaurant wanted to give him the store since he was really good at his job...) to be a househusband and invest in stock… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:46 AM |
| 11 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?did those men stereotype her as dumb? i get the vibe that conniving bozos believe attractive women who are educators are stupid. like they think being a teacher is only singing lullabies all day long so hot teachers must be dumb and clueless and easy to manipulate, take advantage of. i've also observed that a lot of women who are finished with their pageant career, as they retire at 26 or 27, will go into teaching. now if pageant women are giving off airhead vibes, i wouldn't be surprised if NVM… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:38 AM |
| 20 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?how about waste management from now on? 😉 then we can just smirk to ourselves because we're vetting and then once we find out LVM and NVM... time to throw them back where they belong. trash bin :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:33 AM |
| 19 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?what?! why?! how?! 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 02:30 AM |
| 6 | Any man who aspires to be a “house husband” (even joking) is LVMHow do HVM feel about being a "house husband"? I equate HVM as men who believe in the synergy of traditional gender roles not opposing each other but building each other up. I think that HVM would want to contribute to the family/household as much as they could. If it meant being a house husband, he would be willing to do so, provided he could support the family, not just by "playing house," but perhaps running a business, investing in stocks, while at home. Thoughts? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 10:15 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, let’s talk about money! Whether you're single, dating, or married, all women need to be financially literate. Here are my tips to help protect yourself and to increase your financial security at all stages of your life.You are golden!! Thank you! How did you learn and navigate new cultural norms? It's definitely a different experience when your own parents are immigrants who struggled with assimilating in a new country and will pour onto you their disdain, thus sharpening the 'distrust' you have towards others. I guess what you're saying is to vet, cast a wide net, and keep talking to people on LinkedIn!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 09:04 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, let’s talk about money! Whether you're single, dating, or married, all women need to be financially literate. Here are my tips to help protect yourself and to increase your financial security at all stages of your life.1st generation Asian-American female millennial in Bay Area.Grew up in distinctly white, hegomonic sphere that emphasized upper echelon career track in corporate world. I chose gov't job. I've finally found a healthy workplace where there are healthy boundaries. (At my last workplace, private and personal lives were blurred. Work emails exchanged between departments way past closing! another example of blurred boundaries - An older colleague of mine was upset that I didn't share details of my pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 04:07 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, let’s talk about money! Whether you're single, dating, or married, all women need to be financially literate. Here are my tips to help protect yourself and to increase your financial security at all stages of your life.How are you making friends and maintaining relationships (with honest people vs. vultures) to expand your network? Speaking as someone who is both an introvert and not very trusting of people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 01:18 AM |
| 4 | Why do men marry a woman they don't actually love, continue to have children with her, and cheat? Why not stop before the marriage? Why not divorce?What problems are inherent in loaded dudes who go after EC teachers or women in traditionally caretaking roles that make way less than say, "upper echelon" earning potential jobs? for example, finance bros going after teachers (as you mentioned in your example) vs. finance bros going after director of a hospital/tip top of the hierarchy female doctor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 01:04 AM |
| 51 | Why do men marry a woman they don't actually love, continue to have children with her, and cheat? Why not stop before the marriage? Why not divorce?I mean, speaking as a woman, I personally would really hate to wake up next to a man who didn't respect me, who I wasn't attracted to, and who was just negative value. How the hell would I be able to even copulate with... eh, never mind, you get my drift! Alas, is the reason why I'm here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 08:58 AM |
| 13 | NYT: Globally the Alt - Right is targeting Asian WomenWhite supremacists believe that Asians are easy targets and believe in the whole "submissive" crap. I guarantee you that they believe Asian women are inferior and that these women (especially ethnic women) were made to worship the great "white man." Now what if the Asian woman is self-hating and believes "white is right and might"? It becomes very quick ideological brainwashing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 03:35 AM |
| 5 | Men who are disgusted by body hair on women usually look like gorillasHow about men who say they don't mind body hair? They truly don't mind or...? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 05:17 AM |
| 1 | Your reputation: did it sink when you mingled, dated, or married a ZVM or LVM?I'm not sure if I'm allowed to link to the specific subreddit link where there are 48 Laws of Power pdf notes. BUT, if you type in "[title of book] notes reddit" on Google search, you'll be able to find it! In my own words, I'd say it's keep your mouth shut to cover your own ass because even if YOU have good intentions, someone else might a.) think you have anything but good intentions and/or b.) THEY have bad intentions. Or worse, c.) what you say can be used as a scapegoat for someone ELSE's m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 04:53 AM |
| 27 | Asshole coworkerIf you guys work together, any chance you can say that he has poor performance? It ain't lying if he's not focusing on doing his job. Sounds like he's more fixated on you than getting his money (aka he a dumbass) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 05:38 AM |
| 7 | Don't marry the first freakin' guy who gives you attention. NSFW due to strong opinion.Interracial isn't the problem. Racial fetishism is. It's gotten to be such a huge problem that even in the BDSM community, there's something called "raceplay." Like what the fuck? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:22 PM |
| 7 | Don't marry the first freakin' guy who gives you attention. NSFW due to strong opinion.I'm from the Bay. Mixed couples are everywhere. Unfortunately, there are a ton of TOXIC interracial partnerships that are based on racial fetishism that has only hurt women of color. In Case 2 marriage above, this is sadly the case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:19 PM |
| 30 | Don't marry the first freakin' guy who gives you attention. NSFW due to strong opinion.Shitty men worship the ground you walk on if, and only if, you're super hot. High value men (who respect you and love you!)worship the ground you walk on regardless if you're hot, dressed up/dressed down, bloated, and/or messed-up-hair-from-morning sickness. You have to understand: A ZVM, LVM, NVM wants you. And his desire for you is conditional. An HVM values you. It's unconditional. DESIRE vs. VALUE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 11:51 PM |
| 15 | Don't marry the first freakin' guy who gives you attention. NSFW due to strong opinion.On the contrary, I think that's why there's Female Level Up Strategy. It's not about luxury. It's about agency and ownership of your own path. There are countless women who become socially mobile even though they grew up with nothing or near-nothing, even within the constraints of a patriarch, traditional, conservative culture. (Or family, cultural obligations as you were saying.) When a woman marries a man to elevate her own status, she's implicitly telling herself she can't do it without a man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 10:06 PM |
| 5 | Online: Keeping a Relationship Private vs. a Secret?+1 for men with no social media. They be a rare pirate's booty yarr 🏴☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 07:03 AM |
| 1 | Guidelines to Binning/Forgetting/Deleting Men?Can you unpack the "too pretty to be single" comment a little more? Does this insinuate the man is shallow af? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 04:20 PM |
| 6 | Guidelines to Binning/Forgetting/Deleting Men?Whoo! Take it away, sis! I was blown away by your dissection of the shittiness of online dating. Definitely the talk I needed as I was just dismantling ideas I built up in my head about a man. Honestly, the interactions of online dating trickles down to many forms of social media, whether it be the lame Instagram story reaction or trite, incomplete, downright half-assed responses on Snapchat. Rough seas with plenty of blob fish men (equivalent to the NVM, LVM) of which we must ignore. There’s a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 07:14 AM |
| 6 | How to level up during the pandemic?Visit r/femalelevelupstrategy :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 07:08 AM |
| 18 | How to not internalize rejection during dating?“What is meant for you will reach you even if it is beneath two mountains. And what isn’t meant for you won’t reach you even if is between your two lips.” -Arabic Proverb When rejected, I think of the many ways I am Boss, I am Bomb, and I sure as hell am Beautiful. Perhaps a rejection is a sign that we avoided a train wreck or an emotionally unfulfilling disaster. I do my damndest to focus back on my hobbies and increase my skills, to forget the fleeting attention and forgotten coulda-woulda-sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 07:04 AM |
| 7 | Guidelines to Binning/Forgetting/Deleting Men?Fucking this though. Holllly. The whole ignoring, not following up and not following through -- is this a generational thing? Cultural thing? To add to your point, if you aren't a priority to someone and they treat you accordingly, don't entertain them anymore even through casual conversation. They don't reciprocate or even engage. Hell, they probably don't even respect your time. Fuck that low energy shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 03:25 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020How to get over men who ghost, ignore, and/or reject you? Especially for ladies who don’t initiate with men and don’t use online dating stuff (aren’t surrounded by pools of men either in school, work, etc.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Only LVM are dating during COVID-19preach it! :D a little absence makes the heart grow fonder. i'm looking and responding to this post 3 months later. things have definitely opened up across the country. is it still preferred we stay at home vs. meet up with a social distance walk? hell, even restaurants are open with dine-out tables. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 07:15 AM |
| 5 | “Were you raised by wolves?”Why do LVMS interview like this?! UGH! Luckily, when they ask me hella questions, I ask them the same questions. Esp. how they grew up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 11:07 PM |
| 6 | A mid 30s man with no job who lives with his parents.What contributes to these men getting unhinged in the first place? :-/ Unfortunately, I have a tendency to snap back at entitled men (ie fuckbois) since the way they try to 'conquer' is so disrespectful! (But yes, gotta work on not giving a shit about them and just ignore.) --- I looked closely at their social media interactions with other people, esp. what I could gather from their LinkedIn activity. I had a feeling there was some depression going on that came off as self-serving, arrogant mach… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Must Watch/Listen. “Men who value and respect their wives don’t marry down because they feel co-equal. Marrying down implies that they feel superior.”What books would you recommend re: psych? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 05:53 AM |
| 33 | A mid 30s man with no job who lives with his parents.Careful though. I used a similar line on someone I actually knew. He got pissed and tried to put me down. You never know if it'll set off a fire with someone who already has a few screws loose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 05:45 AM |
| 3 | No matter how much chemistry you appear to have over the phone do not be fooledZoom included. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 05:41 AM |
| 16 | Why do women seek, marry men with 10+ age gap? How does religion affect age gap complacency? How does FDS feel about women being 2nd, 3rd, etc. wife?At the deep cost of self-respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 05:48 PM |
| 1 | TIL polygamist Brigham Young got out of paying alimony to one of his ex-wives on the grounds that — since polygamy was illegal — they were never actually married.Is there stigma regarding these types of divorces for Muslim couples? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 04:25 AM |
| 7 | One-linersOne liners are used so that they can project a false air of wittiness and create flirtatious banter. When I am the recipient of a one-liner, I will either respond with a short response myself, which is insulting them/shutting down their statement OR I will affirm the positive. What I mean by the latter is, if he compliments me and a "thank you" or "you're so sweet" is expected, I'd say, "I know." Nothing better than sounding conceited and confident. ^Now these methods would be applied to a man I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 05:52 PM |
| 1 | What questions can I ask a man to see how much his friends influence his decisions?This is such a good question! I wish you got more responses. From what I can come up with is, 1.) Tell me about your best friend. How long have you been friends for? a. Ask questions about his friend. (If your relationship with the guy becomes bf-gf, you can ask to meet the bff someday.) 2.) Ask if they had any fights or disputes during their long friendship. a. This can give you insight on values. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 05:47 AM |
| 1 | 'Reading' Men's Profile Pictures: How to Vet?I sincerely hope these types of men would not use their own children as props in photos. 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 12:03 AM |
| 1 | 'Reading' Men's Profile Pictures: How to Vet?Dude! I feel you 😬 I had a mutual friend reach out thru FB wanting to meet, but even his undertones were eerily fast- paced. Behold, he was trying to pump and dump. Also narcissistic. Have you noticed if the guys who wanted to meet ASAP had many female friends? Or downright creeps? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 12:02 AM |
| 1 | 'Reading' Men's Profile Pictures: How to Vet?Could you explain the 'group photos' red flag? Also, if a guy wants to meet really, really soon, is this telling of a maladaptive psychological trait? Please educate! :D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 07:28 PM |
| 2 | 'Reading' Men's Profile Pictures: How to Vet?Could you explain #4? Sounds intriguing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 07:26 PM |
| 6 | 'Reading' Men's Profile Pictures: How to Vet?Aha! I couldn't help but laugh at "Rick and Morty fans." Do you mind explaining this thought? Comparable to the drivel seen in Family Guy? (I've seen memes of Rick and Morty, just thought it was a vulgar kid's show. shrug.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 07:24 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020IMO, it's an attitude. If you're gonna exude boss and queen glo up vibes, *all* males are going to notice. (But our purpose is to not get creepos to holler.) It's really a matter of presenting yourself. Head high, chin up. Walk as if you know where the hell you're going and not lost/confused. I've heard holding a blank, neutral, or almost unsatisfied expression will help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 01:37 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020How do you treat your male friends? Unfortunately, I'm getting a fair # of men who misconstrue my niceness as a means to 'get close.' (Romantic, no sexual vibes) I am examining what I'm doing exactly that could make them feel that way. How can I make it known that I'm all for a strict friends relationship, without any reason to believe it could ever be romantic? me problem or a they problem? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 01:35 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/31/2020What is the psychology behind narcissistic men? (Fuckbois) why is it that they prey upon women who are naive? And how can women who believe in FDS, but are relatively inexperienced, figure out a man is a narc in a second? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 07:39 AM |
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