Men that talk about social mobility/social class/wealth, is this a red flag?

elainejay82 · 2022-04-21T04:29:38+00:00

He's starting with complements now but that will flip. I've made the mistake of falling for this before. Your gut is steering you right. He will become very competitive with you if he keep him around in any capacity and even worse, will probably try to sabotage your climbing and goals in life.

IME it goes like this. He feels a little threatened by your position in life (obviously this one does). He then decides somewhere in his little pea brain that he has to crush that and work to break you down because he is the type that can't have a woman "showing him up." None of this will be overt. It will be very covert work as in pointing out flaws, keeping you up when you should be getting to sleep for work but pretending it's for an important reason, etc.

Every guy I've ever met who started out like this ended up emotionally abusive in some capacity.

On a positive note, you must be doing something right to make a dude feel like this! But... stay away from this one.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-04-21T06:23:03+00:00

Any hustler, crypto bro or exploitative-minded man is a 🚩

You need a man that has stability in their social & professional life. Instability is linked to hustling and male MLMism. They are the equivalent of the hunny on Facebook that wants to sell you some cereal that has amphetamines in it.

Drug usage goes hand in hand with hustling as well. Is his dream a yacht full of models, a bathtub full of champagne and then squirreling for cash and hustling again? Losing massive amounts after his trading scheme went bust?

orangechickengeneral · 2022-04-21T03:37:23+00:00

Every time a man compares himself to a woman, or competes with her, it is a very clear sign that he is insecure, petty, vindictive, and most likely is playing the long con to use you somehow. He is telling you verbatim he wants to climb socially. He will use any and all on his way there.

Stay far, far away and don't keep him as a friend or confidant. Talk to him about the weather, or a TV show, or what you are making for dinner, whatever. Don't share anything personal, who you hang out with, and so on. He is a gossiper and he will use any information that you give him about yourself to promote his own interests and his own agenda.

saint-jezebel · 2022-04-21T12:15:22+00:00

The TL;DR on this is if you’re not bragging or even bringing these things up, more like he’s probing and asking, run. This man will continue to compliment, until it turns into competing, negging and a continued downhill battle. He’s making everything about you, about him, just subtle. This is a man who thinks he’s smarter than you.

birdonthestreet · 2022-04-21T01:42:32+00:00

I feel like If it wasn’t a competition to him, he’d have no need to point it out, at all. Or compare.

whiskey_and_oreos · 2022-04-21T02:03:56+00:00

Apples and oranges. Men are allowed to succeed and climb the ladder by default. Never soothe a guy's ego in apology for your success.

queenofswordsxxx · 2022-04-21T03:17:21+00:00

I think it’s very tacky to talk about class.

HV people usually keep these things to themselves and just prefer to use loose terms to describe aspiration and ambition e.g. “work hard”, “build a financially free future”.

It’s enough to use code without having to spell things out. I personally find men very cringe when they obsess over class and lifestyle signifiers.

Snoo-33261 · 2022-04-21T01:26:13+00:00

yes. Those with money don’t need to talk about it.

FUBARfromLSA · 2022-04-21T02:46:10+00:00

He’s a weirdo.

AttentionBeginning · 2022-04-21T01:29:34+00:00

He’s a troll

Hmmmonkeyofmexico · 2022-06-03T01:43:43+00:00

No we’re just political, we’re thinking of an overthrow of the social takeover, then we shall install a collective government, built off the the workers and such people

No-your-mother · 2022-08-24T12:04:30+00:00

Could I speak to the man in charge?

Title	Men that talk about social mobility/social class/wealth, is this a red flag?
Author	Throwawaylikehay
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Comments	24
Date	April 21, 2022 1:18 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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