Queens,

You might feel like complete shit on the inside and outside after the relationship.

You might feel like you’re at constant war at yourself, blaming yourself for how your life ended up, even blaming yourself that you weren’t good enough.

Stop it!!! Stop of all those negative thoughts!!!!

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You’re not at constant war. You’re only at stalemate right now.

Your job is to make sure you WIN the war, in your thoughts which turns outwardly towards your body.

Journal your feelings! Write down all those red flags! Write down every time he yelled at you! Write down all the ways you tried to resolve conflict! Write down all of YOUR green flags! And if you cry, cry it all out. 2 hours, 3 hours, doesn’t matter! Don’t let anything stay stuck in your generous heart!

Write down all of your life goals you had before you met him! Now document the steps you will take to reach those goals! Better yet, if you‘ve started that journey already, don’t languish! Don’t tire! Keep the fuck going, and make sure to reward yourself! You only have very little left before you hit the goal, especially by the metric of how far you’ve gone!

Start working out consistently! Drink gallons of water to flush out those toxins! Get a spa treatment! Buy new clothes, especially clothes he never let you wear! Buy new lingerie, and start taking pictures of yourself in them! Those are memories to remind you that YOU GOT IT, YOU ALWAYS WILL GOT IT, AND YOU WILL CONTINUE TO GET IT! Just not him. He’s a piece of trash, pissed on by dogs, rummaged through by rats, and soiled on by skunks. Do I make myself clear?

Keep leveling up! Get a library card and start inputting that library card # to all those free resources. Read your books. Listen to those big clit energy podcasts! Pray! And if you’re not religious or spiritual, meditate! My personal favorite: do those weighted lunges, weighted squats! When you look back at what’s behind you, the only thing you should be seeing is your healthy, happy ass!

Get to the level where when you see yourself in the mirror, you say to yourself, “DAYUM! I would date myself!”

Go to those professional conferences. Go for those meetups. No friends? That’s OK, talk to us here! (Hey, it can be hard to find HVW friends out in the open.) Go dabble in new hobbies. If it’s reality tv for now, that’s ok, you can socialize about it with us too! Whatever it is that you enjoy, keep doing it. And if you haven’t found it yet, keep searching!!

💖💞👑💅🏼💗

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Love, peace, and new blessings are coming your way. Make sure that your mind, heart, and soul is open to this new abundance when it continues to overflow your life.

ETA: Thank you for the awards!!