Gals, help me wrap my head around this:

Let’s say you are a new member, newcomer, new person in a group.A woman tries to befriend you and get close to you at first. You exchange pleasantries with this person, and while you are shy, you are only warming up to this new possible companion. You do not reject her, actually you return her welcoming energy too but perhaps more subdued and calmly.

However, the next moment you meet, she completely ignores you. She won’t say hi to you, won’t acknowledge you, she will pretend you don’t exist!

This is happening to me right now. Joined a young adult group and she will not look my way, not look at my eyes, won’t talk to me. I literally don’t know anyone in the group, and she treats me as if I’m invisible. She uses vocal fry and hugs every lady in the group except me. She is very warm to the men too. But not me.

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Is it because she thinks I’m a threat in some way?...

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I mean, I know not all women are HVW but still, there’s no need for a competition? ...

I don’t know. But I like to believe that we must overflow our cups within ourselves. We don’t need to stoop down to subtle tactics of asserting our dominance or femininity, or what have you. What do you girls think?