I have been traumatized by women my entire life

2022-04-15T01:46:33+00:00

I was sexually abused by a female family member and suffered emotional abuse and neglect from my mother. I never knew my father. The majority of my interactions with women have been negative. I am guarded around women and tend to avoid prolonged interactions with them.

I think it's just a sick society that doesn't hold them accountable for their actions. I'm sorry this happened to you. You are not alone in your feelings.

Reddit1984Censorship · 2022-04-14T22:30:44+00:00

My mother was also abusive but girls at school didnt laught at me that must have been horrible, but i have had some bad experiences in relationships and with coworkers.
The good experiences i have had with women were in the situations where i conciently prevented the potential bad situations.
So i think the way i go about feeling confortable around girls is by understanding how they think in general and using that understanding to avoid trouble.
Do you feel like you understand how girls ''work'' or think in general?
Because i imagine if you dont then that could feel like a chaotic random unpredictable danger around you that can be very uncomfortable.

drunkard26 · 2022-04-14T22:21:20+00:00

You're in a dark place right now I've been there it's ok stay a while let it all out brother

Matthew351111 · 2022-04-15T00:03:28+00:00

A lot of woman truly hate us men and it is very sad. They do everything they can to drag us down, take our kids away and commit acts of harm against us. That is why I am a mgtow!

totoroloco_phd · 2022-04-15T01:26:54+00:00

Yes I have PTSD mostly because of my mother neurosis. And a lot of the worst bullying came from girls in school.

Johnathan_wickerino · 2022-04-15T04:32:31+00:00

Same. Mother beat the crap out of me countless times when I was younger. Only till I was 14 I pulled out a chopper and threatened to kill her. She'd beat me for getting a math practice questions wrong. (We're Asian)

The girls I've told I've liked make it their life's work to never respond to me again, ghost me and talk shit about me (about 7 now). Cept one. She cool. All of them rejected me. that's trauma even though most guys won't admit it.

However, I have been traumatized by men too but to a much lesser degree tbh. It's just different.

Dry-Pianist1853 · 2022-04-15T00:02:00+00:00

I have a similar experience, but honestly I've learned that the girls who mock you are just childish. Hell as a man you could easily kick their asses lol, It's like you're a pit bull upset that a Chihuahua is barking at you.

pappo4ever · 2022-04-15T03:05:50+00:00

I was like that when I was younger, I didn't knew why women treated me so bad though my life, it was like half of the human race hated my guts, guys weren't like this, why the hate and disgust from women? they didn't hate other men, they were like angels to them, always smiling and happy. Not for me.

Later in life I understood: I was nerdy, ugly and short, lol.

Remember: Be attractive, don't be unnatractive.

TempPsychWarden · 2022-04-15T09:10:52+00:00

I completely understand what you're going through. The school administrators who bullied me and wouldn't help a bullied kid were also women too. What can a kid do to deserve so much scorn? I have been bullied most of my life and treated like shit by a majority of people in general, both men and women. My own mother was abusive and my sister was her golden child, which caused me to run away from home as a teenager and I've attempted to take my own life on more than one occasion.

I do not like socializing with people at all. However, I am more willing to socialize with males because I have evidence in my life that there are good guys out there. They have helped me and treated me well and I know that wading through thousands of shitty dudes is worth having that 1 guy as a close buddy.

I cannot say I have the same evidence for women. I have never had a female "friend" who treated me anything more than an ends to a mean, whether that is favors or what not. Sure, I've tried dating but to no avail. I routinely get messages from women 10 years later who apologize for their treatment of me but I know its a grift to try and eat off of me. At the time, I was stupid enough to post a photo of me with my dream Audi R8.

I have since deleted my social media and do not acknowledge female existence in my personal life. I deliberately choose jobs and tasks at my work that require an immense amount of brain power and overtime because not only are the bonuses on these projects insane, no woman would ever give up socializing on Tinder to try and navigate some obscure area of knowledge that only 5 people in the entire company actually understand.

It has worked well for me. How else does someone afford an Audi? I have since done FIRE and I will hit my FIRE number before I am 30, even if the market moves 0% for the next 2 years. I plan to continue my job and stack money for me and myself.

PS. For those who say I lack social skills, I can assure you that is not the case. Try finding someone in sales who cannot socialize, I dare you.

My mother has tried to repeatedly manipulate me when my parents got a divorce but I was very resistant because of my loyalty to my video games. (Seriously, my Gamecube with my copy of Super Smash Bros and Pokemon Colosseum kept me sane). It was only last year did I realize why: many false allegations against my dad that she was unable to substantiate. I also found out that their home and all assets were split 50/50, even though 90% of it was purchased by him and she was working a full time job. This is why I will never get married.

ribps · 2022-04-14T23:13:29+00:00

Sucks but... How does it relate to equal rights?

mattgk39 · 2022-04-15T01:50:04+00:00

You need therapy man. Women are amazing and bring beauty, joy and a certain perspective to your life in a way men can not. Which is not to say men don’t either. Just that you really should have strong bonds with both men and women. Yes there are a lot of shitty women out there, just like there’s a lot of shitty men. And yes unfortunately the shitty women get a pass by society way more often than the shitty men. And yes there are a lot of men’s issues that need way more attention and effort to fix right now. But hating women is not the way to fix that. Because there are a lot of amazing women out there, so please don’t fall into this woman-hating trap. You should absolutely advocate for men’s issues and rights, hell that’s why I originally joined this sub. But unfortunately this sub is full of woman-bashing and woman-hating. In many ways it’s understandable, considering the ways some of these men have been hurt by women. But it is not healthy to deal with pain this way. And the dark picture of women you see so often painted here is not reflective of all the women out in the real world. As with all people, you need to learn to recognize and separate the good people from the bad people. I would suggest not browsing this sub in your state of mind. And I would again highly suggest therapy. You should probably see a male therapist who specializes in childhood trauma and male-female relationships. Best of luck to you.

MassiveMike82 · 2022-04-14T22:47:48+00:00

It only gets worse

Boring_fish144 · 2022-04-15T02:35:46+00:00

I think it's an understandable feeling, people who have been raped often relate something similar (I'm not trying to compare the scale of the trauma). I just hope and encourage you not to get carried away with those feelings and not fall into sexist prejudices, or at least consciously try to correct them; it's quite sad when people get to the point of rationalizing and justifying their discriminatory and hateful behaviors (I'm not referring to you).

StingRayFins · 2022-04-15T05:25:52+00:00

Same. Heard my mom on the phone to her friend, "I don't love him (my dad). I hope he cheats so I have a good reason to leave"

Been 7 years. He doesn't know. I see everything they do as a lie and she just fakes everything.

I really don't think I can ever trust anyone.

angrybab00n · 2022-04-15T08:19:08+00:00

What's sad to me is that this post would be decried and taken down in a subreddit like r/vent or r/rant. You know, the same subreddits where women shamelessly title their posts "I hate men"

JD1386 · 2022-04-15T09:28:13+00:00

If women laugh at you they find you interesting. If they find you interesting there is a level of attraction going on. Ignore them politely and they’ll become even more interested. Counterintuitive to men. Relax and ignore them. You’re enabling the drama by caring what they think of you.

shit-zen-giggles · 2022-04-15T09:29:16+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/mensupportmen/ might be the more suiting sub for your discussing this. Just copy/paste and see what comes up.

AkatsukiGaara · 2022-04-15T10:36:14+00:00

I understand the feeling if women in school and stuff ostrasizing u and kaughing at u or about u. Theres always that feeling of shame u get when u notice a group of girls thinking about u let alone giggling to themselves about u in a wack manner. Makes u feel like shit. Like ur ugly or resented by everyone. Like ur disgusting. I get that.

Nachtlicht_ · 2022-04-15T10:48:53+00:00

My personal observation is that a lot of girls are extremely unemphatic and judgmental towards many boys, especially if they have some problems with social skills - and experience of trauma caused by mother may result in being very awkward. That's been kind of my experience. I was bullied in school for years, by boys, but girls liked those boys and enjoyed very much what they were doing and were laughing. I didn't manage to get much relationships with guys either tho. But I found a girl, a girl that has always really liked boys "like me". So yeah, they exist and are wonderful.

extranotextra · 2022-04-15T02:56:45+00:00

You have far more value than internet points, but all I can offer is to trade a million downvotes to tell you this sub is a dangerous pipeline for young men in a vulnerable position. Please don’t spend too much time here, seriously.

I’m very sorry you’ve had traumatic experiences. It’s understandable that you would feel on edge or awkward and have a hard time trusting women. Without invalidating your experience, I will say that some of your perceptions of how women see you may be skewed by having an abusive mother. Or maybe they’re just assholes, but you get what I’m saying. It might be a good idea to talk to a therapist and sort out some of your feelings, if for no other reason than to feel confident trusting yourself to know whats safe (in any sense of the term) and what isn’t. That can be hard when you’ve gone through trauma, and you shouldn’t be burdened with this kind of emotional weight.

Melohdy · 2022-04-15T10:15:02+00:00

Same. I think this is part of why I'm trans...internalized misandry due to a lifetime of negative messaging by feminists.

Blinky39 · 2022-04-15T08:07:07+00:00

My mom abused me physically and emotionally when I was a teenager. She also has bipolar disorder and spent half of her life untreated. It gave me trauma and set me up for a lifetime of having a hard time interacting with women and finding mentally healthy women for relationships. I ended up marrying an abuser. I just can’t pick them. It’s like hard wired in my brain. Even thought I’ve been through all that, I still try to think positive about future interactions and relationships with them and remind myself that not all women are abusive and there are good ones out there (I’ve been with them, just dumped them because they didn’t cause drama or abuse me). Don’t let yourself get stuck into a rigid mindset about it.

Anonynomo_use · 2022-04-15T10:04:15+00:00

Been to feminist and anti feminist subs and they are pretty similar ._.

ultimate_smash · 2022-04-15T10:29:42+00:00

Sorry to hear that man

My family is ok, but at my school I sure did know lots of girls with shitass attitude. I was laughed on by some girls and mocked too; it was really funny to see the looks on their faces when I did better than them in the final board exams.. Lol

I know that there are shitty women out there but believe me there are also women with great personalities.

All I'm saying don't close your heart to women in general, don't let some disgusting people alter your life.

Rock on man 🤘

Title	I have been traumatized by women my entire life
Author	LeeroyJenkins2899
Upvotes	94
Comments	42
Date	April 14, 2022 10:17 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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