How many red flags can you see? Alternative title: for Christ's sake, do not move in with a boyfriend

Throwitaway_72946 · 2022-04-26T10:32:09+00:00

Someone please tell her they're defacto and half of everything is already hers!

Commercial_Place9807 · 2022-04-26T11:11:32+00:00

Bet anything this was one of those, “marriage is just a piece of paper” idiots.

Yeah, a piece of paper that gives you rights and financial ownership of half their crap…

I’m constantly seeing girls doing this kind of stuff and when you question how wise it is they say they’re essentially married or have a common law marriage while living in a state that doesn’t recognize common law marriages.

I bet she wished they’d “made the government part of their relationship” now.

BlueSkiesOverLondon · 2022-04-26T11:34:32+00:00

Honestly, the only red flags I see are that

They moved in together without being married or engaged, and
He was fine with her dropping out of college to support him.

Both things FDSers know are bad, for reasons amply illustrated here.

Man, this situation makes me sad for her.

fuckbeingautobanned · 2022-04-26T10:10:04+00:00

Leave? Brother, I BUILT this fucking house as a HOMEMAKER. Did they have kids or something? What other godfarsaken reason must you have to make yourself SO vulnerable otherwise?

Edit: I'm sad I can't find the context now. I'm aching to see how this ends.

queenofswordsxxx · 2022-04-26T11:26:07+00:00

IDK which state/ country she is in so I can't comment on the specifics. But chances are legally she may have a proprietary interest and therefore a stake in the house if they were married and she had done significant work to maintain/ increase the value of the home. (Some Land x Trusts Law)

I'm assuming she has her name on the title but that still puts herself in a precarious position since they were not married.

This is why we never listen to men/ block and delete when they use the "marriage is just a piece of paper" card. There are so many legal cases where forever girlfriends sacrifice for their partner and the house, then get f*cked in the end because Mr. Marriage Just A Symbol changes his mind and decides that everything she worked for is ultimately his own. Male entitlement at its finest.

Edit: Obviously no woman should not put herself in this situation in the first place. Do not move in with a boyfriend unless married. Do not work on his house unless it is your house and your name is on the title (i.e. decorate, clean, maintain, fix, anything value related). Check the laws in your state/ area and get a damn lawyer.

Bbeautifulbitch · 2022-04-26T11:22:23+00:00

Christ… sad that we are brainwashed into putting ourselves at the mercy of a man’s “love” since birth

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Title	How many red flags can you see? Alternative title: for Christ's sake, do not move in with a boyfriend
Author	PinkestMango
Upvotes	163
Comments	15
Date	April 26, 2022 9:53 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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