Do I really need to be in a relationship?

heytheredelilah91 · 2022-06-26T04:44:22+00:00

Ask yourself what kind of person you want to be
Figure out the steps needed to get to that point
Go for it

xvszero · 2022-06-26T03:05:08+00:00

Get a great group of friends and lots of fun hobbies. But honestly, if you want a relationship, you want a relationship. It's tough to make yourself feel like you don't.

neoexileee · 2022-06-26T03:24:52+00:00

Focus on yourself. Do gym, investing and school/work/business. Relationship will come to you. It did for me.

Red_Trapezoid · 2022-06-26T11:50:25+00:00

You absolutely don't have to and it's unhealthy when people think they "have to" be in a relationship.

may_seven · 2022-06-26T06:07:04+00:00

He who has a partner has a master.

Getting out of a relationship that turned into marriage cost me a house, $300K in legal bills, 2 estranged kids, a euthanized dog and $75K in Child Support to buy my freedom. It's 1AM, and I'm making a run to the 24 hour taco place. I'm going to drive a cool 2 seat sports car, and buying food for 1. Me.

Dlastretort · 2022-06-26T02:55:20+00:00

Research stoicism and see if that helps.

2022-06-26T14:14:38+00:00

I don't think its healthy to never be in a relationship. But that doesn't mean you can't enjoy the freedom of singlehood. Make friends and go out and do fun things on the weekend.

soutaarima1 · 2022-06-26T03:19:35+00:00

Since you said "while single" temporary happiness like (any) addiction can help you with that.

vcreativ · 2022-06-26T11:01:23+00:00

tldr: nope.

If you want to be in a relationship without a specific other in mind (one that's not replaceable), then it's about you.

How can I learn to be happy while single?

Happiness isn't related to relationship status.

What you're missing is a solid connection to yourself. Your subconscious is signalling to you that it yearns for a relationship projected to the outside world. But it's a symbolic way to refer back to you. Subconscious likes symbols.

How you ask? Journal your feelings, ask yourself what hurts, what you want and need. Deep down. There's an iceberg atop of which what you consider to be you sits. Your job is to explore the iceberg and find out what it's all about. Find a counsellor to talk about this, too.

It's like a separate person, both you and not. It's often referred to as the "inner child". It's been there before you, you're sitting on its shoulders. And often times it received unknown pains that we must rediscover as adults to allow it to grow.

A classic case of yearning for a relationship is a pointer at a lack of emotional connection from our parents during early childhood, say.

Naus1987 · 2022-06-26T14:16:58+00:00

Philosophy. Ask deep and challenging questions. What does it mean to be happy. Have you been happy in the past. What causes that.

Are other people in relationships. Are they happy? What makes them happy?

Are there things that make them sad. What causes that.

You have a life time to ask hard questions. Good luck!

lolitajojo · 2022-06-27T02:10:43+00:00

Don't compare yourself to others! I was single for the first 25 years of my life and often the worst part for me was seeing couples irl /even in movies and thinking ''why can't this be me'' or feeling jealous. Comparison is the thief of joy! Everyone moves at their own pace so there's no rush. Obviously at 20 you're still very young but even if you were older it's still the same. My bf was 30 when me met and I'm his first actual gf.

Especially when it comes to relationship - if you rush it it likely won't end well anyway.

It sounds corny but the best thing to do is focusing on yourself! Focus on things like, your hobbies, even find new ones!

Impossible-Two4184 · 2022-06-29T09:01:11+00:00

I remember meddling in motorcycling hobby when I was single. Good times, but definitely won't last forever (I was already pretty bored, then I start getting into relationship). Enjoy your time being single while it lasts.

Title	Do I really need to be in a relationship?
Author	Pension-North
Upvotes	3
Comments	23
Date	June 26, 2022 2:54 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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