I don’t have many friends I trust to open up to so writing here for advice. Although I do want objective insights, please don’t attack/judge me because im going through a sensitive time right now :)

29m ghosted me for almost two weeks now. We’ve both been going through a lot of changes in our individual lives. We’re not committed yet. About 3 weeks ago, he sent me to an event and asked me to compile a list for him (was at the event for 4 hours, could’ve left faster but I genuinely enjoyed it). Made a thorough detailed list in about 20 minutes and sent it to him. He FaceTimed me here and there during the event, and called me after to thank me for the list. Despite being through a lot (if I go into details you’d wonder why I haven’t committed su*c:de yet) I like making others whom I appreciate feel good, and doing favors.

He suggested to that we FaceTime the next day to catch up, since he was in the middle of something. I called him the next day and no answer. He usually returns my calls if they are missed, and he didn’t do that.

He suddenly starts posting aviation stuff on his stories, everyday for two weeks now. Him flying a plane (with another pilot on the side), posting engines etc. I’ve known him for over a year and he’s never posted that before, not mentioned any interest in planes. He’s considered a nano celebrity (no one recognizes him in the general public but is well known in his original industry, and has notable articles about him). So I know he’s not a scammer.

I was out with friends (mixed genders) the following week after my first attempted call. Accidentally but dialed him, which I do a lot unfortunately. First time it happens with him. By the time I realized someone was speaking on my phone he hung up, and I saw that I called him.

I called him back the next day and it went straight to voicemail. Texted him to call me back, no answer. He then posted another pilot view a couple hours after that and the message finally delivered - but still no answer. Haven’t tried anything anymore because I don’t want to harass. But he always says that I struggle to make a move (I feel like I made a lot).

Also to add. He randomly called me a month ago to tell me that he wants to move back to his home state to focus on his career, because he isn’t happy right now. He reassured me that he’ll still visit our state weekly. I supported him on that decision, as a friend. A couple days later he called me to ask to meet my dad, and suggested for me to meet his parents. My Dad had a huge responsibility at the time so I told him that I’ll get to him when that’s through.

Now that my Dad’s available again I wanted to ask 29m about his plans. 29m also asks me about school a lot and even asked me to repeat questions that were on my exam once lol.

I don’t know what to do about this situation anymore. Of course I’m not putting my life on hold but the confusion is taking a toll on me. With everything I’ve experienced, sometimes I wonder if I should completely disregard relationships and get a sperm donor once I’m happy with my career. But the idea of raising children and building a legacy with a man still sounds like a dream come true to me. I’m not the best communicator so sometimes people misunderstand me. There are a lot of escorts in my industry (not my circle) so my mom suggested that he’s trying to see If I’m actually going to school, and if I actually have a family. I don’t know if the but dialing upset him because there were men in the background. We were just hanging out as a large group.

Truth is I’m actually going to school but my family’s in Europe.