...which is why some of the TRP concepts and advice given "work" for them. A lot of it is actually about breaking codependent habits e.g. establishing a sense of self (i.e. finding your "mission") and building firm boundaries (hence the RP obsession with "holding frame"). Unfortunately, the cynical and toxic worldview TRP forces you to adopt ends up leading you down a darker and more destructive path than the one you started on.
According to a 2018 Research Review, the main themes of codependent behaviour are as follows:
- self-sacrifice
- a tendency to focus on others
- a need for control, which may fuel conflict
- difficulty recognizing and expressing emotions
I reckon a sizeable chunk of these "former blue pill" guys were exhibiting all of the above behaviours prior to taking the red pill. This is how TRP appears to provide the antidote:
Blue-Pill = Self-sacrifical "good guy"
TRP says: invest in yourself; work out; become "high value".
Blue-Pill = Focuses on others
TRP says: find your own purpose and mission in life; don't be a people-pleaser.
Blue-Pill = Wants control
TRP says: accept female nature, she is not yours, it's just your turn
Blue-Pill = Cannot recognise or express emotions or wants/needs
TRP: provides a community for men to air their grievances about the world; validates them, tells them they are the prize and that women should meet their wants/needs and gives them language to use to express that.
Of course all of this progress could have been achieved with introspection and therapy and you would have gained all the benefits of TRP minus the gross misogyny and cynicism....(sigh)
So it seems when these Blue pill guys learn to stop being codependent they go over to the dark side and literally become narcissists searching for codependent women to abuse as they were.
Sad.
Research Review: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11469-018-9983-8
EDIT: source; spelling
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