Something I never understood about this mantra that RP types repeat all the time is that it applies to literally every woman regardless of the choices she makes.

So whether I choose to:

a) be a huge "slut" through my 20s and 30s, collecting cheques from sugar daddies and "getting the bag"

or

b) get married to my childhood sweetheart at 18 and dutifully look after him and his kids for the rest of my life

THE WALL REMAINS UNDEFEATED...

So if you're married for 30 years and you inevitably "hit the wall" and your man decides to leave you for a young and fertile woman (bc that's all men want amirite //s) you're going to re-enter the dating market a "post-wall", "low value" divorcee single mother. So the investment women make into a marriage is huge (because of this "wall") so wouldn't the logical thing be to just use your youth to gain as much financial security as possible since that is more reliable than hoping the man you trust doesn't cheat and leave?

Obviously I don't actually believe this garbage but I find it a little ironic that this threat they throw in the faces of young pretty women actually encourages the very behaviours they're trying to prevent.

One usual retort I have read when I say this is - "don't be ridiculous, a married woman will have her children!" Ummm yeah but kids grow up and lead their own lives - they don't exist to prevent loneliness. Also your kids are not your peers and can't fulfil you the way a romantic partner can - that's a different emotional need altogether.

It's like they can't see this blind spot bc they see men as benevolent beings who can never do wrong or ever take advantage of situations where they hold the power.