What do I do? I’m being accused of rape

be-incredible · 2022-08-30T23:36:49+00:00

You need to be talking to a lawyer

pearl_harbour1941 · 2022-08-30T23:55:48+00:00

If you are still at school, do NOT tell the school counsellor, you are likely to be suspended.

Talk to your parents, or if you feel that you can't talk to them, you need to talk to a trustworthy adult who understands the local situation. I gather you are in a European country, so the laws will be different from many of the redditors here.

This becomes a big issue if she gets the police involved, but if what you are saying is true, then she will not go to the police, as there are procedures that must be followed after a rape - she will need to be examined by a doctor at a rape clinic, for example. She may not want to do that if it isn't real. She will also need to make a statement to the police, and if she is lying then her statement may not be consistent over time. The police are trained to spot this.

So try to hang tight, go talk to someone you trust.

docbarbell · 2022-08-30T23:37:24+00:00

Go to a lawyer.

ieatassformymom · 2022-08-31T07:09:23+00:00

Don't talk to her.

Don't talk to anyone else about this.

Get a criminal defense lawyer.

Forcetobereckonedwit · 2022-08-30T23:37:15+00:00

r/supportfortheaccused

Eliot_Sontar · 2022-08-30T23:42:00+00:00

Lawyer that shit up fast and get a voice recorder and try to get ger to confess if lying

Glittering_Pattern_7 · 2022-08-31T02:10:57+00:00

Talk to you a lawyer.

2022-08-31T01:03:50+00:00

r/legaladvice

veedub447 · 2022-08-31T03:49:30+00:00

Are you in the US? How old are you? How old is this female? Are you in school? Did this happen in your home? a dorm room? What exactly is she saying? How did you learn about this accusation? Has she contacted to police? Has she contacted a school official? How do you know she is a virgin? If you can give me these details , I may be able to can help you.

In the short term , go back and edit this post and delete details about your grinding.

michaelpaoli · 2022-08-31T07:40:33+00:00

lawyer
collect/save any and all evidence that one legally can, including but not limited to:
- take good notes on exactly what did/didn't happen
- get statements from relevant witnesses
- relevant details that show who, when, where, etc., e.g. receipts, credit/debit card transactions, photos, video, etc.
don't do anything to antagonize or threaten her or make matters worse in any way
in general, don't contact her at all
don't delete social media, texts, etc. - just leave that there, collect copies as evidence, but don't take any of that stuff down or comment on it.
well heed good lawyer's advice

If she never contacts the police, it'll likely blow over - and the longer she doesn't the more likely it will blow over. If she does contact police and file report, then she's guilty of filing a false police report (presuming she's intentionally making false statements on the report), and likely her story will start to fall apart under investigation ... and again it'll likely (mostly) blow over (at least for you) over time. Also, if she does contact police, the longer she waits, the less likely it is to be investigated and/or prosecuted. If she's ever convicted of filing a false police report, you're about as good as exonerated.

Good luck.

heartfeltvolcano · 2022-08-31T02:38:31+00:00

You've got a lot of good advice in this thread already. My suggestion is to make sure you save all messages and communication between you two. Also record calls if necessary (but make sure it's legal where you live first).

LouisdeRouvroy · 2022-08-31T08:24:30+00:00

By accusing, what do you mean? Telling you?

Do not reply, ignore, do not talk. If you must, just say you didn't have sex with her because you'd remember.

If she wants to level criminal accusation, she'll have to do so to an official.

If she does so get a lawyer.

Any official school councilor of any form is your enemy. Only YOUR lawyer won't.

In the meantime, in any meetings, any encounter where she or anyone else mentions, don't talk. At worst just repeat "Nonsense" when the word rape or sex comes up and stay silent about anything else.

Everything you'll say will be twisted to get to you, so don't give weapons.

jesseisonreddit · 2022-08-31T10:03:49+00:00

As soon as you can, write as detailed as possible an account, or better yet create a voice recording of one. Do this now because your memory will fade quickly. The clarity, detail, and confidence of your account may be your best defense against her lies.

Also, do not panic. Try not to provide any information to any potential witnesses, things you say could be altered when they recall it and used against you, or they could make their way to her. You want no information going from you to her.

Just as for yourself, quickly obtain a detailed witness statement (account) from every potential witnesses.

My_name_sucks64564 · 2022-08-31T06:39:07+00:00

Wish nothing bad happens to you

docbarbell · 2022-08-30T23:46:05+00:00

Get a third party to talk to her and record her confessing

Isair81 · 2022-08-31T06:31:08+00:00

Get a lawyer and stop posting about it on social media, and fast.

TRUCKBOB · 2022-08-31T00:21:16+00:00

where does the cat fit into all of this?

samwalton1982 · 2022-08-31T01:46:46+00:00

I mean.....how can you be accused if there is no proof? Sleeping in a bed together and making out doesn't mean sex or rape. Does she have witnesses? Does she have your semen in your vagina?

What does she actually have?

SuaveFuck · 2022-08-31T07:51:59+00:00

that sounds like a perfect setup. she maybe just was looking for the fall guy stoned and drunk enough. that said, maybe the fact you were totally whacked might be a working argument here in case shtf. also id seek conversation with her, maybe telling her directly that you never meant to do anything harmful besides reminding her that she suggested sleeping together in the first place.

that said, she didnt touch your penis directly, you didnt invaded her body? hm. thats hardly rape, but we live in extremely funny times. this is in no way legal advice. as the others said: lawyer up asap.

i wish you the best.

HeelFaceSonny · 2022-08-31T11:54:59+00:00

She is still a virgin how can there be rape ?

Nihi1986 · 2022-08-31T12:44:35+00:00

You didn't even fuck her...🙈 I don't know what's wrong with women these days...

odysseytree · 2022-08-31T07:18:31+00:00

Was she not drunk? She sexually assaulted you.

raytaylor · 2022-08-31T09:10:28+00:00

This is a slander case. Engage the services of a lawyer.
Depending upon your local laws, you may be able to make a complaint against her to the police. Doing so early will likely be a good warning shot across the bow. Or a cease and desist letter from a lawyer (not expensive) will provide a good warning to her that you wont accept that kind of behavior.

PugnaciousBart · 2022-08-31T12:09:32+00:00

Don’t get into situations like that, and get a lawyer

aries0413 · 2022-08-31T12:56:17+00:00

Get a lawyer, have ZERO I mean ZERO!!!!! contact with this woman and anyone that knows her. No txt no phone call NOTHING!!!! if you see her anywhere do a 180 and GTFO! Good luck.

shamblam117 · 2022-08-31T13:37:11+00:00

No penetration? Get ahold of a lawyer. This is an easy win. Probably a solid defamation counter suit too.

goinsouth85 · 2022-08-31T13:46:43+00:00

I have no idea what the laws are in the Czech Republic, but in the US:

Rule #1: STFU Rule #2: get a lawyer

2022-08-31T14:28:14+00:00

She sounds like a total shitstorm. She's probably not going to press charges but I would cut her out of my life completely. This won't be the last time she does something like this, I don't think.

modernmanadvicecom · 2022-08-31T15:17:36+00:00

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Assuming those are in fact false allegations your best move is to stay away from sharing, speaking, or discussing this in any way shape, or form either in person with anyone or worse in a forum like this one.

It is a tough spot to be in. So what you need is moral support from the manosphere community, those close to you, and your family. Again, assuming you are innocent you deserve all the support you can get.

False allegations happen more often than you think and are a despicable act with irreparable consequences. That should carry heavy legal repercussions for the false accuser. So know and face this situation head-on, be strong. It will require every ounce of mental and emotional strength to get through it.

Finally, as another member suggested. Please find yourself a lawyer with a solid background In cases like this. You will need someone who knows the deal and can guide you.

Stay strong.

Modern Man Advice

elebrin · 2022-08-31T12:25:00+00:00

If it were me, I'd get the fuck out of the country and never go back. It's time to disappear.

Hopefully you've learned your lesson. Don't drink, don't get high, don't sleep with random women casually (which is what you did). If you'd not been drinking or smoking you might have said no and wouldn't be here now.

Rule of thumb - if you haven't met her parents, no touching and all activities must happen in public with lots of other people around. Unless a woman is a family member, don't be alone with her.

MaximumYes · 2022-08-31T03:45:44+00:00

Delete this. Now.

AnonymousNeko2828 · 2022-08-31T10:42:38+00:00

That sounds like it was consensual

WeEatBabies · 2022-08-31T13:17:42+00:00

Screenshot all communications you have with your accuser.

Save those screenshots on the cloud.

De-activate all social media, including your reddit.

Get a lawyer.

Do not under any circumstance talk to accuser or her friends.

Do not discuss the case ever.

SolidMercer · 2022-08-31T15:29:56+00:00

People are naturally more confident when they're drunk so they do stuff they would usually be afraid if because they don't have their filter on so they're more honest but when it comes to stuff like this people don't like to think about the truth because it goes against their ego.

1% if abortion come from grape so it's very unlikely she actually did, majority of the time it's them regretting a decision they made but they don't want to take responsibility but if they don't take responsibility is it really their body. #shebelongstothestreets

Title	What do I do? I’m being accused of rape
Author	ieatassformymom
Upvotes	199
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Date	August 30, 2022 6:27 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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