In my search on forums ranging from no-pill to some unfortunate ncel torture society fantasies, similar statements always comes up:

  1. I’m not social, I don’t have a good job, my life has made my personality shitty, and I’m not handsome and I’m actually ugly: I think it’s unfair that people aren’t attracted to me.

  2. I have money and a good job, but I’m short/balding and women aren’t attracted to me.

  3. I’m nice to women, but I’m average all around and I’ll never find a partner.

I’m going to briefly discuss the last two then get to my question.

Yeah, it’s hard to date as someone who is not conventionally attractive in the society they have been raised in: however, I don’t think it’s as impossible as some men here make it seem. There are women that would happily date them: go to the forever alone women forum, those women really just want a partner; but I think the issue comes from not wanting to “settle” and internalizing it as inadequacy.

As for my actual question: if you are a person that self describe as being ugly, anti-social, financially unstable, with a terrible personality, but is still angry at the fact you must use a lot of effort to even attempt to get female attention, what are you expecting the person to be attracted to? Would you be attracted to an ugly woman with a shitty personality and bad hygiene? Would you marry her, or even give her long term affection?

I am trying to understand where the anger comes from and who it’s really aimed at.