I'm burnt out. I can't date anymore. Sex isn't special. How many women do I have to experience before I find one that.. works?

RedSkeller · 2017-09-15T01:40:15+00:00

Same boat. It's all about knowing your worth and when to walk. Dating is boring if you're doing the same bars over and over and getting laid. The facade of romance is pretty much dead for me. It seems like I can maintain about one to two plates max before they get annoying and I have to drop them, over the course of ~1 - 3 months. Anything 30+ is fucked beyond belief and 35+ is mental gymnastics qualifiers. Young chicks are notorious flakes and attention whores/selfish brats. I've done this for over a year now, after previously being in an LTR for a couple years. Looking back over the course of 1 - 3 new girls a month, it was fun at times but more of a headache than anything. I've got some decent women in the works now and I would just say enjoy the grind because you do eventually come across a winner.

mrheh · 2017-09-15T02:42:51+00:00

The guys on here may disagree but the motto I follow is "you're not joining my team you're joining my cult". They're all nuts, some can just hide it better than other; it will come out eventually. The best option I've found for an LTR is basically brainwashing them into the cult of mrheh.

Cunt_Robber · 2017-09-15T05:08:26+00:00

Dude i just wanna drop in and let you know ive felt the same since like a year or so ago. I pretty much dropped out of the game altogether. It's a fucked up culture at this point, and im just contributing to pathologising society with this madness. I mean it definitely doesnt lead to sanity lol. After you get through 20 or 30 or 50 women, hopefully your mindset will change. Its just the same shit over and over again. Ive left a girl or two alpha widowed. One told me, after we hadnt hooked up for a good year or so, that she started her slut phase after i hard nexted her for being too clingy (i mightve taken her virginity too, but i never bothered to ask). Such a toxic mixture of numbness, disappointment, heartbreak, and cynicism on my end with all these plates and relationships. I burnt out emotionally.

A man isnt built for this. Or if he is, he cant go through life with that as the goal/aim. It has to be a byproduct of his success, status, looks, etc. So focus on other things now, set some goals for yourself. Time for some inner work and goal setting to set you in a new direction.

Scheme00 · 2017-09-15T03:56:56+00:00

Hey dude. I was like this for 3.5 years. Countless women. There was only one I met awhile ago where I had any emotional connection with. The special ones take years. Don't look to fill the void, just have fun with all these chicks and one will somehow come into your presence when the time is right.

TheRecycledMale · 2017-09-15T12:20:16+00:00

Great line from Shawshank Redemption: "Get busy living, or get busy dying"

I suggest get busy living - now that you're not ruled by the almighty pussy, you can focus on .... whatever. You can become a billionaire (not to get pussy, but because you want to); You can become a movie star/rock star/male model (not to get pussy, but because you want to); You can become the Tony Robbins of your generation (not to get pussy, but because you want to). You have liberated yourself from the "need" - now it's time to live your life. Travel the world, be the first person on Mars, meet the 100 richest people in the world and interview them, climb the 10 highest mountain peaks, take a photograph with bigfoot, genetically engineer a real unicorn.

I hope you get my point here. You are completely disillusioned by Pussy - that is a breakthrough. The reason you find it difficult right now, is because you have been programmed to believe Women (the only ones that have that pussy you desire so much) are special. What you found out is that Pussy is Pussy, that women aren't special and if one won't, the next one probably will.

Well, welcome to the "world behind the curtain" ... now go do something great with that knowledge.

Ranarrseeds · 2017-09-15T09:06:55+00:00

I'm actually jealous of you. Imagine the time and the things you can achieve right now without women redirecting your focus. See your burn out as an opportunity to achieve things for yourself. A girl will come around but for now just get new achievements in the gym and your career.

apollosapien · 2017-09-15T01:41:47+00:00

Any women that make love a task are women not worth your time.

Become your best patriarch, and the feminine shall follow.

Improve your calibre of life and everything shall follow.

Ditch most of those girls you're talking to and just start again. Dating is hard, but don't have it contravene your mission.

Willkuer_ · 2017-09-15T07:51:42+00:00

Not much info here. Are you possibly the mirror image of your mating partners? Maybe something is wrong with you and not all women? Try gaming other women. Try gaming in other places. Get out of your comfort zone. Obviously nobody will tell you here that your soulmate is just around the corner but there is some gradient in quality regarding women.

Might be a cultural/regional thing but IMO the most "dateworthy" women are typically 24-26 years old (depending on genes that can be extended to higher age) and have some reasonable (science, business, medicine, ...) academic degree (bonus points for a running or achieved PhD) with young firm bodies. Doesn't mean that they are unicorns though.

It's harder for me to accept the ego-invested entitlement based on nothing but genes of a 20 y/o blonde surrounded by leaking dicks 24/7. A girl with self-achieved self-worth is much more chill and fun to be around. In the end they are all somehow insecure though. That's why you offer security (as part of beta game) in an LTR.

max_peenor · 2017-09-15T16:35:48+00:00

If a post-wall hag that sends tits pictures to another guy does this to you, I can't imagine what a 19-year-old HB9 would do to you. You need some time away.

https://illimitablemen.com/2014/04/13/monk-mode/

[deleted] · 2017-09-15T12:57:05+00:00

You are depressed because you had a break-up. Just focus on yourself for a little bit. Go do some bro things. Change your focus for a few months. Meditate. I hope that you don't just sit around and wallow in self-pity, b/c thats what this sounds like.

Psychocist · 2017-09-15T12:29:17+00:00

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Kommanderdude · 2017-09-15T11:22:57+00:00

Such is the nature of life. You have 3 options. Embrace life and enjoy the human experience. 2. Become a miserable blue pill husband. 3 self termination. You pick.

DSetupDTitleDMenu · 2017-09-15T14:34:52+00:00

If you're just trawling bars and nightclubs, go expand your social circle if you're up to it. If you live in a big city, join sports clubs. Join a male-only one and then a co-ed one. Meeting people is the gateway to meeting more people, older and younger. And then maybe you'll find some attractive chick who isn't some late-night partying slut and makes you smile and laugh and amused by her jovial nature and her sharp wit. And then you hang her head over your bed and stick your cock down her throat.

ViperG · 2017-09-15T18:10:03+00:00

take a break. But for me it takes about 30 women before you find a good one. so 30

circlhat · 2017-09-15T14:48:08+00:00

Had a breakup. Been with countless women. I'm just so sick of dating. It's the same shit.

I felt like this and found out I needed to push harder and raise my standards. I wanted a women who felt feminism was a piece of crap, society hated men and had female privilege.

I'm tired of having to maintain frame in an LTR.

Don't fake anything, Don't take a single bit of shit, your frame is something natural, not something you have to think about, if I come to your house and start disrespecting you are you going to take it?

Howdoiusesync · 2017-09-15T15:32:37+00:00

Same problem with a new girl who has a low partner count and is younger than me. She's smoking hot but I'm just so sick of it tbh.

[deleted] · 2017-09-15T15:44:49+00:00

Why are you bothering? You got to do you. Ignore the bitches if they are burning you out and do what you enjoy. Hiking? Kayaking? Photography? Work? Gym? Stop looking for anything from women, they won't help. You gotta just focus on you and what brings you joy.

MattyAnon · 2017-09-15T18:01:06+00:00

I'm tired of having to maintain frame in an LTR.

I'm so sick of the mental hurdles just to keep some constant pussy around.

Ok, I'm going to give you some controversial advice now, and I want you to hear me out before you object:

Just be yourself.

Once you attain a reasonable level of mastery, it's time to gradually drop the game and games, gradually drop the mental hurdles, just do what you want and what you feel like.

This reduces your mental effort. You'll see the effect it has. You can backtrack if you see girls reacting badly to it (you'll know all the signs by now). When you have the air of a man who knows what he's doing, you don't have to do as much "effort things" as a beginner.

This frees up mental effort to work on yourself and your mission.

THIS IS ONLY FOR GUYS WITH A REASONABLE LEVEL OF MASTERY. You can't skip the process. Don't "just be yourself" unless/until you're actually getting laid a lot.

PantsonFire1234 · 2017-09-17T17:42:06+00:00

The problem is that every girl nowadays has turn offs. Even virgin chick watch sick gangbang porn. You have to accept that while you are improving yourself women are certainly not doing that. They aren't looking to improve their SMV or be less degenerate and more A-type women. The relationship you seek is a rarerity.

A great solution that was mentioned a couple days ago was that men should try polygamy. Everyone has a desire to have committed relationship beyond sex. But women aren't emotionally desirable enough to do so exclusively. So instead of devoting yourself to one bitch that's not really that special. You just get yourself 2-4 girlfriends. Basically plating but but a light emotional component but no unrealistic expectations you are dealing with a high value woman with no skeletons.

It also completely blows out any power women initially had because you are no longer concerned about her cheating or doing degenerate shit. She's just girlfriend number two.

Weefilly · 2017-09-27T13:24:39+00:00

Sounds like you're going after all sluts, all women are to some degree, but if you find one that actually thinks she wants a relationship, you'll get treated like a king.

JvSOUL · 2017-10-08T19:42:45+00:00

Okay, then your next option would be to be a Lil whiny Chode bitch and life is unfair.

You are a man, man up. ADAPT to the situation and never expect that others will adapt to you. MAN THE FUCK UP.

TrenGod37 · 2017-09-15T02:34:19+00:00

So don't date or turn gay. What do you want us to say? Women are work. This shit is all work. It isn't meant for the weak and lazy.

Head on over to r/gaming maybe you'll find some purpose...

In all honesty maybe you're spending to much time on this sub. That happens to me when I do. I over think Things and make it all about RP it's good to take a step away from this shit. Take what you learn and just live your life. Also idk where you're find these women but if it's in bars or tinder good look finding any quality

justicecantakeanap · 2017-09-15T04:56:43+00:00

/r/mgtow

Rian_Stone · 2017-09-15T18:18:36+00:00

I'm tired of having to maintain frame in an LTR.

Frame isn't something you do, it doesn't wear out over time, and it doesn't take effort.

Frame is who you are, it's your reality. This is as asinine a statement as tiring of holding onto the ground every day.

So your problem, if I had to guess, is that you've "fake it ~~till you make it~~" And now you're running out.

Best find whatever it is you've been bullshitting yourself into believing, and ditch that quick

[deleted] · 2017-09-15T13:10:31+00:00

Try nofap, it will make you more stupid and horny. You will have pleasure from sex, then after 2 orgasm correctly ignore them untill your supply of sperm is overflowing again. Yes, I know, AWALT. Yes, I know - unicorns. Too bad SOME people actually had an unicorn. Other people are a bit demisexual - it actually exists! - so they can't appreciate people they just met.

dongpal · 2017-09-15T08:54:04+00:00

I'm tired of having to maintain frame in an LTR.

so, being yourself? aka being a man?

bainbridge_island · 2017-09-15T19:47:36+00:00

Yep, trying to be someone you aren't sucks.

Title	I'm burnt out. I can't date anymore. Sex isn't special. How many women do I have to experience before I find one that.. works?
Author	Retspihi
Upvotes	51
Comments	101
Date	September 15, 2017 12:55 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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