Letting go

captainchippsixx · 2023-01-29T14:27:42+00:00

Remember she is a liar and only is nice when she has a end game to get something. Make up shit. Say I can’t I will be ….. know it’s hard. The more your a dick the sooner she will stop.

dday_throwaway3 · 2023-01-29T23:47:40+00:00

> she'll pick a fight

It takes two to tango. Since you have no kids, there's zero reason to speak to her. Make your indifference so palpable it’s like a force field.

You cannot control her behavior. You can only control your reaction to her behavior. That's Stoicism 101.

She pushes your buttons because you live in her frame. Your mental point of origin is her, when it needs to be you. You can't help yourself when you're putting everyone else first. Airline safety briefings tell you to put the oxygen mask on yourself before helping others. It's like that.

NohoTwoPointOh · 2023-01-29T16:26:24+00:00

Therapy. You must relearn to live yourself more. You’re gonna need some help. An older male (40+) will really be your best bet.

sicrm · 2023-01-29T19:35:41+00:00

reading that is a good start.

an outlet can help a lot if you don’t have one already (going to the gym, picking up a hobby, joining a fighting club or class for something you want to learn).

if you go with the fighting club, tell the trainer a little about what you’re going through. then work out until you can’t anymore. then pick a day to do it over again.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2023-01-30T01:39:44+00:00

Listen man. You need to realize you’re being taken advantage of. Played. Strung along. Fucked. She’s abusing you. Once you come to terms with this and the fact that the women you see is not the one you married you will find healing.

playerknowmore · 2023-01-30T03:16:04+00:00

You have invested too much love in her. Anyone who is smart enough to know about love, love yourself with all of your heart. Anyone else by the value they add to your life. No one who loved you would betray you in this manner. If she doesn't love you she cannot add value.

Don't sit there wallowing in pity. She is not worthy of this much consideration. She has chosen to be a pass-around. Stay the course; no, lean into divorce. Don't let her leave you in limbo. Apathy is your friend; find some.

Title	Letting go
Author	Old_Ad8951
Upvotes	13
Comments	17
Date	January 29, 2023 2:20 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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