Genuine self-help book recommendations

HelloSilverTongue · 2023-02-16T10:38:20+00:00

One I think everyone should read regardless is The Body Keeps Score, Rage Becomes Her (for men to understand women's anger is not always "crazy"), Models by Mark Manson, Come As You Are (for men to understand women's sexuality in a way better context than Red Pill), Human Magnet Syndrome (to learn about codependency), Ego Is The Enemy, The Obstacle Is The Way, Predictably Irrational (to understand the unpredictable ways that humans behave because it's how we're designed, not character flaws), and Attached by Amir Levine are some of the ones that helped me the most.

SophiaPhilae · 2023-02-16T13:58:20+00:00

I assume you'll take the time to critically evaluate what you read in those, as well as look up when they were written, and by whom, so that you can contextualize them properly:

I've read Canergie's book and honestly it mostly teaches you to be a salesman. The title is wildly inaccurate. The only thing I've kept from it is "remember people's names".

propyl21 · 2023-02-16T10:51:06+00:00

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover.

A book about archetypes and their shadow forms. A Jungian concept borrowed from Plato. It discusses positive and negative character traits that leads us to act accordingly.

There's an audio book on YouTube for free although it misses some bits that the book includes. It goes heavy into religion at one point but once you get past that, it has some interesting takes about why we act the way we do.

buzluu · 2023-02-16T18:52:28+00:00

Models is nice,i think no more mr nice guy is good too,authour is a therapist and he tells why people become nice guys and why its actually mask and why its not interactive and how to fix that(no it doesnt turn u bad guy)

İ didnt read but people suggest book called courage of being disliked

İf you didnt read little prince,you can read it too,cause why not

ooooobb · 2023-02-16T14:29:01+00:00

I really liked The Hidden Power of Fucking Up by the Try Guys. It’s not the most philosophical or academic but it feels more attainable for the average person than some others I’ve read. I’m not the biggest fan of the buzzfeed style try guys videos so the book isn’t like that at all.

ColdSnickersBar · 2023-02-16T14:55:39+00:00

One of my favorites is: How to Win Friends and Influence People. It’s a book that has real, practical advice, but also it doesn’t sugar coat it: you have to practice, work hard and actually care about people to have a genuine connection. That takes hard work. It talks about strategies for listening, and strategies for persuading people without arguing with them, and how to attract and endear people. Also, it’s nearly a hundred years old. It stands the test of time.

Some insights from it:

In a world where everyone “has a hard time worth names”, you can become good at it with some easy practice. It’s actually not very hard to become skilled at it. “A person’s own name is one of they sweetest sounds in the world.”
Never argue. If you win, you have proven someone wrong and they will hate that, and then you’ll lose because they will try to thwart your intentions anyway. Instead, find out how your idea can benefit that person and help them understand the benefit to them. This requires you to actually care about the person instead of winning.

michelle_js · 2023-02-16T15:43:40+00:00

How to stop worrying and start living - Dale Carnegie. I have used many of the techniques in this book to help with anxiety. I know it's not nearly as famous as his other book but I liked it a lot more.

Getting things done - David Allen

West-Kiwi-6601 · 2023-02-16T18:23:17+00:00

Zen Jungle

anthonyrecenello · 2023-02-18T01:30:28+00:00

The Power Of Now. Recommended for everyone.

whitelight22009 · 2023-02-18T03:59:13+00:00

I haven’t read it completely yet and it tends to be on the philosophical side. It is however contemporary so no thousand year old dude. Iddo Landau Finding meaning in an imperfect world

It is not really self help but he tries to dismantle arguments about nihilism that I think tend to get to everyone at some point.

If you do like very old dudes with complex and disorganized ideas maybe some classical stoic philosophy can be intriguing to you.

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius an actual Roman emperor is very popular.

Stoicism as a philosophy is maybe something in general that may help to give a bit of guidance

sadgal999 · 2023-02-18T16:17:32+00:00

I'm not sure if these will be useful to you, if you are the person who was once red pilled or you are the victim of redpill abuse but I just wanted to mention for those who was with and in a relationship with someone who was red pilled who is trying to heal, I'd recommend these:

Men who hate women - Laura bates

Why does he do that - Lundy Bancroft

These helped me when I was trying to heal from redpill tactics used against me

grciacreations · 2023-03-19T11:30:00+00:00

Hi, good choice to start reading good books. I would recommend this book called "“Self help & mental emotional freedom for women & men, how to grow in self discipline, spiritual strength & knowledge” by S.A. Abraham" . This book is perfect for getting a lot of negative thoughts out of your mind and start thinking positive thoughts again. It was available as an Audiobook and eBook. I hope you'll give this book a try.

Supershinobi3 · 2023-02-16T11:04:21+00:00

I forgot to mention that one of my friend who isn't redpilled has given me a book named Master your emotions by Virginia Lloyd, so should I read it or not. He isn't into redpill infact he doesn't even knew such thing existed before I told him about it, I just want to confirm it since he sometimes has hard time differentiating between redpill things and normal things.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2023-02-18T05:59:39+00:00

I'd avoid Models by Mark Manson. It's one of the most overrated books I've read. So much waffle and filler. It could have been half the length. Also very little actionable advice, and the huge push on vulnerability, without clearly explaining what it is, or how to display it.

I'm always sceptical about dating advice books. The majority avoid discussing that good looks are a huge component in attracting women, or downplay or avoid the issue.

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