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Obviously212 · 2023-02-15T10:54:52+00:00

Go to the gym, quit smoking and than go to the gym again and again. Before you know it you’ll be feeling like you did before the bad times even showed up on the horizon. Beyond that sitting in a truck or car for days on end is itself destructive let alone what you are dealing with. Maybe plan on changing careers since the markets are dumb slow right now in the freight industry.

A sure way you really prove her right and come out worse is by isolating yourself, or picking up vices or ramping them up, whether they be smoking, drinking, jerking off excessively or drugs.

FunkyTownMascot · 2023-02-15T14:11:06+00:00

Gym, exercise, fresh air, clean food (no fast food). If you have a truck fridge them you can cook a lot with a single skillet pan and hot plate. Learn how to chop, dice, and sauté veggies as well as pan sear meats like chicken, fish, beef. Cooking itself is a relaxing zen experience. Plus, the better nutrition will make you feel a lot better, increase your energy, and save a bunch of money.

CommanderOfCheese45 · 2023-02-15T15:59:20+00:00

Being a truck driver is going to make it hard, but some changes I'd suggest:

Get off the long-distance crew. That's where most of your problems are coming from. Not much you can do without getting off of that.
Quit the jerking off and smoking and get the f$#@ off of Netflix and YouTube. That's a big part of the problem. Addictive or compulsive 'boredom' behavior. Consider getting your ass in to a doctor and get an antidepressant if it's that bad. (Not necessarily saying those things are necessarily bad in and of themselves, but it looks like you need to cleanse yourself of them for a while because they're compulsive behaviors now).
If it's possible, get a pet that requires some attention and returns affection. Either a dog or a cat, depending on your personality and energy level. If you're not sure what you want, go to your local animal shelter and ask about 'fostering' an animal -- that is, taking it home to take care of but with the option to bring it right back if you don't like it, and the option to adopt if you love it.
Get a good punching bag and set of gloves. Beat the crap out of that bag every couple of days. Anger is a critical part of the mourning cycle and you may have let yourself skip that part.

ONE_LAST_HERO · 2023-02-15T16:40:00+00:00

I, 100% feel your pain, divorced after 18 yrs and have a kid. It's weird that smoking kinda helps with the anxiety part I smoked almost 2 packs a week my mind was everywhere. Life is fukd up especially for men during times like these, I'm sorry you don't have friends or family to vent on, but ppl like me on reddit hear you and you're not alone. I can tell you all the things that have already been mentioned here, gym, games , cooking, running etc... its true it works but it's hard to get out of that feeling and start doing something because everything you do your mind is stuck. It took me a year to process everything and I'm doing better well my mind is, my body needs an improvement tho. This is your battle scar it's up to you how decide to move on from it, for a man I believe we have a inner beast in us if you were at war and were wounded I'm sure you're survival instincts would kick in, right? Think of it like that, do whatever it takes to take care of yourself and your kids. Them kids are looking at you like a movie your moment in this movie is when you got KO, what's your next move, will your kids see the hero that you are will you rise and conquer or give up! Pain is only temporary life is unexpected but you are here today make it count.

Side note: I drive for uber in a very popular city I met so many ppl that will talk to you, sure stranger but who cares you'll never see them again. This is a great way to explore a new city meet ppl with extra cash. I know you drive for a living why not do it in a popping city? As soon as I hit 200.00 I, would treat myself that night. Do something that you'd never thought you would do and you will see how addicting it becomes.

Obviously212 · 2023-02-15T10:46:56+00:00

Either do local or get off the OTR. That will solve your biggest hurdle.

polarshred · 2023-02-15T15:59:33+00:00

Stop jerking off. I was completely fucked emotionally when my wife left me but a few months later I stopped jerking it. Withing a week a started getting much better. Trust me it helps.

bes753 · 2023-02-15T17:46:42+00:00

If you are looking for a way to exercise while you move around the road, check out f3nation.com. It is a free men's workout group that has regions all over the US. Just dip into one that works with your schedule in the city you are in/near. Getting some legit exercise will start to improve your mood on its own. That should help you kickstart everything else.

skyscraper54321 · 2023-02-15T14:03:02+00:00

C'mon man keep your chin up. It will be tough if you're on the road but at the very least try get some exercise in. Do some sit ups, push ups.. work those guns or whatever. Got any friends or family you can lean on??

8888eightyeight · 2023-02-15T18:14:37+00:00

For me it really was time. Once you get over most of it/realize it is what it is, it's easier to move on up

AcrobaticStick2432 · 2023-02-16T01:59:30+00:00

Don't give it to her like this. You might be depressed, go see a doctor, NOW.

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Author	Jasey_Cones
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Date	February 15, 2023 10:14 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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