Consensual sex, but both parties were drunk. Female made first move and purchased all alcohol... And now I have just been told by CID (Military Investigators) that they have probable to convict me regardless of the circumstances. There is only one victim here and it is my wife.

timdesuyo · 2013-11-13T03:50:32+00:00

Fight the rape charge, but delete this thread. You don't need anything here changing the outcome.

notnotnotfred · 2013-11-13T01:16:53+00:00

regarding strike #3 isn't adultery punishable under 134?

lazydonovan · 2013-11-13T02:08:00+00:00

Question: Are you being charged with rape or adultery? (Not that I agree with the latter, just trying to understand how to view this particular situation).

If it is the latter, I hope you aren't charged and if you are diverted to some NJP.

Collective82 · 2013-11-13T04:19:13+00:00

When I was a young PFC in the marines I was on cq one night and saw a guy coming out of the girls wing at 1am. 5 minutes later a girl calls me over and tells me her roommate (yup, this occurred with another person in the room) was raped. So I followed all the procedure given to me and even talked to CID themselves.

I found out several years later from the roommate that the "victim" claimed rape because she was a reservist who cheated on her husband.

CID does a good job, and while they may seem biase against you they are fair. However you fucked up royally as I'm sure you've been told but I hope it doesn't end your career and that if you truly love your wife you will do what you can to repair the breach of trust you made.

Lawtonfogle · 2013-11-12T23:37:29+00:00

It wasn't a mistake, it was a decision. You are are piece of shit for cheating on your wife that is for certain.

That said, you don't deserve to be falsely accused of something that you did not do. What this woman is doing goes beyond damaging you, it damages all people who have been legitimately raped or victimized. Fight it with all fibre of your being, you are not only fighting for yourself but for others as well.

RedBoomstick · 2013-11-13T13:06:28+00:00

From what i gather in your post i take it your military. If in the US military adultery is a violation of the uniformed code of military justice. Even if they dont get you for rape they will get you for adultery.

It sucks that this happened, but that is the reality of the situation.

assemblethenation · 2013-11-13T02:28:23+00:00

Snap out of the guilt BS! You just had an affair outside your marriage. Humans are animals, this stuff has been happening since we came up with contractual mate binding. There's no reason you should be punished with incarceration if there's no truth to the accusation. Fight the charges. Get out of the military and make it up to your wife if she'll accept you. If not, move on. People get divorced for less all the time. Get civilian representation if it's allowed. Don't perpetuate the disposable male syndrome. You are worth saving!

FalselyAccused_TX · 2013-11-13T03:32:06+00:00

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assemblethenation · 2013-11-13T05:06:11+00:00

Check these guys out http://www.armycourtmartialdefense.com/military-law-questions.html What do I do if I am arrested or questioned by a member of my command or CID? Contact your local Army Trial Defense Services office as soon as possible. Remember, you have the right under the UCMJ and the Constitution to remain silent - exercise it! You are not required to speak with anyone and should not discuss the facts of your case with anyone except your attorney.

2013-11-13T04:53:18+00:00

If it isn't right, go your own way.

2013-11-13T08:34:06+00:00

They have probable cause to arrest you, which isn't the same as the proof beyond a reasonable doubt to convict you. I suggest you lawyer up.

Poisoninthewound · 2013-11-13T16:20:04+00:00

You have a tough road ahead of you. Adultery or not, and assuming you're innocent as you said, you're a victim of the times.

There's a lot of victim blaming in this thread, and make no mistake - you are the victim. As bad as all of this is, you'll get through it and life will go on.

alternativejohn · 2013-11-13T16:43:39+00:00

People like you destroy the reputation I work hard to build. You should get punished for the adultery, and you're a horrible person, I feel sorry for your hopefully soon to be exwife.

bsutansalt · 2013-11-13T17:56:34+00:00

Wait a second! I could have sworn George W. Bush changed the rules and made it so they can't charge you with Adultery anymore? Did that proposed change not take effect?

enemyofpoliticians · 2013-11-13T20:07:56+00:00

If you don't have kids fucking relax - you are human, we all make mistakes; its what you do in the future that counts. Your wife may or may not come back... don't beg her, she will lose even more respect for you. Giver her space to process this. Offer to get couples or individual counseling. If she doesn't, time will heal, meet another. Most of all, learn from your experience. This kinda thing will not ruin your life, even though it may feel like it right now, time works wonders - this will simply put you on a new path.

FalselyAccused_TX · 2013-11-16T04:30:53+00:00

To those concerned about the consequences of this thread. I haven't stated anything that hasn't been supported by facts, in and out of my favor.

I just did a 3-day stint in the psych ward of my local military hospital. I'm feeling much better now. Thanks to those who showed support. My wife has told me, even before my descent here and in the real world that she is coming back and no matter how shitty it will be considering this situation that she can't imagine leaving me.

2013-11-13T08:15:32+00:00

What you did was wrong, but it was not rape. I hope she leaves you, not so you can suffer, but so she can find someone better.

I dont think you deserve to go to prison, but that is where you will go. Make peace with the fact that the external world is now gone and the only thing you have left is yourself. I hope you can be happy with that. I know it will be hard, but you can choose, indirectly, whether youre happy or not.

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HereHoldMyBeer · 2013-11-13T11:11:01+00:00

fuck da police

Vagina_Rapist_YOLO · 2013-11-13T08:00:42+00:00

Just get out of the military, man. What are you doing there anyway? Do you wanna be a grunt fighting for the corporations til you die or retire?

mybayarea · 2013-11-13T04:34:59+00:00

Why don't you just do what women do. Say she got you drunk and took advantage of you? I'm guessing you would not have had sex with her if you were solder, in any case I can think of that's rape, and she should be facing the courts.

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