Am I a shithead for wanting to move out of my parents house?

icanteven12 · 2017-10-27T21:48:09+00:00

I am basically in the same boat. I have lived with my family for 24 fucking years and I am tired of it. I want to move out however I simply don't have the funds to do so. I was THIS close to moving out 2 years ago but lost my job and haven't been able to find a decent paying job with decent hours since.

If financial issues aren't the issue, just move out asap.

TheDreadnought1 · 2017-10-27T21:53:30+00:00

I'm having kinda the same problem, but my parents are cool with me moving out to college (M20 here I could still go to college but keep living with them), but they said they'd prefer me staying a little bit longer. I don't know man, as I feel kinda suffocated here, but going out would push the financial boundaries a little bit and also could harm my grades and gym focus.

Any input on both of our situations from a more experienced guy would be appreciated

TheRedPillMonkey · 2017-10-28T01:48:09+00:00

You want a backbone? Let me give you a life hack.

You're going to fuck up. A lot. At everything. Those who do well in life are different from those who don't by how they handle the fuck up. Did you cry like a little girl? Did you get mad like it was everyone else's fault? Did you take responsibility and learn to do better next time?

Assume you're going to fuck up. if you don't, great. When you do, learn, and don't make the mistake again. Get over it quick and move on. No time to get mad at yourself or anyone else. Just learn and move on.

That's how you get a backbone. That's how you get better. That's how you grow as a man

Rudeyyyy · 2017-10-28T02:06:02+00:00

How old are you btw? It helps to know.

DadOnDabs · 2017-10-28T00:59:11+00:00

Work a sales job like car sales for 6 months, learn everything not to do with your money while making a shit ton of money, and move out.

scrilling19 · 2017-10-28T02:53:24+00:00

I moved out of my parents house at the age of 24. I would starve a few days and count change up to get something off the dollar menu at Mcdonalds. It was very tough but made me work harder. I didn't have my mom pack lunches and my dad take care of me anymore. I would groan when my mom told me to the laundry when I lived with them. Now, five years later I have my own place in a very nice neighborhood. I made a good amount of money but have had setbacks lately. I'm not worried much because I'm working harder than ever and I know I will be good in a few months. To grow in life, you have to do something uncomfortable like this. I come from a conservative part of the world where it's uncommon for children to move out. My parents blackmailed me emotionally right after I moved out. My dad would say he will die soon and my mom would leave me voicemails late at night complaining about heart problems and crying that she misses me. Now, they are extremely proud of me that I was able to grind out and stay on my own two feet. There will be growing pains along he way but just grind out, brother. Make sure you go to the gym consistently. Some days you may not eat but make sure you get a small place. Don't live in a bad area by any circumstance. Speak to your parents and tell them you understand their pain but you have to build yourself. Tell them they won't be happy if your dependent on them for everything and this move here will make them proud of you. And once you do achieve success in every endeavor, you'll be the winner. Job wise, a sales job with a good commission plan will keep you on your toes. I went into car sales and hated it at first. But I developed myself and the car industry made me tougher as a person in the process. Good luck, brother

SpinPlates · 2017-10-28T01:02:44+00:00

I don't understand how your dad lets you weld on rigs but thinks you're took weak to live on your own?

mrHappyPotatoe · 2017-10-28T01:13:03+00:00

You owe it to yourself. Clearly your father didnt rise you to become a man. Dobt worry neither did my father. But you have to teach yourself how to become a man. Its hard but its fulfilling. Lots of people dont know whats their life goal is but cant it be to become a Man?

thinksammich_ · Sat Oct 28 2:18:04 2017 UTC

You have to move out of your parents house. Here, this video will change your life.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QctT0Oc_uQQ

yallapapi · 2017-10-28T05:04:42+00:00

Bounce bro. If your family has money/health problems and you need to help then stay. If they are just guilt tripping you then you have to stand up to them. My parents did the same to me and I was always scared to go toe to toe with them. It wasn't until I had enough and stood my ground that they backed down. It's not easy and will be uncomfortable but the alternative is not worth it.

Get a job, rip the bandaid off and start living your life.

Shukakun · 2017-10-28T09:14:24+00:00

Your parents are terrible fucking parents if they tell you to stay once you're 18 or older. It's the equivalent of mama bird not letting her hatchlings leave the nest, meaning they'll never learn to fly.

Sure, if you want some fucked up worthless birds that can't even fly, by all means, protect them from the big bad world indefinitely.

That's basically what's happening very often with these most recent generations (90s and later at least). Moms hold their little boys until they're 35, effectively creating men that can't behave like men, just like a bird that can't fly can't really behave like a bird.

So if you ask me, do show that you appreciate what they've done for you bringing you up, but don't let them force you to stay, even if leaving means breaking off contact with them entirely.

dandar4600 · 2017-10-28T14:43:33+00:00

I don't believe you're making 2K per week, 100K+ a year at 18 but if you are making even a third of that you could move out. I left on my 18th birthday, lived out of my car for 2 nights then found a place with 3 other roommates. It was a lot of fun at the time even if money was tight.

max_peenor · 2017-10-28T17:02:23+00:00

It's called growing up. Congratulations. You have my permission to take control of your adulthood. Godspeed.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-10-28T21:32:37+00:00

Do you lift?

Title	Am I a shithead for wanting to move out of my parents house?
Author	JaspersChest
Upvotes	21
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Date	October 27, 2017 9:41 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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