Boys Often Don’t Recognize When They’ve Been Sexually Assaulted

Tank-o-grad · 2018-03-18T10:26:41+00:00

I want to be clear: Girls bear the brunt — both physically and psychologically — of sexual harassment, assault, and rape, but they’re not its exclusive targets. Middle- and high-school-aged boys report being the victims of dating violence, including physical abuse, at rates similar to girls.

I think it's this sentence that sums up how far we've still to go, sadly: Even someone who seems to understand, someone who in the second half of the sentence states that the rates are similar and spends the article pointing out the lack of support for male victims still feels compelled to say females have it worst and by a significant margin! I have to wonder what cognitive dissonance of that scale feels like.

ThrowawayGhostGuy1 · 2018-03-18T15:52:26+00:00

I want to be clear: Girls bear the brunt — both physically and psychologically — of sexual harassment, assault, and rape, but they’re not its exclusive targets. Middle- and high-school-aged boys report being the victims of dating violence, including physical abuse, at rates similar to girls.

She contradicts herself.

Kettellkorn · 2018-03-18T14:09:44+00:00

Interesting, I’ve always thought that men who had been assaulted actually had it worse off psychology.

Mencite · 2018-03-18T21:57:08+00:00

Nowhere is the discrepancy between the rights of male and female more pronounced than in the case of sexual assault.
Any sexual assault of a woman is treated as all important it would be a life changing event for a man accused but if man is sexually assaulted by a woman its treated as the most trivial thing. He’d be belittled if he brought it up.

Society seems to believe girls are free to violate boys. Boys will feel as if there’s something wrong with them if they object. Most boys feel they have to like it or don’t feel as a male they can even be violated by a woman.

Its not surprising that there’s a lot of repressed anger in some boys given how society goes on about how welfare of kids is all important but totally dismisses the welfare of boys relative to girls in relation to sexual assault.

ThirdTurnip · 2018-03-18T23:20:31+00:00

“Fuck you,” she responded. “Guys can’t get assaulted for real.”

We should make that into a bumper sticker.

methylotroph · 2018-03-18T21:34:15+00:00

Notice how few comments and the views: the readers don't care, they don't want to perceive of man as anything but abusers.

thrway_1000 · 2018-03-18T14:09:53+00:00

Like The Cut or its writers gives a shit about boys or men.

Archive stupid sites -- https://archive.is/Wn1ev

DirHR · 2018-03-18T16:15:30+00:00

The 'girls/women have it worse' disclaimer must be included it seems.

ThrowawayGhostGuy1 · 2018-03-18T15:47:55+00:00

It took me a while, and I still don’t know how to feel about it.

dontpet · 2018-03-19T06:26:45+00:00

One confusing aspect for men experiencing sexual assault is that they will often be erect and ejaculate as part of the assault. It leaves almost all the men I've worked with with some confusion about their sexuality. It also leaves them feeling complicit even if they didn't want the sex and said so.

shit-zen-giggles · 2018-03-19T04:15:22+00:00

Somewhat related to this topic:

FEMALE SEXUAL ABUSE OF CHILDREN

While there are reasons why feminists limit discussions on the subject of women abusers, these reasons are valid only to feminism.

Michele Elliott (1994). Female Sexual Abuse of Children. Guilford Press. p. 100. ISBN 978-0-89862-004-7.

Video: Michell Elliott discussing the reality of female peadophiles - Bias, Disbelief and Institutional Failure second source

copied from here

g_squidman · 2018-03-18T15:29:06+00:00

-_- the other top post here today is making fun of women who don't know if they've been sexually assaulted.....

Title	Boys Often Don’t Recognize When They’ve Been Sexually Assaulted
Author	shit-zen-giggles
Upvotes	203
Comments	43
Date	March 18, 2018 9:14 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/85a8tp/boys_often_dont_recognize_when_theyve_been/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/boys-often-dont-recognize-when-theyve-been.1178854 https://theredarchive.com/post/1178854

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