The red pill ruined my mental health and has nearly ruined my relationship

Naus1987 · 2023-03-17T14:11:10+00:00

What’s masculine frame?

And how is it more manly to do whatever you did as opposed to doing “what’s right,” and being a good person.

Isn’t a masculine person suppose to be like a hero who brings good with them? Not tears or lashing out?

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I mean it’s ok to cry. Just don’t make others cry.

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Is being masculine worth sacrificing your humanity and ethics? I feel like a lot of red pill people don’t care about being good people. They just want to be masculine.

What is it about being masculine that makes it more appealing that being a good person?

Are they aspiring to be like a villain or something?

bluemagex2517 · 2023-03-17T14:52:49+00:00

Try to internalize the truth. Crying is good for you. It's normal and healthy. If your partner is upset with you for crying occasionally, they are an abusive partner. If a woman loses attraction for a man because she saw him cry, that's not normal or healthy and is something she should see a therapist about.

ColdSnickersBar · 2023-03-17T16:04:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story, man. I'm so glad you're getting away from all that creepy nonsense. Redpill is a meme virus that is all about imprisoning both the men and the women affected by it. Like you noticed yourself, when under its spell, you feel like you can't be free to be you.

Imagine another kind of masculinity. The masculinity of the adventurer, of the poet, of the magician, of the shaman, of the artist and of the lover. The free and unbridled man that feels and dares and loves and fights. Archtypes like Gomez Addams! Would Gomez cry? Fuck yeah, he would, if that's what he felt. He loves the shit outta his wife and then picks up a sword and laughs and runs off on safari somewhere.

You know who was known to cry? Teddy Roosevelt! And he had a lot of reasons to cry, because his life of adventure led him to a lot of intense places. Then, like Gomez, he'd do wild shit like challenge a French diplomat to a jiu jitsu roll, because our President was the first American jiu jitsu brown belt for god sakes.

I know this guy who's a cousin to Macho Man Randy Savage (RIP). He was telling me this story about how he asked him if he ever cried and he did this awesome impression of him saying:

"The Macho Man feeels the fuuuuuuull range of human emotion, brother! I live the highest highs and the lowest lows! I have laughed a thousand times and I have cried a thousand times and I will cry a thousand more!"

Be drunk on life, brother, and live with zeal and live free. Anything trying to take away your wild heart, such as Redpill does, is an attack directly on your masculinity.

antidense · 2023-03-17T16:50:00+00:00

Maybe find a role model to emulate if you are having a hard time breaking out of the mindset? Is there someone in your life you have a lot of respect for? Like I always admired Abraham Lincoln.

Edit: here might be some more: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/comments/ijabi9/who_are_your_positive_male_role_models/

ShityistDisciple · 2023-03-18T01:03:25+00:00

This reminds me of when Sneako the cuck had a debate or talk with destiny and preach. In short destiny made the point that sleeping with women teaches you how to have sex with women. Not how to hold a long term relationship

I have a few friends who have had their boyfriend cry with them and they were ok with it kinda like in the anime Baki when ali JR was crying after a fight with a girl. Sharing tears can deepin bounds. Crying with someone can create powerful memories.

I had one friend who cried in front of his wife she is Russian and she comes from a more conservative culture. She wanted to divorce him after he cried in front of her.

PutsWomenOnPedestal · 2023-03-18T13:30:59+00:00

As a man, I cry whenever I feel like it. Objectively it is bad for mental health to be bottling up emotions such as grief and sadness for long periods without release.

ShelbySecretary · 2023-03-18T11:45:33+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through that. You've internalized the shame of the society expectations and gaslighting that somehow crying = weak and unmasculine. It's not true. I'm the type of woman that tries to be there for my men, hold them, listen, let them lie in my lap and cry if they want. We exist, I promise. Emotions are emotions, and if you don't feel them, you dissociate away from them, shove them down, and they'll eventually come out anyways. You must learn how to control them or they'll control you.

rbkforrestr · 2023-03-21T15:04:22+00:00

I can’t count how many times I’ve seen my boyfriend cry in the four years we’ve been together. He cries when he’s upset. It’s a normal human reaction. I certainly don’t think he’s any less ‘masculine’ for it - if anything, that level of vulnerability brought us closer.

Valuable-Emergency27 · 2023-03-17T17:09:40+00:00

Its okay cry or be upset just don't cry all the time or cry over little things/things you know you have control over. Also control emotions never lash at a women thats where alot of problems come from in this world for example school shootings and violence because young men can't control their emotions. It sounds like you have small balls as well. Also you need to have pride in yourself if your proud in everything in life your going to have a good life.

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Title	The red pill ruined my mental health and has nearly ruined my relationship
Author	Woodenward2
Upvotes	39
Comments	17
Date	March 17, 2023 1:23 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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