What are you good at?

MagicCharles · 2018-11-14T21:42:35+00:00

With the exception of frame, this is probably the single piece of advice that will improve almost every aspect of your life. Specialization was inevitable in our industrial society, just make sure you thrive in it.

Xx_Squall_xX · 2018-11-14T21:56:04+00:00

Your sport; sure you might have the best backhand or fastest time of your group, but you are nothing compared to professionals or even the amateur competitors in your field. They would step on you in seconds. And you're okay with this? Why?

Where are you going to draw the line here? There will always be a bigger fish. Am I supposed to be Lewis Hamilton?

choontang · 2018-11-14T21:55:09+00:00

Yeah bro just be the best in the world at something then you'll get laid

Come on man

Yoasted · 2018-11-14T21:54:34+00:00

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KaraethonCycle · 2018-11-14T22:38:53+00:00

Good post.

Another example of the old Heartiste maxim - every male activity has its groupies.

Just remember:

You get good at something for yourself, not to get girls (the girls are a byproduct of passion and mastery and the social proof that comes with it).
The social proof is situational - unless the guy has solid social and Game skills (which he might - I don't know him), he will be lost outside the climbing club and the environment where people know and respect his mastery - like in a regular nightclub. Classic situational alpha (also see college professors banging college girls and the like - a lot of those guys are basically gameless betas except for the one environment where they are situationally alpha).

darkkramer · 2018-11-14T21:42:50+00:00

Thanks dude, really had to hear this right now

FieldLine · 2018-11-14T22:35:14+00:00

When I was a kid I was the best at everything. Stellar grades. Music. Lots of community service. Sports (competitive swimming -- can't throw a baseball for shit). A little socially off, but generally well-liked. I was the guy every girl's parents hope their daughter brings home.

Even in college I had okay-ish grades, but the best internships and research experience. Became more athletic in general as I started lifting hard and heavy. Still played music. Learned to cook. Honed my social skills and became extremely popular in multiple disjoint social circles. Everyone was always impressed with my resume, always telling me they expected great things.

Then I started looking for a job, and suddenly discovered that I didn't want to work for a boss. With that came the realization that all I do well is impress other people. On paper I look great, but I'm not actually in the top-tier at anything, at least to the extent that someone will pay me a lot of money independent of working under someone else.

Not having to impress others anymore is freeing, but also means I have to gear up and actually get really good at something. Not to impress the peanut gallery, but to create value.

I have some ideas, but it's still a work in progress.

gbdoragnic · 2018-11-14T21:42:58+00:00

Do you enjoy what you're doing, I was good at computers, made a lot of money, didn't help me love myself or get women. This is self hatred wrap in self improvement.

I spent 12 hours a day studying programming because I loved it, I couldn't help it, it was like video games to me, It was a natural positive loop , it wasn't a struggle.

How about you find something you like just for you, I didn't study computers to get laid or to make money I did it for love and personal fulfillment , this showed in my work , my drive wasn't to be better than anyone, My drive was to do things right.

No one talks about you when you're not there.

They do, it's all bad things though, but I'm talked about, they talk about how i hate women, how I voted for Trump, and yet she still fucked me, and told all her friends about me, and they fucked me too.

But do you make enough to make other guys bitter and jealous?

And now you're a psychopath, stop comparing yourself to others, and stop using women as a indicator, relax, chill, study some cheesy pick up lines, approach a few women

Vikingcel · 2018-11-14T21:58:18+00:00

The chick wasn't into you because you were trying to impress her. They can smell it on you from miles away.

empatheticapathetic · 2018-11-14T22:40:45+00:00

Just honest feedback from my perspective. You’ve bragged how easy you’ve fucked girls, how much progress you made, that you’ve done so many things and made so much progress in so many posts, how you became chad, every time I read something about you shitting on your self about something so basic like girls talking about you while you’re not there and your past mistakes it feels dishonest, pandering and irrelevant.

You say you’ve never had girls talking about how awesome you are. You really think that’s true? Even if it is, that isn’t the story you’ve sold us based on your history.

I get you’re trying to be objective and make a stand-alone point and using yourself as an example, but using such a low ball example like girls not talking about you while you’re not there takes away your credibility. I’d rather you were more honest about that part and owned your successes and I’d want to take you more seriously.

Only mentioning negatives is unrealistic and allows no space for healthy progress because then you’re at the bottom forever regardless of what you achieve because there’s always somebody better.

self-medicate · 2018-11-14T21:56:45+00:00

This is pretty interesting. Back when I used to train for badminton, I was selected to train with the national team. We had players come from around the country to train together. After I returned to my home club, I was easily one of if not the best player there. Many girls who weren't interested in me before started showing interest.

autoeroticassfxation · 2018-11-14T21:53:07+00:00

I've been a National Judo champion when I was a kid, and a National champion in a motorcycle racing class. In my country people really don't care about that stuff. The guys who get the most chicks definitely aren't the best at anything other than getting chicks. My problem is that most girls bore the crap out of me.

snowmoose1 · 2018-11-14T22:06:03+00:00

Be the best of yourself rather than comparing yourself to others achievements. An alpha doesn’t have time to care what others think about him or what they are doing. Leave that for betas and gammas.

What are you good at literally? I for instance cook really good. Why? Practice and passion. Do women and other folks eating my food talking about my food and me miles away? Probably not, i’m not Gordon fkn Ramsay and my meals would be dogshit to his if you compare it like that. Do i care? Fuck no..

AleLibre · 2018-11-14T22:55:11+00:00

Bad advice. Really superficial.

So you are a great guitar player, uh? In a minute a car crash (or any unexpected accident) let your arm unable to play, may be forever.

Where is your worth?

Same for the climbing clown, sure it's interesting to see, some low IQ people can be amazed at him. Same idea, an accident, a stroke, and say good bye to an arm, hand or leg.

The people should talk about you (if you insist on that) because what you are, what about be an amazing and fun person that can be remembered for your ideas, your humor or your ability to improve anyone's day?

Just my 2c.

0ggles · 2018-11-14T22:10:18+00:00

Jack of all trades, is a master of none. I have a Chad face, so I don't need to be great at a hobby, just passionate at what I do.

tempolaca · 2018-11-14T22:19:33+00:00

It's true. I'm a nerd, but I was (possibly am) very good at a very specific part of computer science. People noticed when I was in the room. For a time, if there were 3 girls in conferences, I probably fucked 2 of them.

The kind of girl that goes to computer science conferences is 5 at best. But considering I had a competition of about 1000 guys for each girl, I did fine. I'm kinda retired now, catched oneitis with one of them, and lost frame. I can recover and probably will.

Ansec · 2018-11-14T22:10:07+00:00

If you're average, don't expect anything close to average results.

I like this post. It puts emphasis on excellence. The reason the climber is so good with women is because of the confidence he is imbued with. Knowing you're really good at something makes you feel very confident in all aspects of your life. His hobby is his mental point of origin; his passion.

I was reminded of something similar that I realized a while ago. A woman that is interested in you will try to emulate you and take interest in the things you're into. I thought to myself, what am I into? What are my hobbies that I'm passionate about? I didn't have any. I had been living a life of what makes me feel good. I wasn't passionate about much of anything. That passion helps keep you in your frame. If you lack it then you lack frame. Find a passion in life and pour everything into it. Make it your purpose and excel at it, be the very best

kerel11 · 2018-11-14T22:12:18+00:00

Interesting and true.

But this will not help most people. Most people are average and never will be in the top no matter how much they try. You need to have talent (aka genetics) AND put a lot of hours in to that. And even if you do this things, luck can change everything.

Examples:

-if you have small hands/tone deaf you have disadvantage on guitar

-rock climbing needs specific genetics if you want to be the best

-school: you need high inteligence (genetics)

See? In almost every skill you need to have specific genetics and a lot of hours of practice - basically dedicate your life into it. Do you know how much that rockcliber spends climbing? That guitarist playing guitar? How many hours?

Being the best is good, but not very probable for most people. That is just path to depression.

What I recommend instead is to be the best version of yourself - compare yourself to who you were yesterday.

ELMasTurbo · 2018-11-14T22:15:49+00:00

haha I think it definitely helps, but I recently had my first Muay Thai fight and I got Tkoed in the first round in front of a hundred people. Very embarrassing. However, there was a girl from my school there with her BF and I still managed to get her number and set something up.

Alpha27145 · 2018-11-14T23:31:04+00:00

Sadly our school system is the opposite of the message of this post

drifteer · 2018-11-14T22:40:40+00:00

I understand what you mean with this post.

When I see your nick Heathcliff, I know it will be a great post.

Thank you.

FeelsSmallMan · 2018-11-14T22:13:11+00:00

They also talk about you when you are really good ( not great or the greatest) at lots of stuff and you get comments like “ Is there anything you’re not good at? “

I think you need two conditions to reach this state. First you have to have a burning desire to be the best or at least try to be the best at everything you do. Second, you have to figure out for yourself how to learn stuff quicker because if you optimize your learning process, you can save a lot of time on your way to greatness.

EP13 · 2018-11-14T22:17:41+00:00

This is a real kick up the backside for me. Thanks Heathcliff, your contributions to this sub are always impactful.

TheStoicCrane · 2018-11-14T22:30:31+00:00

Key thing to remember is to aspire for greatness because you want to be great. If you aspire for greatness for the sake of being validated by random people who matter less than you think you do (At least in relation to your own life.) you become a slave to a phantasmal mass. A monkey seeking only to please for approval of random nobodies.

2018-11-14T22:32:49+00:00

You're not gonna believe this. Today, I felt like shit because of a case of oneties I'm having so I looked you up and read meditations and Now I become Chad posts again.

Now I was scrolling the subreddit home and I saw the title (without reading the the name of the user) and started reading only to realize half through the post that this style of writing is vaguely familiar. It's that British guy with that weird name.

Good shit, mate. Your posts are godsend. Lifesaving.

Hyperintelligentwolf · 2018-11-14T23:00:58+00:00

I'm good at long-distance running, half marathons, sub 5 mile before, Marine Corps infantry background. I'm good with people, reading people, observing, because I'm psychologically minded. I'm good at being a more independent learner, exemplified by being fully ambidextrous, even though I'm dominantly right handed. I'm good with animals, having had three cats around the house in total up to this point. In university, I'm good with psychology, biology, biochemistry, and nursing, because I'm a conceptual thinker, abstract thinker. I'm good with looks, having been told that I have good taste in people, clothing, fashion. I'm good with music, considering I write, produce, and make totally original music, with lyrics, having worked with professional studios. Furthermore, I'm good with rapping, I've met famous rappers before, and have been watching the game my whole life. As well, I believe I have an exceptionally vast range of knowledge about music, which could be thanks to being open-minded about everything, that I prefer to find continuously new, more underground genres of music, and then subgenres of those genres in question, and then trying to find other genres of music, different styles, similar to those aforementioned genres of music, and then using all of it to inspire and influence my own work. I'm an extreme extrovert too, but I am alone because I am individualistic, meaning I don't follow what everyone else does, which means to society, or the system of society, I'm different, because I have the mentality of the white wolf, not the sheep, or the victim. I'm good with skepticism, to the point that I diagnosed myself with an extreme skepticism disorder, for I began questioning everything, about everything, so much, being so hyper-inquisitve became a more independent function in my mind, and I feel I am skepticizing all the time from a psychological, forensically detailed, super curious perspective, because I do not take anything I see, or read about, at face value, nor should anyone else anywhere else in the universe. I can talk to women, but I personally really prefer intimate, one on one conversations with girls. They don't, unless they're specifically interested in you...does this answer your ultimate question? I hope I've answered your question. Question everything.

chuck23y · 2018-11-14T23:31:40+00:00

I never comment or post anything because I am still very blue pill. But you should read No more Mr nice guy. Because you aren't satisfied with yourself, and you won't be because you become better in some hobby...

During the month I'm lurking here, what I learned is that frame is the main pillar of TRP lifestyle. You can't hold your frame if you aren't OK with yourself. And you are really not okay with yourself brother. Not only women but everyone else feel it. That's the core of your problem not you being mediocre.

UnbreakableFrame · 2018-11-14T23:42:37+00:00

I actually was paid to play video games. 3 different games actually. I spent about 15 years of my life gaming for 8+ hours a day. Don't do that. Girls didn't give a fuck. Only other betas cared at all. The only good take away that I got from gaming are learning how to be a shot-caller/team leader and learning how to type really fast. Invest yourself in hobbies that are awe inspiring. Athletics, music/art, or writing are all pretty good ideas.

DwightWolftail · 2018-11-14T23:49:46+00:00

I have to disagree. I have many talents. I have competed in two sports, and have been the top 2-3 athlete in my country. I am also in a very good university. I am really good at fighting and I don't know anyone who paints as good as I do. Sure there are people much better in everything. But who gives a fuck. It's all about frame and frequent meeting of new people. I don't go out. I stay in with my hb7 gf and do a TON of hobbies.

My life is AWESOME, but it could be better. And all this has nothing to do with women. Sure I have some obvious chances with hb8s but I just don't care anymore. But I know people who are not that good in anything and have fucked tons of women. They just go out more, meet new people, have average bodies and faces and just make it happen. Because they like it. It's all about frame. Yes you have advantages when you are known and looked up to. But that's just about it.

You generally write good posts, and I don't know if this is a motivational post, a self reflection post, both, or over-dramatized ranting, but this seems more like you are hurt by your inferior skills. And for fuck's sake, you'll never know who talks and thinks of you behind your back.

uwcscareerthrow · 2018-11-15T00:13:00+00:00

This was a hard but necessary read. Good job OP.

Classy_Amir · 2018-11-15T00:23:25+00:00

Not long ago I realized I'm good with languages and that's all :) I speak 4 at the moment

kellykebab · 2018-11-15T01:20:57+00:00

Great post. Nothing to add here.

_thechinaman_ · 2018-11-15T01:41:25+00:00

It's very interesting how the pendulum swings back to wanting to impress and be admired. The difference is doing something for yourself for other people for yourself or doing something for other people for yourself. Where does the root gratification come from?

TFWyourWaifuDies · 2018-11-15T00:15:15+00:00

This is incredibly blue pilled.

Everything you listed is highly genetic. Grades? IQ is genetic. Physical performance? Highly genetic.

So the best that you can do is maximize your own genetic potential, but you will NEVER surpass that. There's no point in lying to yourself because it will only make your failure worse to accept.

Occult_pizza · 2018-11-15T01:23:44+00:00

so how do i get really good at something?

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