Replace, don’t chase! Remember YOU are the prize!

chatrebelle · 2020-12-03T22:56:24+00:00

Me back in my pick me days! Ouf. It hurts to think I was ever like that. Thank god for FDS!

youdipthong · 2020-12-03T23:25:15+00:00

Me during my pickme days. I’m actually physically cringing remembering it all

rf-elaine · 2020-12-03T22:36:47+00:00

This is the most adorable meme I've ever seen.

MarriedWithPizza · 2020-12-04T00:26:22+00:00

I’m glad to see we all cringed at our past selves. I get physically flustered and irritated at my old self.

matte_personality · 2020-12-04T03:25:44+00:00

Flashbacks to when my ex barely made time for me and being the pickme that I was, I actually reminded him to check my messages. I’m charming and adorable, that incompetent leech should have hung on to every word I sneezed but instead I was the clown 🤡

rosemarie2020 · 2020-12-04T02:36:08+00:00

I cringe at the lost time spent writing paragraphs to NVM. Not only could they not process that amount of text, but they just didn’t give a shit.

Just leave. Never waste time “communicating” or providing an explanation when they don’t deserve one.

Delishtise · 2020-12-04T05:40:41+00:00

Ugh, the last guy I was “seeing” before FDS... not just double texts... try 3-10 over a 3-7 day span when he would leave me on read (which he turned on just for me) and when I’d finally get upset he’d say “don’t worry, I’m here. I just don’t want to respond all the time.”

👏 I 👏 cannot 👏

I’m both so sad for her that she felt so unworthy that she NEEDED to put up with that while simultaneously feeling so much love and gratitude for her. She brought me here.

GreenApplesJuice · 2020-12-03T22:11:40+00:00

I cringe so much when I see a woman chasing a man, like what are you doing?? 😫

fireforestfairy · 2020-12-04T06:41:58+00:00

I dont care what men on Reddit say. Most men will do the chasing if he is seriously interested in a girl so women shouldn'tmake the first move. If he's not chasing, he's not interested. I think think only men who are extremely socially awkward (eg. the ones with extreme social anxiety) are the exception.

There is no point in a girl doing the chasing. If you have to do the chasing, it implies he doesn't like you that much. Even if the two of you get together, he doesn't love you enough to make the relationship last long-term.

warinmymind94 · 2020-12-04T07:24:10+00:00

I'm so embarrassed. I did this a year ago actually thinking "maybe hes busy" and "I need to put in the work" wow I was a clown and fooling myself. Don't make excuses for men, don't give the benefit of the doubt, and relationships don't require "work". The thing is if he is interested he should be responding and putting in the effort. It shouldn't be pins and needles waiting for responses.

DeepestWinterBlue · 2020-12-04T06:23:13+00:00

Lol I needed this tonight. I’m so tempted to call him up to understand why he went from apologizing and asking for another chance to telling me “happy thanksgiving take care” by the end of the week when the week before he was holding my hand and carrying my coat and texting me to see if I ok home.

AlanaaaaM · 2020-12-04T06:55:51+00:00

I don’t even text a guy once... much less TWICE 😩😂

IAteTheDragon · 2020-12-04T18:17:14+00:00

Back when I was stil struggling with my "make a move" habits, I had a sudden epiphany. I was looking at the screen, figuring out all the new reasons why I TOTALLY should text him after he's been silent. I imagined a scenario where he asks me out again after I would have texted(which he most probably would) and a question popped up in my head asking "Are you happy now that he asked you out? After you were the first to reach out?" And sudddenly I saw us on this imaginary meetup, him- chill, simrking and easy going, me- chill on the outside, but in the back of my head constantly trying to prove myself as the actual initiator of our contact. I would feel painfully inadequate because behind every smirk he'd pull, there'd be him knowing he already won, I'm there to entertain him, I was the one chasing after all. Nope nope nope nope! Never again, to hell with this dynamic. Ask yourself "Will you be satisfied even if he answers?"

AllThatTaz · 2020-12-04T04:15:49+00:00

Happy to be the 1000th upvote on this very relatable image.

Title	Replace, don’t chase! Remember YOU are the prize!
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1660
Comments	32
Date	December 3, 2020 8:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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