In 1856, author of Putnam’s Monthly Magazine published the following summary of relations between men and women in America:

The old and reasonable maxim that ‘he who dances must pay the piper,’ does not apply to wives—they dance, and the husband pays. To such an extent is this carried, that if the wife beats her husband, and he, having no authority to punish her in kind, applies to the criminal courts for redress, she will be fined for assault and battery, which fine he must pay, even thought she has plenty of money of her own. Or, in default of paying, go to jail! Such cases are by no means of unprecedented occurrence in our criminal courts.

https://gynocentrism.com/2015/12/19/a-word-for-mens-rights-1856/

I don't want to make the mistake of exaggerating things the way we sometimes see feminists doing, but I think it's pretty clear from this that women could freely assault their husbands with very little, or any punishment. If a husband did try to prosecuted his wife for domestic violence, the punishment for it fell back in him. Like it was his fault that he made her upset enough to hit him.

I found this quote on A Voice for Men which appears to be shadow banned by Reddit, but you can find a link to it here:

https://np.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/lydlyn/have_women_ever_been_oppressed_in_the_united/.