Hey divorce bros. Read through my history, but tldr stbxw who I've been still married to only because of special needs kid decided to start dating and within 2.5 months thinks they have found someone who will marry them and help take care of my three kids one with special needs.

I "won" in that I get the house and 51/49 custody and pay her nothing. She has agreed to all this voluntarily. I don't wish her Ill. While I think she is being silly with new relationship, I get it isn't my business.

Here is the thing, we've been together 19 years married 16, week after I graduated college.

She has recently admitted and apologized for being codependent on me (which I realize is why I thought/subconsciously assumed we could still get back together).

Her new guy works nights and doesn't do much texting. She and I still have to live together for a bit, and we are both autistic and understand each other well even though there are 100s of reasons why we never worked as a couple and need to divorce.

So she still ends up leaning on me for support re grad school etc. And I still am processing that we are done, plus this is mother of my children.

I need you bros to tell me to let her go. Please nothing negative about her. Just tell me it's healthier to have proper boundaries.