Are there men here who are voluntarily celibate?

Lazygenius101 · 2023-06-29T04:06:30+00:00

Yeah. Some dudes would just rather not have sex. Just check out r/asexual, Loads of men and women that actively don't want sex or a relationship in general. Even with asexuality aside, some guys just don't want or care for sex very much.

baiser_vole · 2023-06-29T02:35:50+00:00

My boyfriend has been for decades.

thetruthishere_ · 2023-06-29T02:59:06+00:00

Yes.

notaslaaneshicultist · 2023-06-29T12:46:37+00:00

I am. A future partner is not impossible, but I am not bothered about dying a virgin.

DragonflyAromatic793 · 2023-06-29T07:52:16+00:00

obviously yes. but its rare.

veladem · 2023-06-29T13:28:03+00:00

Fam, you might wanna research celibacy.

But yes, very much so.

Naus1987 · 2023-06-29T18:34:41+00:00

Hey, this question was made for me!

Well, I thought it was until I googled with "celibate" means? Abstain from marriage? I think NOT! But I certainly don't enjoy the sex part.

I'm asexual, which means I don't enjoy sex. But since this topic is more focused on that, I'll go on a bit to explain a little more on what being asexual is actually like.

To start things off, I don't suffer from any mental-illness. I don't suffer from trauma. Both my parents are happily married 40+ years. I don't live in poverty, and I'm a straight white guy. Oh, and for the BILLIONS OF PEOPLE WHO ASK! My testosterone levels are great, thanks for asking the billionth time!

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So to get into this, I like to compare sex to hunger. Being hungry is a normal, natural human need and eating is a very pleasurable desire for a lot of folks.

So imagine you just ate the best food, and you are STUFFED! You couldn't eat another bite. You're completely satisfied. The emotional feeling of "feeling hungry." It's just gone! You don't feel worried or upset that you're not hungry. You just don't have that desire. Just not there.

That's how sex is to me. There's just never a sexual hunger. No desire. No build up. No nothing. It's just an absence of hunger. In a way, it's like having post-nut clarity 24-7, because that "hunger" never clouds my mind.

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As for sex itself, I've had a few long-term relationships. 8 years, 4 years, and 3 years. Before I knew I was asexual, I would just kinda "go with the flow." It's like showing up to a dinner party, and if they throw food on your plate, you politely eat it. Even if you don't care for it, or even like it. You just "take one for the team," because that's just what good partners do. Though if you said that to a woman, she'd cry sexual abuse or something! It's amazing how men are expected to play ball sexually, but women can cry bloody murder. But that's beyond the point.

Anyways, so sex for me has often been compared to "giving a massage." You don't get jack shit out of it, but your partner enjoys it, and you can go with the motions without being too stressed out about it.

I had always though something might be off, as I never craved sex like other people. But after hearing rumors of dead-bedrooms, I just assumed I had whatever those people did and it was "normal."

But after my 5th relationship, it really occurred to me that no matter how hot, or attractive, or kinky my partner was -- I never felt hungry. When you strike out 5 times, you realize the problem is not them, but it must be me!

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So after that break-up, I decided to get some therapy, figure out why I wasn't sexually into any of the women I've been with. And that's when I learned I was asexual.

And when I learned I was asexual, it flipped my world around, because it meant that I shouldn't date normal women. Because normal women want sex, and if I force a woman into a sexless marriage -- I AM THE BAD GUY!

I didn't want to be the bad guy, so I resigned myself to whatever solo life was about. And that's how I discovered red-pill.

I ran into this philosophy about Going Your Own Way, and I was like "yeah, that must be me for! I can't have a relationship with women, so I need to learn to go my own way, and love my life!!"

I skimmed the surface of red pill. Taking in the stuff I loved like focusing on hobbies and careers. Personal fitness and health, and simply disregarded all the toxic and hateful stuff. Unlike the black and white thinkers of red pill, I knew how to pull apart the good from the bad, and not let the bad corrupt me. I understood nuance and context.

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Then one day, the obviously stupid truth hit me. I could just date asexual women. Oh my God, why didn't I think of that before? DUH!

And so I've been in a relationship with a wonderful asexual woman, and we've been together for almost two years. I can't call myself celibate, because we plan to marry and do all the romance stuff.

I'm a huge romance junkie. I'm a Disney PG romance guy. I love musicals. That's one of the reasons why I get relationships so easy, I can romance a woman into my arms, but I refuse to take her to bed ;)

Despite falling out of the going your own way philosophy, I did learn from the red pill taht just so many men are suffering, and it's truly heartbreaking to see so much.. pain. On both sides. Women and men are both suffering in this dating game. Y'all suck balls at romance, and I wish it wasn't like that.

So I like to keep myself in groups like this and others just so I don't completely forget how bad it is for other men, and so that when I have opportunities to speak up, I can use my voice to help. Not specifically in groups like this. But when I talk to my women friends, family, and my community. I can add some context into why some men act the way they do. And how their struggles define them.

I'm not really onboard with the whole "Throw all toxic men away, because they're irredeemable." I'd rather convince people that second chances are worth it if people are actively willing to learn and change.

Appropriate-Set5599 · 2023-07-01T13:44:31+00:00

Religious people who wait until marriage

ZenSawaki · 2023-07-04T04:50:57+00:00

I haven't have sex in years but I am still living happier than ever, and currently not bothering with looking for sex. You could call me a voluntary celibate if you want. The last year I counsciously decided to not have sex just to see what happens. Now I am indifferent to sex. Like, if someone attractive wants to have sex then maybe, but definitely won't looking for it.

Feeling_Capital_8774 · 2023-07-29T06:29:59+00:00

Yes, I refuse to date outside my race. I currently have an Indian girl beating down my door. But you know, we're not allowed to be honest about race related issues.

Smart-Living-4034 · 2023-06-29T16:28:52+00:00

Guess they're too busy leveling up in the game of life! 🎮

Title	Are there men here who are voluntarily celibate?
Author	Pension-North
Upvotes	7
Comments	19
Date	June 29, 2023 2:32 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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