is a woman allowed to be self sufficient, or search for a way to be self reliant ?

lilycamilly · 2023-08-26T17:15:56+00:00

What the fuck? Of COURSE she's """allowed""" to be self sufficient. There's so much to unpack from this post that I don't even know where to start.

Women are "allowed" to do everything that men are "allowed" to do. In a relationship, the two individuals feel out the dynamic that works best for THEM. Whether that's both working and bringing in income, one person staying home to run the household, whatever they like. There are no rules for relationships, all that matters is that both people feel happy and accepted and are working together well.

mikey_weasel · 2023-08-26T17:22:02+00:00

Yes

Very much so.

Its a very particular guy who isn't going to support that (redpilled asshats)

Though I'm wondering if the "off the grid" lifestyle has a bit more overlap with redpill garbage than other niches?

luridlurker · 2023-08-26T17:58:37+00:00

The only reason why someone would suppress another's skills, abilities, self-sufficiencies etc. is if they're insecure and controlling.

Avoid anyone who'd shame you for developing skills.

Stargazer1919 · 2023-08-26T19:06:31+00:00

Why are you listening to redpill bullshit?

KindlyPizza · 2023-08-26T18:00:01+00:00

Hunting license is not being issued for gender specific individuals. If you passed the exam and have financial means to go hunting, hunt away.

In most places you cannot make hunting as your main source of income though, money made is often not enough to pay bills.

Get and train a labrador while you at it too. They make great hunting companion.

fathergoose77 · 2023-08-26T18:31:22+00:00

Yes.

Ask yourself why you think you need to listen to what redpill says about women when it makes zero sense to your wants and your reality. It’s nonsense. You’re a grown adult, you can do what you like.

SweelFor- · 2023-08-26T17:41:18+00:00

Allowed by who, or what?

WWhiMM · 2023-08-26T18:19:45+00:00

You're asking this like there's a definite reality to any of it, but it's all extremely made up. You can follow someone else's rule book if you want to, but ultimately it's up to you and your partner how you spend your time and delegate responsibilities.

Accomplished_Bus1375 · 2023-08-26T19:08:00+00:00

I've been self reliant for ten years,y beastie has been self reliant for 20. It's hard to deprogram the relationship need out of your head but once you do you are ok

VagabondOfTheVoid · 2023-08-26T20:30:43+00:00

You know what the greatest thing about being human is? You don’t need permission to do anything. Regardless of gender, sex, whatever. You are free to choose the life you want for yourself. Society is a made up concept and permissions don’t exist. Ignore the naysayers and do the thing anyway.

N7FAN4EVER · 2023-08-26T21:10:44+00:00

I would hope so. I'd hate to be dating a women who is so damn codependent

incredulitor · 2023-08-26T23:53:26+00:00

Not only are you allowed to, I would expect that when you go forward and choose to do those things, it'll also help move forward from the mindset that there is someone else who has to be "allowing" you to do these things. It's not illegal. It's not harming anyone. In fact it sounds like over time as you get better at it would help you to do more to help people around you if that's what you chose to do. What's stopping you?

rhowena · 2023-08-27T00:27:41+00:00

Define "self-sufficient" for the purposes of your post. Is a man "self-sufficient" if he can bag a deer but doesn't know how to skin, clean, or cook it and relies on his wife to do those things for him?

israfildivad · 2023-08-27T06:05:31+00:00

Lol this is a weird community to be in asking a ratger weird question. It strikes me you don't know what red pill is. Red pill doesn't WANT you or anyone to be anything. Red pill is just a slang term for truth or reality regarding gender dynamics. There might be a slight bias in redpillers wanting whats best or whats desired from the male perspective, as most redpillers are men. But by an large most redpillers are more into objective mostly scientific based conjecture. That said, objective truth would say that traditional gender roles work because there is a level task specialization. No task specialization is better than the other as its all hands on deck in a family unit. But when one partner becomes adept at bread making skills, to which nature as already provided a measure of innate capacities for, the other is more free to further develop wheat farming skills, for which nature has already provided that partner with a level of innate ability for. Thus there is cohesion, efficiency and interdependence which better allows the partnership to survive and even thrive.

TelevisionGloomy5458 · 2023-08-27T14:32:48+00:00

Agafia is a woman that has lived alone for many many years in the Siberian wilderness. If something happens to your husband and he dies, you have to be able to take care of yourself and any kids you would have. It’s not about being “allowed,”. If a man truly truly loves his wife and kids, he will teach her and the kids everything he knows so she doesn’t die or starve to death after he’s gone. Any man that wants to limit and control their wives to the point that they limit their self sufficiency and independence, doesn’t really love or care for her at all.

ashaw7 · 2023-08-27T16:27:43+00:00

It sounds like you are a woman, and asking what is feminine vs what would turn men off. It is really more about what you want, either way just be honest and find a partner that is honestly okay with it. If you want to hunt, that is fine. There may be some men who don't want women as part of that, but there will also be groups of men that are fine with having a woman hunt with them. Just don't do it if it isn't something that you honestly like. Don't pretend to like hunting to meet guys, it won't work out well.

I don't think you can find men irl anymore who want women barefoot in the kitchen and always pregnant, amd that was not the norm for any significant period of time. When times were tough women had to pitch in with chores that weren't feminine such as splitting wood or shooting animals that threatened their families. A lot of what is considered feminine is what the upper class considered feminine.

As a guy, when I was dating, I didn't want to become saddled with a woman who couldn't financially support herself forcing me to pay for everything while dating, or forcing me to become the sole income earner supporting a household, which if a divorce were to happen would force me to continue supporting that person.

Title	is a woman allowed to be self sufficient, or search for a way to be self reliant ?
Author	Outrageous_Touch231
Upvotes	6
Comments	28
Date	August 26, 2023 5:11 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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