Decision paralysis ??

Mountain_Collar_7620 · 2023-09-23T22:04:06+00:00

I’m off that Boat. The longer you stay, the further you’ll have to paddle back to shore once it finally sinks from you being too exhausted to keep bailing water.

The best time to abandon ship is soon as it hits the ice berg. The second best is as soon as practical. The Worst - once it sinks beneath the waves creating a vortex pulling you down into the abyss with her .

Oh .. and don’t let fat lady hog that door 🚪- There’s room for two else she can swim

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2023-09-23T19:53:01+00:00

AlexAllen7729 · 2023-09-23T20:19:51+00:00

Same boat. I don’t know what the fuck to do

Hunkaflesh13 · 2023-09-23T20:28:26+00:00

I'm in the same boat. Some days I just want her to fuck right off and leave me be, forever. Others, I care about her, wonder how she's doing, and wish her well.

I've determined I will likely get to a point where both exist simultaneously, in a weird way. A kind of "Good bye, I sincerely wish you well, and I hope I never see you ever again" situation. It feels like that would put me at peace, but I'm not there yet, and not sure how or when I will be.

Danno5367 · 2023-09-24T01:25:37+00:00

You have paralysis by analysis, make a decision for yourself and for your benefit.

You can thank me later.

EnvironmentalAd3558 · 2023-09-24T06:12:01+00:00

What would she do if the roles were reversed?

CaliDude75 · 2023-09-24T14:11:26+00:00

It was pretty clear-cut for me. I asked myself, “Can I continue to live like this for the next 30+ years?” The answer in my mind was a resounding no. No kids in my case. I made a deliberately generous settlement offer because I didn’t want a bunch of unnecessary back & forth with attorney fees.

I just didn’t see much prospect for things changing at all. I’ve gone over the “coulda, shoulda, woulda” a million times in my head, but I can’t undo the past, and even if I had done some things differently, if it would have resulted in a different outcome.

Title	Decision paralysis ??
Author	ashintray
Upvotes	10
Comments	10
Date	September 23, 2023 7:45 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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