There have been plenty of discussions about men growing up being discouraged to cry and express their emotions and as such developing into very distraught adults who can't show how they feel or seek comfort from anyone, and rarely find much understanding when they do. That definitely matters.

But from my experience I've met many of men who were more than ready to cry or express frustration or grief. I've also grown up with brothers and they were very emotional arguably crying more often than me and my sisters. As an adult I've never dated a man that wasnt able to cry in front of me and didnt so at least once for me to comfort them. Ive even seen it happen at inappropriate times where I would have personally kept it together more, such as making someone else's pain all about then, or picking an argument with me by insulting me and then bursting into tears when I told that they were insensitive.

That being said I'm not the most stereotypical woman and I've been told my personality is strong, tough, and that I am a natural leader to the point I've worn the pants in most of my past relationships. I didnt dislike that my exes cried in general and I know feelings are important but very often it was woe is me behavior or weaponized self pitying behavior to diffuse an argument they started which tbh is gross and manipulative behavior.

You should never cry to get what you want out of people or shut them down when they're trying to tell you something important. All that is to say most men I know cry. Some more than others but I've seen it even from my step dad who is a manly tough guy type, thought it was over a family pet being Ill. I've seen more men struggle to express openly, feelings of attachment, affection, or strong empathy, than to express sorrow.

Even on here most of the arguments seemed fueled on the red pill side by woe is me, self pitying, or just anger type behaviors. The emotion I see most men battle with is affection. Showing love for even each other. Many of you grew up with dads who didnt hug you and it shows. It's why some men are so afraid to be called gay for hugging or loving their bros. And I think it translates to romantic relationships too. Men often play it cool more than need to out of a fear of getting hurt. I've had multiple casual hook ups grow heavily attached, needy and jealous because they were trying to play it cool and act casual but they had feelings. I feel this isnt talked about enough.