You are out there chasing success, with no one to back your dreams, only to find them waiting at the finish line, taking your hard word for granted.

So you've managed to betabux a roastie? lmao congrats. But she was never there when you needed her most. She was living life to the fullest while you struggled all by yourself. She also gave sex and affection to other men who didn't put nearly the same effort into improving themselves. Because you live in two completely different worlds, you'll never be able to truly relate to one another. You can claim that you don't resent them for it all you want, but I won't believe you.

Nobody else around you had to wait until they were the best versions of themselves. Some normies are unattractive and unpleasant to be around and they've still got laid a few times, even if it's just once every 4 years. So stop trying to rationalise your situation. By only focusing on yourself, you're postponing things, and that's because you're afraid of failure.

I remember back in school, I would justify my loneliness by claiming that teenage relationships don't last anyway and that I'd start taking life seriously after college. Fast forward to university, I couldn't relate to anyone and make friends so I was even lonelier, and of course, still single and filled with regret. I told myself it isn't worth it anyways because girls in their early 20s are vapid and only care about clubbing and riding the cock carrousel. Don't get me wrong, it is true that "your future wife" (lol) is getting passed around while you rot in your room. But in a way, slut-shaming is a cope too. If you are physically able to be social and sexually active, do it, no matter what it takes.

Now, if you're fully positive that it's your looks that are holding you back, that's okay too. Just know that you will never make up for that lost time even if you fix your looks. In my case, it's more of a social anxiety thing. The stigma of being FA keeps on haunting me. There's probably something I could do to fix my situation, but instead, I do the same thing I've always done: watch the days slide by and hope that once I get a stable career, I'll just put myself out there and everything will magically come together. Basically this. You could turn it around, but chances are you never will.

Notice the pattern. All your life, you've failed over and over and over again. So what makes you think next time will be different? That's the definition of insanity! So when a red piller tells you to "just get rich bro" and that men age like wine and women age like milk, don't listen to their delusional nonsense. Grinding in your 20s means that you won't have any time and attention to dedicate to chasing women when they're at their peak looks-wise. That's why all these self-improvement gurus recommend it. They want you to fail so that they can sell you courses. Their advice is just as toxic as the blue pill just-world/bootstrap mentality.