This is a difficult subject for me to broach because I don't have a clear stance on it. Instead, I wanted to see what everyone’s thoughts are on the matter and see if I can reach an impartial understanding of it.

It seems obvious to me that people’s choices on who they have children with are bound to affect future generations. There’s some element of social responsibility attached to it. If we all were to exclusively mate with people who are stupid and narcissistic, we’d probably be hindering the advancement of humanity to a fair degree.

When “nice guys” online complain about women choosing the wrong men, I guess I can see a kernel of truth to it. It’s a fact that people (regardless of their gender) made stupid choices for a variety reasons. For example, if you’ve had a rough childhood, it wouldn’t be surprising if you found yourself drawn to toxic relationships because you think that’s all you deserve. There’s also the possibility that you don’t really know why you like your partner and are blind to his shortcomings, or that you assume you can fix them.

Now, I know some of you might disagree with the premise of women being the gatekeepers to sex. But for the sake of argument, let’s assume that they are and that they carry the responsibility of choosing “the right man”. Ideally, what should a woman’s priorities be when choosing a partner? What exactly is a “good man” anyway? Should he tick all the right boxes or just have the right “vibe” to him? Should these parameters be the same for casual encounters?

Let’s consider a wealthy man who’s a terrible person but can support her and her children. Would he be considered a good or a bad mate? What about the opposite, a guy who’s neither successful nor good-looking but has a good heart and a great sense of humour?

When a woman has sex with “bad boys” during her rebellious years and dismisses good guys as “boring”, is she doing a disservice to society? From an evolutional perspective, shouldn’t intelligence be the most important thing in a partner?

I admittedly don’t know the answers to most of these questions, but I think they are worth considering partly due to its moral implications. When you choose the wrong partner, you’re not only wasting your time but also giving your love and affection (as well as sex and possibly children) to losers who don’t deserve it while you’re our "soulmate"/future husband is out there chasing success, with no one to back his dreams, only to find you waiting at the finish line, taking his hard work for granted.