Staying feminine during adversity

MuchHand9563 · 2023-11-07T11:26:37+00:00

"Losing your cool" is not masculine. Actually remaining calm under pressure is masculine. Think about men who have high stress jobs in the military. They do not lose their cool, they stay calm and execute.

Actually in some ways "losing your cool" is a toxic feminine trait. Women who fly off the handle in hysteria over every issue. Men who are overly emotional and "lose their cool" are being feminine.

Not sure I have solid advice here, I just wanted to put that out there.

SecretOther289 · 2023-11-07T13:11:25+00:00

Becoming hysterical and losing your cool isn't masculine. You're reverting to toxic behavior that is not healthy for a relationship.

I'm married to a masculine man. Ive seen him in tough situations. He's even more calm than normal. He does become cold and ruthless, but in a very calm and scary way.

ltfrg · 2023-11-07T10:27:20+00:00

I'm currently going through a similar period

I enjoy self-care and I try to make time for myself so I indulge in hobbies, e.g. I like playing with my hair and makeup to take my mind off things

Also if I'm in a difficult unprecedented situation, I focus on my breathing and I think it's good to talk/connect with another woman, I find they're understanding and help me worry less :)

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2023-11-07T14:24:31+00:00

Regular meditation can really help with staying in control of your thoughts and emotions, if that is the issue. Practicing gratitude for things that don’t necessarily go your way or work out can help you accept the situation and perhaps reveal a lesson that is ultimately more valuable than getting the thing you thought you wanted would have been. Try to see the positive/silver lining in everything that happens.

Having a physical outlet for negative emotions can be really helpful too. Try to divert the aggressive masculine energy towards something positive/productive. Also, personally I really enjoy a lot of aggressive masculine music all the time, but especially if I’m under stress or upset it’s nice to crank up the tunes and drown everything else out of my head for a while.

wildwomb_joss · 2023-11-07T12:55:12+00:00

I really love this question! Often we perceive feminine as soft, sensual, gentle… which it is… but it’s also about having fierce boundaries, using your voice, trusting yourself, and feeling grounded in who you are. When it comes to dealing with failure, rejection, and challenges: the feminine would ask you to SURRENDER. The feminine is all about surrendering into the unknown. It’s a ‘go with the flow’ kind of attitude. The feminine also asks that you practice self compassion. The masculine is quite goal oriented and driven but the feminine would re-frame ‘failure’ with compassion and kindness for oneself. Hope this helps!! Joss ❤️

plein_old · 2023-11-07T16:11:21+00:00

Realizing that we are not actually in control can be a form of vulnerability, or feminine awareness, for both men and women... But through faith or meditation or things like that, this awareness can make us better people, make us grateful and appreciative for each day, rather than making us crazy and destructive.

I think nobody encounters tremendous failure & rejection and loss and danger in life and just coasts through it easy, without some kind of faith or meditation or something like that to help them get through it, and even then it's probably not a "coasting" feeling. Actually some movies portray this sort of thing a bit.

beemovienumber1fan · 2023-11-07T17:43:42+00:00

I asked a similar question a while ago. Maybe some of the responses there can be of use to you. :)

ETA: not many responses but the ones I got helped me immensely.

FancyPants882 · 2023-11-07T10:20:26+00:00

I have this problem too and am keen to hear any insights from the community!

endlessbuildup · 2023-11-07T16:13:15+00:00

As women we are nature and as nature we react to everything around us. Men are more unaffected, changing nature through desires and actions. When we are alone, we react to everything in our head. The saving grace is that our reactions also react to each other. So, if I'm upset that something happened, or I feel anxiety, there is also space for me to do little things for myself that show me the bright side of things which contrasts any of my feelings of negativity. And to learn hope & trust in reaction to fear. I may cry about it, I may feel uncertain, and I feel everything I feel, but I keep it inwards so that I can cleanse myself and heal- I feel much messier when I react to outward things (other people, being in public) when I'm not at my best. So I take the time to cleanse my soul and aura alone in my room. 🙂

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Full text: I feel like being feminine comes easily to me when I’m in a good place in life, mentally and physically. Tough times tend to bring out a very masculine side of me where I can lose my cool and be ruthless. I’d like to know how you go about dealing with failure, rejection and the lows in a feminine way.

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UpstairsPass5051 · 2023-11-09T14:09:51+00:00

I’m a guy but it’s a natural response if there are no men to rely on. I think women need to just tell men to act more like men, if we even still know what that means..

Part of me wants to say men have failed women, but women for decades have also said they don’t need men and want this responsibility. There’s a lot at play but I think that’s part of why men are giving up. I think basically trust between the sexes has disintegrated and women just lost respect for men as they stopped being men. There’s just so much cynicism. The solution is focusing on strong families and communities to restore trust

Title	Staying feminine during adversity
Author	Global_Moose_1991
Upvotes	33
Comments	15
Date	November 7, 2023 8:29 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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