How do you know your SMV/RMV and All the guys are taken

SunshineSundress · 2023-11-27T07:45:21+00:00

We all know that past performance isn’t indicative of future results

I disagree. I think examining our past performance and history is a pretty decent way to gauge our SMV/RMV and to figure out if we have behaviors or attributes or choices that are holding us back.

For example, if every man you date doesn’t want commitment from you, perhaps your RMV is lacking. If you fix your RMV and see your results improve, that was the issue. If you fix your RMV and still have no luck, perhaps your SMV needs improvement in order to match up with the men you want. If you have improved both and STILL no luck, maybe your vetting is off and you are picking men who are not right for you or who do not want commitment at all.

What helped me most when I was at my romantic rock bottom was to really take a look at my past relationships/failure to launches and see what I did wrong or needed to improve on. When every relationship I had with men was a hot mess, the only common denominator was me!

vintagegirlgame · 2023-11-27T07:49:24+00:00

SMV: Look at the men who are attracted to you and hit on you.

RMV: Look at the men who have committed to you in the past. Ask yourself have you made any important personality improvements since then?

Settling: Ask yourself do you respect him? Are you happy with him? Is he compatible with your long term desires around the type of family and lifestyle you want? Is there something important that you are giving up being with him?

Older dating market: Don’t shy away from dating single dads!

Deliaallmylife · 2023-11-27T12:30:36+00:00

You won't succeed by importing 40 something men to NYC. People who want to live there either do live there or moved there when they were younger. Instead of thinking you can get men to go to you, why wouldn't you go to them?

Forget about levels and market value. You need to know what your personal goals and values are and find compatible men. Go out with anyone you match with a time or two and see who is asking you out for more dates. Those are the men you can get. Within that subset of men, find the one most compatible.

TheBunk_TB · 2023-11-27T13:04:00+00:00

Develop strong bonds with healthy groups of people with similar interests, beliefs

LiteratureOk7716 · 2023-11-27T07:18:29+00:00

how do you deal with everyone being married already at your age (35+/40+)

Go for a tertiary degree and focus on gentleman in STEM.

AutoModerator · 2023-11-27T05:14:27+00:00

Title: How do you know your SMV/RMV and All the guys are taken

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Full text: We all know that past performance isn't indicative of future results and that you can't time the market. However there are guidelines.

One thing I've noticed is that as a 40F in VHCOL, every man is married. This is obvious.

Here's the deal. How do you know what your RMV or SMV are and when you're settling?

Also should I try to import guys from Pennsylvania? For example a long distance strategy.

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Title	How do you know your SMV/RMV and All the guys are taken
Author	SquirrelofLIL
Upvotes	8
Comments	16
Date	November 27, 2023 5:14 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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