Wife and I have decided to separate. I won’t go into reasons but we just can’t continue. I burnt out post pandemic and had a well paid job till Aug 2022. But have been working part time since then at about 1/3rd earnings (compared to full time). I have an anxiety and depression diagnosis and have been doing therapy regularly. But not taking meds.

When we were dating wife was out of status (in Canada) and once she got back I supported her financially. Helped her break into tech industry. For almost 1.5 years I was coaching her. Paid for her bootcamp (that she repaid gradually over 2 years). She didn’t pay any bills till she was working.

We bought the houses together but paid 90% of the costs. She just covered the closing costs part. Now she wants 50-50 split (I guess that’s the law). She earns 155k vs my earnings this year is ~50k.

She is no longer the person I married. She even changed her pronouns to they/them and no longer identifies as a woman but gender neutral. She even got diagnosed with adhd recently and blames all behaviour issues to that now.

I haven’t talked to a lawyer yet but I am pretty sure she’s talking to a common friend of a friend who used to practice divorce law.

Any guidance from folks here would be appreciated.