My 30M boyfriend is always upset about smth when we travel

cbunni666 · 2023-12-26T23:52:59+00:00

Might need a bit more info. Are you two going places like the beach or just anywhere?

Leonhart93 · 2023-12-27T00:02:53+00:00

He might be a homebody, and is going on trips only to be with you because you want to travel. I am as well, but it's a thing that's easier to develop if he allows himself to enjoy it.

IWTTYAS · 2023-12-27T00:27:12+00:00

He sounds like he's pouting. Does he not like to travel? Are you always picking where to go? Are you always going to the beach and he doesn't want to go to another beach? I'm getting the "we go every weekend to the beach" kinda vibes. Maybe he doesn't like other men checking you out. Is he a camping guy? Hunting guy?

SunRose42 · 2023-12-27T06:25:56+00:00

Well, depends on what’s causing the mood swings.

For some men, travel itself will do that. Not much you can do to help that! But for others, it’s the lack of routine, the stress of trip planning, the stress of not knowing your schedule on the trip, or the stress of not having enough down time. All of those can be solved through better trip planning.

Source: my dad and my brother are the same way!

earthscribe · 2023-12-27T00:39:34+00:00

Jealous about what?

CountTheBees · 2023-12-27T04:55:39+00:00

More information needed. How old are you? How frequent are his mood swings? Do they occur at home? What was your reaction to the mood swing and how did he respond?

youllknowwhenitstime · 2023-12-27T03:04:12+00:00

Do you think his jealousy stems from knowledge of you previously cheating?

Fantastic-Ear-7164 · 2023-12-27T01:19:04+00:00

I feel like every person likes to be cheered up differently, especially if the negative feeling stems from an insecurity. Some insecurities have been deeply ingrained in us since childhood, or by a deeply hurtful relationship with a partner, etc. they can be really hard to face and identify and often when someone is in an upset state, especially with someone they care about and want to impress, it can be easy to add shame guilt and self-blame to an already difficult to handle emotional process. Not to mention men in general are taught to not have emotions, which is unrealistic, therefore they spend their whole lives trying to push down and deny the existence of these said emotions, causing more shame, guilt, and frustration when it doesn’t work. Find out what your boyfriends safe space is, whether it’s cuddles, a certain show, a favorite food, a great playlist, whatever seems to always cheer him up or put him in a relaxed open state. Try to bring that to him NOT at the height of his emotions. Processing and managing big feelings can be overwhelming and sometimes it feels like you’re on the verge of bursting, even positive input can feel like the tiny gust of wind that blows over your already fragile balancing act. Try to manage your own expectations and try to not take his feelings personal. If his feelings aren’t negatively affecting those around him he’s going to be much more likely to feel relaxed and less guilty. He might even think nobody noticed and nothings actually that bad and calm down from that alone. But don’t ignore his emotional state so much that he feels unseen or invisible, then he will just feel uncared for. Another thing that’s hard is seeing other people who are eyeing your woman!! Especially if you’re already not feeling well emotionally, he might not have the energy to assert himself or feel insecure from having an anxious mindset. You don’t have to be rude or anything but just a simple added romantic intimate touch whenever you notice another man’s eyes will help him feel more at ease. A gentle stroke of his arm while leaning in subtly, glancing at the other man kindly but without interest and then revert your attention to your boyfriend. Show him how happy and loved he makes you feel. You don’t need anyone else’s attention and you don’t want it. He’s the only man in the world to you when you’re with him. It makes a man feel masculine, wanted, and successful to have his woman curve other men in favor of him, especially in a feminine intimate way. It shows him “see you’re doing great look how much she loves and wants you” and the mentality of believing you’re doing great is sometimes all a man needs to actually do great. Sometimes our biggest bullies are our own insecure thoughts. It just takes a little show of reassurance to let us know we are wanted and cared for.

ArdentBandicoot · 2023-12-27T14:45:16+00:00

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Title: My 30M boyfriend is always upset about smth when we travel

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Full text: So my 30F bf has this frequent moodswings when we travel. I hate it. It really bumms me out to see him like that. I tried cheering him up but all he gets in these sentive moods, sometimes getting gealous or annoyed by other people checking me out and stuff like that.

Is there a way to improve his mood or is this a lost cause?

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AncilliaryAnteater · 2023-12-27T10:32:43+00:00

While he could behave seemingly much more maturely and securely - these sound like protest behaviours. Behaviours we can all exhibit when we feel threatened or that our emotional needs are not met - it is on him to express these more clearly and maturely to you so you can deal with them. Nothing precludes you however from broaching this subject with him with empathy - it takes two to tango, so to speak - this is coming from someone who's behaved like your boyfriend so take it as sound advice lol. Good luck

basedtrader_dev · 2023-12-30T08:44:48+00:00

Tell him to man up and stop acting like a woman

gtasub91 · 2024-01-09T23:59:26+00:00

He's probably stressed about the travelling for some reason. You need to ask him, there's not nearly enough info for someone to help you here.

Title	My 30M boyfriend is always upset about smth when we travel
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Date	December 26, 2023 11:45 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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